my mom is full time caretaker of stepbrother's kids

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Anonymous wrote:I understand you are feeling upset and abandoned, but your mother is in a much worse situation. It sounds like the stress is getting to her but she can’t do anything about it because those poor kids need her. I don’t have any advice other than take the long view and try to feel some compassion for your mom.

I'm a PP. Those "poor kids" have two parents. Grandma is choosing to look after them. She is creating her own situation, and she can certainly do something about it, but chooses not to. Her fault/ her problem.

THIS x one million. TO all the stupid posters being bitchy to the OP, reread the OP. This person's mom is choosing to put herself in that situation. Those kids have two parents. It seems like the step grandma has chosen herself to be put in that situation. The kids can always go to daycare or have a nanny. It's ridiculous that OP can't even get an hour of her mom's time because those kids come first constantly.

You fell for OP's spiel, PP.

She posted about this some time ago and managed to annoy everyone at that time, too. She just won't ever see anybody else's side of the argument except her own.

Last time she was complained how stressed she was moving by herself without help, and put that on her family as well. Being so young and helpless, you know

I'm the OP and I have no bloody clue what you're referring to. I never posted this before.

There was a post some months ago about someone coming back from abroad, very stressed at having to pack up boxes, and very upset at being refused the family home to stay in. The scenario was the same: family member divorcing his wife and him and his kids being cared for by your mother.

Same language.

You're busted, OP.

Curious to see this thread is pp can find it, I didn't have any luck.

Probably this one http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/667913.page

Bravo! You found it!

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Anonymous wrote:Your mom sounds stressed and an overburdened caregiver doesn't have the time to deal with you pouring about being able to stay there for a visit. She figures you're mature and have it together. Your step brother, otoh, is far from that and she's dealing with that.

He's older than me and has a well paid job, etc. I think he is favored. To be honest, I feel badly about myself and I do think I'm not wanted around by her. When I do go to the house, I have tried to be helpful with the kids, but since they don't even know me, there isn't a whole lot I can do. (I haven't been around them because stepbrother and his wife refused to see the family for years). When I go back to the hotel alone at night it just gives me a lot of time alone to think which isn't always good for me. I feel like I'm not wanted there or loved and I feel treated differently. I truly don't want that to come across sounding like I'm "whining" as some others have told me, but deep down I do feel that the hotel thing is because she dosen't want me there. Saying that she's trying to do me a favor and relieve stress that I would feel otherwise feels like a front, which is almost worse than just saying the truth.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your mom sounds stressed and an overburdened caregiver doesn't have the time to deal with you pouring about being able to stay there for a visit. She figures you're mature and have it together. Your step brother, otoh, is far from that and she's dealing with that.

He's older than me and has a well paid job, etc. I think he is favored. To be honest, I feel badly about myself and I do think I'm not wanted around by her. When I do go to the house, I have tried to be helpful with the kids, but since they don't even know me, there isn't a whole lot I can do. (I haven't been around them because stepbrother and his wife refused to see the family for years). When I go back to the hotel alone at night it just gives me a lot of time alone to think which isn't always good for me. I feel like I'm not wanted there or loved and I feel treated differently. I truly don't want that to come across sounding like I'm "whining" as some others have told me, but deep down I do feel that the hotel thing is because she dosen't want me there. Saying that she's trying to do me a favor and relieve stress that I would feel otherwise feels like a front, which is almost worse than just saying the truth.

You're right, in your little made-up story, your mother does not want you there. That much is crystal clear.

So what are you doing to do about it, now that we've posted the link to you old post?

[Anonymous]

We have successfully routed OP.

Phew. Until next time.