my mom is full time caretaker of stepbrother's kids

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Anonymous wrote:I understand you are feeling upset and abandoned, but your mother is in a much worse situation. It sounds like the stress is getting to her but she can’t do anything about it because those poor kids need her. I don’t have any advice other than take the long view and try to feel some compassion for your mom.

I'm a PP. Those "poor kids" have two parents. Grandma is choosing to look after them. She is creating her own situation, and she can certainly do something about it, but chooses not to. Her fault/ her problem.

THIS x one million. TO all the stupid posters being bitchy to the OP, reread the OP. This person's mom is choosing to put herself in that situation. Those kids have two parents. It seems like the step grandma has chosen herself to be put in that situation. The kids can always go to daycare or have a nanny. It's ridiculous that OP can't even get an hour of her mom's time because those kids come first constantly.

Not just this week... and you haven't kept it to yourself either.


Those kids have two parents who have abdicated responsibility for parenting their children. Sure, OP's mom could look at the situation, say "not my problem," and go about having her fun while the kids suffer for their parents' inabilities to parent.

Kind of like she could have done instead of adopting OP. That's not who OP's mother is, though.

The parents are both still involved. The mom sees the kids a few days/nights a week and keeps them. The dad is there and takes care of them, but i think he is abusing my mom's time -- he just ups and leaves whenever and my mom does everything for them, but she seems to enjoy the grandma role.

I'm the OP by the way - and your last line is pretty harsh and unnecessary. At this point I feel like I have no family at all. No one else has ever been told to go stay in a hotel in my family. If this sounds like whining to you, then please don't reply to my post. I've been in a lot of pain this week due to this situation.

Ignore this loon, OP. Some people enjoy kicking others when they're down. That poster needs to get a fucking life.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I understand you are feeling upset and abandoned, but your mother is in a much worse situation. It sounds like the stress is getting to her but she can’t do anything about it because those poor kids need her. I don’t have any advice other than take the long view and try to feel some compassion for your mom.

I'm a PP. Those "poor kids" have two parents. Grandma is choosing to look after them. She is creating her own situation, and she can certainly do something about it, but chooses not to. Her fault/ her problem.

THIS x one million. TO all the stupid posters being bitchy to the OP, reread the OP. This person's mom is choosing to put herself in that situation. Those kids have two parents. It seems like the step grandma has chosen herself to be put in that situation. The kids can always go to daycare or have a nanny. It's ridiculous that OP can't even get an hour of her mom's time because those kids come first constantly.

You fell for OP's spiel, PP.

She posted about this some time ago and managed to annoy everyone at that time, too. She just won't ever see anybody else's side of the argument except her own.

Last time she was complained how stressed she was moving by herself without help, and put that on her family as well. Being so young and helpless, you know

I'm the OP and I have no bloody clue what you're referring to. I never posted this before.

There was a post some months ago about someone coming back from abroad, very stressed at having to pack up boxes, and very upset at being refused the family home to stay in. The scenario was the same: family member divorcing his wife and him and his kids being cared for by your mother.

Same language.

You're busted, OP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I understand you are feeling upset and abandoned, but your mother is in a much worse situation. It sounds like the stress is getting to her but she can’t do anything about it because those poor kids need her. I don’t have any advice other than take the long view and try to feel some compassion for your mom.

I'm a PP. Those "poor kids" have two parents. Grandma is choosing to look after them. She is creating her own situation, and she can certainly do something about it, but chooses not to. Her fault/ her problem.

THIS x one million. TO all the stupid posters being bitchy to the OP, reread the OP. This person's mom is choosing to put herself in that situation. Those kids have two parents. It seems like the step grandma has chosen herself to be put in that situation. The kids can always go to daycare or have a nanny. It's ridiculous that OP can't even get an hour of her mom's time because those kids come first constantly.

Those kids have two parents who have abdicated responsibility for parenting their children. Sure, OP's mom could look at the situation, say "not my problem," and go about having her fun while the kids suffer for their parents' inabilities to parent.

Kind of like she could have done instead of adopting OP. That's not who OP's mother is, though.

The parents are both still involved. The mom sees the kids a few days/nights a week and keeps them. The dad is there and takes care of them, but i think he is abusing my mom's time -- he just ups and leaves whenever and my mom does everything for them, but she seems to enjoy the grandma role.

