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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I understand you are feeling upset and abandoned, but your mother is in a much worse situation. It sounds like the stress is getting to her but she can’t do anything about it because those poor kids need her. I don’t have any advice other than take the long view and try to feel some compassion for your mom.[/quote]

I'm a PP. Those "poor kids" have two parents. Grandma is choosing to look after them. She is creating her own situation, and she can certainly do something about it, but chooses not to. Her fault/ her problem.[/quote]

THIS x one million. TO all the stupid posters being bitchy to the OP, reread the OP. This person's mom is choosing to put herself in that situation. Those kids have two parents. It seems like the step grandma has chosen herself to be put in that situation. The kids can always go to daycare or have a nanny. It's ridiculous that OP can't even get an hour of her mom's time because those kids come first constantly. [/quote]

Those kids have two parents who have abdicated responsibility for parenting their children. Sure, OP's mom could look at the situation, say "not my problem," and go about having her fun while the kids suffer for their parents' inabilities to parent.

Kind of like she could have done instead of adopting OP. That's not who OP's mother is, though.[/quote]

The parents are both still involved. The mom sees the kids a few days/nights a week and keeps them. The dad is there and takes care of them, but i think he is abusing my mom's time -- he just ups and leaves whenever and my mom does everything for them, but she seems to enjoy the grandma role.

I'm the OP by the way - and your last line is pretty harsh and unnecessary. At this point I feel like I have no family at all. No one else has ever been told to go stay in a hotel in my family. If this sounds like whining to you, then please don't reply to my post. I've been in a lot of pain this week due to this situation. [/quote]

If the kids are with their mom a few days/nights a week, how is it that you're going to visit for five days and won't be able to get even an hour with your mom? [/quote]

Doesn’t really add up, does it? OP probably has a history of being a bit dramatic,particularly when combined with the stepbrother... thus the hotel request.[/quote]

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