He Turned Down Sex..

[Anonymous]

You probably mentioned your high salary and it intimidated him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You probably mentioned your high salary and it intimidated him.

What? I wouldn't do that and I know he makes double my salary.

[Anonymous]

He could be sleeping with someone else, with whom in non-exclusive relationship, and doesn't want to be in sack with two chicas at one time.

[Anonymous]

Some guys will not have sex with women they find unattractive. I know shocking! Women have a hard time with this concept. It is much easier to say he is gay or has some type of physical problems vs he rejected me because he is not attracted to me. If you are a women and can not get a guy to sleep with you....it's not you it's him....right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some guys will not have sex with women they find unattractive. I know shocking! Women have a hard time with this concept. It is much easier to say he is gay or has some type of physical problems vs he rejected me because he is not attracted to me. If you are a women and can not get a guy to sleep with you....it's not you it's him....right?

Uh, no. Lights out. Face down a55 up. Etc.
ugly doesn't stop guys. Just as long as your buddies don't
Know you tapped an ugly or fatty. It's not stopping
Most guys.

And the poster above saying maybe he is tapping someone else
That doesn't stop us either. Why wouldn't we test drive the new model?
If it sucks we go back to the other one. No way you ever drop a peice
Before making sure the replacement is as good or better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Uh, no. Lights out. Face down a55 up. Etc.
ugly doesn't stop guys. Just as long as your buddies don't
Know you tapped an ugly or fatty. It's not stopping
Most guys.

Wrong

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. He asked me out again yesterday after saying he had a good time. Wouldn't he just ghost if he wasn't interested? I get I need to chill but I don't know how I handle going forward. Should I not mention anything and don't make advances until he does?

You are starting to sound desperate. You need to back off and roll with things.

And no, there are reasons why he might not ghost you. You could be plan b, as in he has feelings for someone else but thinks you are okay, so he's dating you as a distraction. If he senses how needy you are, that explains why he's reluctant to sleep with you.

It's also possible that you are an ego booster for him if he recently had a breakup or rejection, but he still might not be that into you.

You need to stop pinning your hopes on this guy. You've had 3 dates. Don't be so invested in him. Have fun and see what happens

[Anonymous]

Man here, I can guess at the reasons, but you need to give the details of what he said when you invited him back. I am a typical man that would say yes in most but not every situation, so here is my guess without further details:

1) He is in a relationship and didn't have an excuse to spend the night
2) He has an STD and wants to have the talk about it
3) He has more conservative views on sex and wants to wait until your relationship is more established. If its this, let him make the move.
4) He had any number of physical issues that night, from bloating, to drank too much and was unsure of his erection, was generally exhausted and didn't want the first night with you to be subpar (men need to perform in bed, we can't just lie there like women can).
5) He isn't that into you. I was single in my early 30s and had no problems finding women to have sex with, it really became not worth it if you weren't into her. No need to be a jerk and break some girls heart or worse, have them start calling your office or confront you out when you weren't pursuing them after that night.

My guess is 1 or 3. Assume 3, let him ask you out and make a move.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man here, I can guess at the reasons, but you need to give the details of what he said when you invited him back. I am a typical man that would say yes in most but not every situation, so here is my guess without further details:

1) He is in a relationship and didn't have an excuse to spend the night
2) He has an STD and wants to have the talk about it
3) He has more conservative views on sex and wants to wait until your relationship is more established. If its this, let him make the move.
4) He had any number of physical issues that night, from bloating, to drank too much and was unsure of his erection, was generally exhausted and didn't want the first night with you to be subpar (men need to perform in bed, we can't just lie there like women can).
5) He isn't that into you. I was single in my early 30s and had no problems finding women to have sex with, it really became not worth it if you weren't into her. No need to be a jerk and break some girls heart or worse, have them start calling your office or confront you out when you weren't pursuing them after that night.

My guess is 1 or 3. Assume 3, let him ask you out and make a move.

Another man here. My guess it's #4. #5 is a possibility except they've been on 3 dates and been physical already. #2 statistically isn't that likely. #1 she asked him to come in, but he still could have done that and gone home after. #3 she'll know based on their dates so far what he's like.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man here, I can guess at the reasons, but you need to give the details of what he said when you invited him back. I am a typical man that would say yes in most but not every situation, so here is my guess without further details:

1) He is in a relationship and didn't have an excuse to spend the night
2) He has an STD and wants to have the talk about it
3) He has more conservative views on sex and wants to wait until your relationship is more established. If its this, let him make the move.
4) He had any number of physical issues that night, from bloating, to drank too much and was unsure of his erection, was generally exhausted and didn't want the first night with you to be subpar (men need to perform in bed, we can't just lie there like women can).
5) He isn't that into you. I was single in my early 30s and had no problems finding women to have sex with, it really became not worth it if you weren't into her. No need to be a jerk and break some girls heart or worse, have them start calling your office or confront you out when you weren't pursuing them after that night.