I'm the OP by the way - and your last line is pretty harsh and unnecessary. At this point I feel like I have no family at all. No one else has ever been told to go stay in a hotel in my family. If this sounds like whining to you, then please don't reply to my post. I've been in a lot of pain this week due to this situation.

If the kids are with their mom a few days/nights a week, how is it that you're going to visit for five days and won't be able to get even an hour with your mom?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I understand you are feeling upset and abandoned, but your mother is in a much worse situation. It sounds like the stress is getting to her but she can’t do anything about it because those poor kids need her. I don’t have any advice other than take the long view and try to feel some compassion for your mom.

I'm a PP. Those "poor kids" have two parents. Grandma is choosing to look after them. She is creating her own situation, and she can certainly do something about it, but chooses not to. Her fault/ her problem.

THIS x one million. TO all the stupid posters being bitchy to the OP, reread the OP. This person's mom is choosing to put herself in that situation. Those kids have two parents. It seems like the step grandma has chosen herself to be put in that situation. The kids can always go to daycare or have a nanny. It's ridiculous that OP can't even get an hour of her mom's time because those kids come first constantly.

Not just this week... and you haven't kept it to yourself either.


Those kids have two parents who have abdicated responsibility for parenting their children. Sure, OP's mom could look at the situation, say "not my problem," and go about having her fun while the kids suffer for their parents' inabilities to parent.

Kind of like she could have done instead of adopting OP. That's not who OP's mother is, though.

The parents are both still involved. The mom sees the kids a few days/nights a week and keeps them. The dad is there and takes care of them, but i think he is abusing my mom's time -- he just ups and leaves whenever and my mom does everything for them, but she seems to enjoy the grandma role.

I'm the OP by the way - and your last line is pretty harsh and unnecessary. At this point I feel like I have no family at all. No one else has ever been told to go stay in a hotel in my family. If this sounds like whining to you, then please don't reply to my post. I've been in a lot of pain this week due to this situation.

Ignore this loon, OP. Some people enjoy kicking others when they're down. That poster needs to get a fucking life.

Hi OP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I understand you are feeling upset and abandoned, but your mother is in a much worse situation. It sounds like the stress is getting to her but she can’t do anything about it because those poor kids need her. I don’t have any advice other than take the long view and try to feel some compassion for your mom.

I'm a PP. Those "poor kids" have two parents. Grandma is choosing to look after them. She is creating her own situation, and she can certainly do something about it, but chooses not to. Her fault/ her problem.

THIS x one million. TO all the stupid posters being bitchy to the OP, reread the OP. This person's mom is choosing to put herself in that situation. Those kids have two parents. It seems like the step grandma has chosen herself to be put in that situation. The kids can always go to daycare or have a nanny. It's ridiculous that OP can't even get an hour of her mom's time because those kids come first constantly.

Those kids have two parents who have abdicated responsibility for parenting their children. Sure, OP's mom could look at the situation, say "not my problem," and go about having her fun while the kids suffer for their parents' inabilities to parent.

Kind of like she could have done instead of adopting OP. That's not who OP's mother is, though.

The parents are both still involved. The mom sees the kids a few days/nights a week and keeps them. The dad is there and takes care of them, but i think he is abusing my mom's time -- he just ups and leaves whenever and my mom does everything for them, but she seems to enjoy the grandma role.

I'm the OP by the way - and your last line is pretty harsh and unnecessary. At this point I feel like I have no family at all. No one else has ever been told to go stay in a hotel in my family. If this sounds like whining to you, then please don't reply to my post. I've been in a lot of pain this week due to this situation.

If the kids are with their mom a few days/nights a week, how is it that you're going to visit for five days and won't be able to get even an hour with your mom?

Oldest was out of school right now for break and apparently they already visited their mother. I'm leaving Sunday.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I understand you are feeling upset and abandoned, but your mother is in a much worse situation. It sounds like the stress is getting to her but she can’t do anything about it because those poor kids need her. I don’t have any advice other than take the long view and try to feel some compassion for your mom.

I'm a PP. Those "poor kids" have two parents. Grandma is choosing to look after them. She is creating her own situation, and she can certainly do something about it, but chooses not to. Her fault/ her problem.

