WWYD -- sister's PhD graduation could not be timed worse

[Anonymous]

I would have your DH price the flight from DC and from
cA and pay his company the difference (or only submit the difference). Have him meet with someone to discuss if you don’t know t would be approved. That is just stupid.

So you all go to the ceremony, then you and DC fly home and DH flies to his destination.

But honestly I wouldn’t go. I didn’t go to my own graduation from Harvard Law. If she isn’t speaking you don’t need to be there.

[Anonymous]

This is you, OP, right?

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/663672.page

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is you, OP, right?

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/663672.page

umm, no, but congrats -- you're obsessed with posters on an anonymous forum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wish DH could go straight to his work trip, but work won't pay for a flight from anywhere but here. It's stupid.

Unfortunately grandparents aren't local.

Do you think it would be unnecessarily stressful to take a toddler on a cross-country trip that's that short?

You woud be paying for the flight home from CA anyway, just pay for him to fly wherever he was flying and work can pick up his trip home from the work site.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't go, but my siblings are also normal and would not expect me to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm graduating this spring with my PhD as well and don't expect anyone but my DH and kid to be there. For my MA, my DH, my parents, and ILs came (and frankly I thought that was a bit much). College was just my parents. My brothers have never attended my graduations (except HS).

You think you're sister will be offended, but have you asked her? Have you explained that that particular weekend is just not going to work to fly cross country, unfortunately? It's not like you would not go because you want to spite her.

I'm 99.9% sure. Reason being, she explicitly told DH and me she expected us to fly to England for her MPhil graduation, which we did because my parents footed the bill (and we didn't have a kid then). I'll ask her, but I would be shocked if she didn't expect all three of us there.

She is entitle to feeling offended and upset. Those are her feelings. You are not responsible for her feelings. It doesn't sound like logically it makes sense for you to attend. I get it's milestone but unfortunately, not everyone in every family can attend milestone events.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is you, OP, right?

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/663672.page

umm, no, but congrats -- you're obsessed with posters on an anonymous forum.

It certainly sounds similar, I can’t blame the PP for thinking you are the same person. No need to be so snippy.

[Anonymous]

I have a PhD. I would not expect a family member on the other side of the country with a toddler to attend. Send her a nice gift.

[Anonymous]

Has she defended her thesis? If she has not, I don’t know how she’d walk by May.
If she has, how is she going to hang around another year? Does she have funding?

My knowledge of this process is based on my husband’s engineering PhD. His siblings and parents went to his defense, not the graduation ceremony. A defense is not a toddler friendly event.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is you, OP, right?

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/663672.page

umm, no, but congrats -- you're obsessed with posters on an anonymous forum.

How am I obsessed? I just remembered that it sounded very similar and the details matched to the other thread. If it’s not the same OP (quite a coincidence given all the detail matches) I’m sorry, but it gives some deeper perspective.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is you, OP, right?

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/663672.page

umm, no, but congrats -- you're obsessed with posters on an anonymous forum.

It certainly sounds similar, I can’t blame the PP for thinking you are the same person. No need to be so snippy.

I'm mostly just really surprised that someone would have that deep knowledge of posters on a forum. That's an old thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Has she defended her thesis? If she has not, I don’t know how she’d walk by May.
If she has, how is she going to hang around another year? Does she have funding?

My knowledge of this process is based on my husband’s engineering PhD. His siblings and parents went to his defense, not the graduation ceremony. A defense is not a toddler friendly event.

She's completed her thesis, but wouldn't file until she has a job. She has funding for next year -- some university fellowship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is you, OP, right?

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/663672.page

umm, no, but congrats -- you're obsessed with posters on an anonymous forum.

It certainly sounds similar, I can’t blame the PP for thinking you are the same person. No need to be so snippy.

I'm mostly just really surprised that someone would have that deep knowledge of posters on a forum. That's an old thread.

It is only been a year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is you, OP, right?

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/663672.page

umm, no, but congrats -- you're obsessed with posters on an anonymous forum.

It certainly sounds similar, I can’t blame the PP for thinking you are the same person. No need to be so snippy.

I'm mostly just really surprised that someone would have that deep knowledge of posters on a forum. That's an old thread.

I am not that poster but I don't find it surprising. I have a photographic memory and can often recall similar posts from a few years back. It just connects dots. I am usually right too. I just visit this and a couple other forums when I am bored, not my life

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is you, OP, right?

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/663672.page

umm, no, but congrats -- you're obsessed with posters on an anonymous forum.

Nice try OP, but that post is totally you!