THIS x one million. TO all the stupid posters being bitchy to the OP, reread the OP. This person's mom is choosing to put herself in that situation. Those kids have two parents. It seems like the step grandma has chosen herself to be put in that situation. The kids can always go to daycare or have a nanny. It's ridiculous that OP can't even get an hour of her mom's time because those kids come first constantly.

You fell for OP's spiel, PP.

She posted about this some time ago and managed to annoy everyone at that time, too. She just won't ever see anybody else's side of the argument except her own.

Last time she was complained how stressed she was moving by herself without help, and put that on her family as well. Being so young and helpless, you know

I'm the OP and I have no bloody clue what you're referring to. I never posted this before.

There was a post some months ago about someone coming back from abroad, very stressed at having to pack up boxes, and very upset at being refused the family home to stay in. The scenario was the same: family member divorcing his wife and him and his kids being cared for by your mother.

Same language.

You're busted, OP.

Okay, whatever. I never posted this before. But go right ahead repeating yourself. It won't change my answer or what I know to be true.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I understand you are feeling upset and abandoned, but your mother is in a much worse situation. It sounds like the stress is getting to her but she can’t do anything about it because those poor kids need her. I don’t have any advice other than take the long view and try to feel some compassion for your mom.

I'm a PP. Those "poor kids" have two parents. Grandma is choosing to look after them. She is creating her own situation, and she can certainly do something about it, but chooses not to. Her fault/ her problem.

THIS x one million. TO all the stupid posters being bitchy to the OP, reread the OP. This person's mom is choosing to put herself in that situation. Those kids have two parents. It seems like the step grandma has chosen herself to be put in that situation. The kids can always go to daycare or have a nanny. It's ridiculous that OP can't even get an hour of her mom's time because those kids come first constantly.

Those kids have two parents who have abdicated responsibility for parenting their children. Sure, OP's mom could look at the situation, say "not my problem," and go about having her fun while the kids suffer for their parents' inabilities to parent.

Kind of like she could have done instead of adopting OP. That's not who OP's mother is, though.

The parents are both still involved. The mom sees the kids a few days/nights a week and keeps them. The dad is there and takes care of them, but i think he is abusing my mom's time -- he just ups and leaves whenever and my mom does everything for them, but she seems to enjoy the grandma role.

I'm the OP by the way - and your last line is pretty harsh and unnecessary. At this point I feel like I have no family at all. No one else has ever been told to go stay in a hotel in my family. If this sounds like whining to you, then please don't reply to my post. I've been in a lot of pain this week due to this situation.

If the kids are with their mom a few days/nights a week, how is it that you're going to visit for five days and won't be able to get even an hour with your mom?

Oldest was out of school right now for break and apparently they already visited their mother. I'm leaving Sunday.

What kind of school is on break in the middle of October?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I understand you are feeling upset and abandoned, but your mother is in a much worse situation. It sounds like the stress is getting to her but she can’t do anything about it because those poor kids need her. I don’t have any advice other than take the long view and try to feel some compassion for your mom.

I'm a PP. Those "poor kids" have two parents. Grandma is choosing to look after them. She is creating her own situation, and she can certainly do something about it, but chooses not to. Her fault/ her problem.

THIS x one million. TO all the stupid posters being bitchy to the OP, reread the OP. This person's mom is choosing to put herself in that situation. Those kids have two parents. It seems like the step grandma has chosen herself to be put in that situation. The kids can always go to daycare or have a nanny. It's ridiculous that OP can't even get an hour of her mom's time because those kids come first constantly.

You fell for OP's spiel, PP.

She posted about this some time ago and managed to annoy everyone at that time, too. She just won't ever see anybody else's side of the argument except her own.

Last time she was complained how stressed she was moving by herself without help, and put that on her family as well. Being so young and helpless, you know

I'm the OP and I have no bloody clue what you're referring to. I never posted this before.

There was a post some months ago about someone coming back from abroad, very stressed at having to pack up boxes, and very upset at being refused the family home to stay in. The scenario was the same: family member divorcing his wife and him and his kids being cared for by your mother.

Same language.

You're busted, OP.

Okay, whatever. I never posted this before. But go right ahead repeating yourself. It won't change my answer or what I know to be true.

Also, that definitely wasn't me because I just learned that he is getting divorced when I came back a few days ago.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I understand you are feeling upset and abandoned, but your mother is in a much worse situation. It sounds like the stress is getting to her but she can’t do anything about it because those poor kids need her. I don’t have any advice other than take the long view and try to feel some compassion for your mom.

I'm a PP. Those "poor kids" have two parents. Grandma is choosing to look after them. She is creating her own situation, and she can certainly do something about it, but chooses not to. Her fault/ her problem.

THIS x one million. TO all the stupid posters being bitchy to the OP, reread the OP. This person's mom is choosing to put herself in that situation. Those kids have two parents. It seems like the step grandma has chosen herself to be put in that situation. The kids can always go to daycare or have a nanny. It's ridiculous that OP can't even get an hour of her mom's time because those kids come first constantly.

Those kids have two parents who have abdicated responsibility for parenting their children. Sure, OP's mom could look at the situation, say "not my problem," and go about having her fun while the kids suffer for their parents' inabilities to parent.

Kind of like she could have done instead of adopting OP. That's not who OP's mother is, though.

The parents are both still involved. The mom sees the kids a few days/nights a week and keeps them. The dad is there and takes care of them, but i think he is abusing my mom's time -- he just ups and leaves whenever and my mom does everything for them, but she seems to enjoy the grandma role.

I'm the OP by the way - and your last line is pretty harsh and unnecessary. At this point I feel like I have no family at all. No one else has ever been told to go stay in a hotel in my family. If this sounds like whining to you, then please don't reply to my post. I've been in a lot of pain this week due to this situation.

If the kids are with their mom a few days/nights a week, how is it that you're going to visit for five days and won't be able to get even an hour with your mom?

Doesn’t really add up, does it? OP probably has a history of being a bit dramatic,particularly when combined with the stepbrother... thus the hotel request.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I understand you are feeling upset and abandoned, but your mother is in a much worse situation. It sounds like the stress is getting to her but she can’t do anything about it because those poor kids need her. I don’t have any advice other than take the long view and try to feel some compassion for your mom.

I'm a PP. Those "poor kids" have two parents. Grandma is choosing to look after them. She is creating her own situation, and she can certainly do something about it, but chooses not to. Her fault/ her problem.

THIS x one million. TO all the stupid posters being bitchy to the OP, reread the OP. This person's mom is choosing to put herself in that situation. Those kids have two parents. It seems like the step grandma has chosen herself to be put in that situation. The kids can always go to daycare or have a nanny. It's ridiculous that OP can't even get an hour of her mom's time because those kids come first constantly.

You fell for OP's spiel, PP.

She posted about this some time ago and managed to annoy everyone at that time, too. She just won't ever see anybody else's side of the argument except her own.

Last time she was complained how stressed she was moving by herself without help, and put that on her family as well. Being so young and helpless, you know

I'm the OP and I have no bloody clue what you're referring to. I never posted this before.

There was a post some months ago about someone coming back from abroad, very stressed at having to pack up boxes, and very upset at being refused the family home to stay in. The scenario was the same: family member divorcing his wife and him and his kids being cared for by your mother.

Same language.

You're busted, OP.

Curious to see this thread is pp can find it, I didn't have any luck.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I understand you are feeling upset and abandoned, but your mother is in a much worse situation. It sounds like the stress is getting to her but she can’t do anything about it because those poor kids need her. I don’t have any advice other than take the long view and try to feel some compassion for your mom.

I'm a PP. Those "poor kids" have two parents. Grandma is choosing to look after them. She is creating her own situation, and she can certainly do something about it, but chooses not to. Her fault/ her problem.

THIS x one million. TO all the stupid posters being bitchy to the OP, reread the OP. This person's mom is choosing to put herself in that situation. Those kids have two parents. It seems like the step grandma has chosen herself to be put in that situation. The kids can always go to daycare or have a nanny. It's ridiculous that OP can't even get an hour of her mom's time because those kids come first constantly.

You fell for OP's spiel, PP.

She posted about this some time ago and managed to annoy everyone at that time, too. She just won't ever see anybody else's side of the argument except her own.

Last time she was complained how stressed she was moving by herself without help, and put that on her family as well. Being so young and helpless, you know

I'm the OP and I have no bloody clue what you're referring to. I never posted this before.

There was a post some months ago about someone coming back from abroad, very stressed at having to pack up boxes, and very upset at being refused the family home to stay in. The scenario was the same: family member divorcing his wife and him and his kids being cared for by your mother.

Same language.

You're busted, OP.

Okay, whatever. I never posted this before. But go right ahead repeating yourself. It won't change my answer or what I know to be true.

Also, that definitely wasn't me because I just learned that he is getting divorced when I came back a few days ago.

How disconnected are you with your family that they've been getting divorced and he's been living with your mother for months and you've only just found out about all of it?

[Anonymous]

I know you all would love to catch me in some elaborate trip-up, but the stepbrother was not in communication with anyone for years. I've been living abroad and my mom doesn't communicate with me much. The stepbrother didn't talk to anyone for years. I just hoped for some support because I've been going through a lot emotionally this week and will be leaving Sunday, feeling like I had no time with my mom and feeling like I'm not wanted around. I didn't come here to be bashed. I never posted anything like this before, so sorry to disappoint you all.

And as for the poster that asked what kind of school has break in mid October, it was just a Fall Break so they were off for most of the week.

[Anonymous]

Your mom sounds stressed and an overburdened caregiver doesn't have the time to deal with you pouring about being able to stay there for a visit. She figures you're mature and have it together. Your step brother, otoh, is far from that and she's dealing with that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I understand you are feeling upset and abandoned, but your mother is in a much worse situation. It sounds like the stress is getting to her but she can’t do anything about it because those poor kids need her. I don’t have any advice other than take the long view and try to feel some compassion for your mom.

I'm a PP. Those "poor kids" have two parents. Grandma is choosing to look after them. She is creating her own situation, and she can certainly do something about it, but chooses not to. Her fault/ her problem.

THIS x one million. TO all the stupid posters being bitchy to the OP, reread the OP. This person's mom is choosing to put herself in that situation. Those kids have two parents. It seems like the step grandma has chosen herself to be put in that situation. The kids can always go to daycare or have a nanny. It's ridiculous that OP can't even get an hour of her mom's time because those kids come first constantly.

You fell for OP's spiel, PP.

She posted about this some time ago and managed to annoy everyone at that time, too. She just won't ever see anybody else's side of the argument except her own.

Last time she was complained how stressed she was moving by herself without help, and put that on her family as well. Being so young and helpless, you know

I'm the OP and I have no bloody clue what you're referring to. I never posted this before.

There was a post some months ago about someone coming back from abroad, very stressed at having to pack up boxes, and very upset at being refused the family home to stay in. The scenario was the same: family member divorcing his wife and him and his kids being cared for by your mother.

Same language.

You're busted, OP.

Curious to see this thread is pp can find it, I didn't have any luck.

Probably this one http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/667913.page

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I understand you are feeling upset and abandoned, but your mother is in a much worse situation. It sounds like the stress is getting to her but she can’t do anything about it because those poor kids need her. I don’t have any advice other than take the long view and try to feel some compassion for your mom.

I'm a PP. Those "poor kids" have two parents. Grandma is choosing to look after them. She is creating her own situation, and she can certainly do something about it, but chooses not to. Her fault/ her problem.

THIS x one million. TO all the stupid posters being bitchy to the OP, reread the OP. This person's mom is choosing to put herself in that situation. Those kids have two parents. It seems like the step grandma has chosen herself to be put in that situation. The kids can always go to daycare or have a nanny. It's ridiculous that OP can't even get an hour of her mom's time because those kids come first constantly.

You fell for OP's spiel, PP.

She posted about this some time ago and managed to annoy everyone at that time, too. She just won't ever see anybody else's side of the argument except her own.

Last time she was complained how stressed she was moving by herself without help, and put that on her family as well. Being so young and helpless, you know

I'm the OP and I have no bloody clue what you're referring to. I never posted this before.

There was a post some months ago about someone coming back from abroad, very stressed at having to pack up boxes, and very upset at being refused the family home to stay in. The scenario was the same: family member divorcing his wife and him and his kids being cared for by your mother.

Same language.

You're busted, OP.

Curious to see this thread is pp can find it, I didn't have any luck.

PP you quoted. I couldn't find it, probably because it had a very innocuous title, or perhaps because it went south and Jeff deleted it.

But I remember it distinctly, because it wasn't a run-of-the-mill post. The OP was just as weird and stubborn as she is being now, always bringing things back to herself, never acknowledging any other claim on her mother's time, and always bringing up how unfairly she's being treated and how "she doesn't get it".

Actually I believe OP is a troll, and writes these fantasies every now and then. She must be mentally deranged.