My guess is 1 or 3. Assume 3, let him ask you out and make a move.

Another man here. My guess it's #4. #5 is a possibility except they've been on 3 dates and been physical already. #2 statistically isn't that likely. #1 she asked him to come in, but he still could have done that and gone home after. #3 she'll know based on their dates so far what he's like.

What are you talking about #2 is statistically very likely. #3 he could be religious, he could just be conservative- doesn't mean he is definitely going to tell her first thing.

NP, btw

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man here, I can guess at the reasons, but you need to give the details of what he said when you invited him back. I am a typical man that would say yes in most but not every situation, so here is my guess without further details:

1) He is in a relationship and didn't have an excuse to spend the night
2) He has an STD and wants to have the talk about it
3) He has more conservative views on sex and wants to wait until your relationship is more established. If its this, let him make the move.
4) He had any number of physical issues that night, from bloating, to drank too much and was unsure of his erection, was generally exhausted and didn't want the first night with you to be subpar (men need to perform in bed, we can't just lie there like women can).
5) He isn't that into you. I was single in my early 30s and had no problems finding women to have sex with, it really became not worth it if you weren't into her. No need to be a jerk and break some girls heart or worse, have them start calling your office or confront you out when you weren't pursuing them after that night.

My guess is 1 or 3. Assume 3, let him ask you out and make a move.

With #4, you sound like you've only slept with boring, lazy women who aren't mentally present during sex. I'm trying to picture any sexual situation (other the oral) where I'd just lay there. Even with oral, it's impossible to lay still.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man here, I can guess at the reasons, but you need to give the details of what he said when you invited him back. I am a typical man that would say yes in most but not every situation, so here is my guess without further details:

1) He is in a relationship and didn't have an excuse to spend the night
2) He has an STD and wants to have the talk about it
3) He has more conservative views on sex and wants to wait until your relationship is more established. If its this, let him make the move.
4) He had any number of physical issues that night, from bloating, to drank too much and was unsure of his erection, was generally exhausted and didn't want the first night with you to be subpar (men need to perform in bed, we can't just lie there like women can).
5) He isn't that into you. I was single in my early 30s and had no problems finding women to have sex with, it really became not worth it if you weren't into her. No need to be a jerk and break some girls heart or worse, have them start calling your office or confront you out when you weren't pursuing them after that night.

My guess is 1 or 3. Assume 3, let him ask you out and make a move.

Another man here. My guess it's #4. #5 is a possibility except they've been on 3 dates and been physical already. #2 statistically isn't that likely. #1 she asked him to come in, but he still could have done that and gone home after. #3 she'll know based on their dates so far what he's like.

What are you talking about #2 is statistically very likely. #3 he could be religious, he could just be conservative- doesn't mean he is definitely going to tell her first thing.

NP, btw

Well it would have to be HIV or Herpes. The rest are treatable and in men, usually show symptoms, so even if 25% of the population has had chlamydia, that doesn't mean he actively has it.

HIV is just not that prevalent among straight men who aren't involved in drugs.

[Anonymous]

6) He is dtf and would like same. Not instarelationship which is what would have happened if he had said yes. Now he knows he has you in his pocket and just has to figure out how to manage the situation/you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man here, I can guess at the reasons, but you need to give the details of what he said when you invited him back. I am a typical man that would say yes in most but not every situation, so here is my guess without further details:

1) He is in a relationship and didn't have an excuse to spend the night
2) He has an STD and wants to have the talk about it
3) He has more conservative views on sex and wants to wait until your relationship is more established. If its this, let him make the move.
4) He had any number of physical issues that night, from bloating, to drank too much and was unsure of his erection, was generally exhausted and didn't want the first night with you to be subpar (men need to perform in bed, we can't just lie there like women can).
5) He isn't that into you. I was single in my early 30s and had no problems finding women to have sex with, it really became not worth it if you weren't into her. No need to be a jerk and break some girls heart or worse, have them start calling your office or confront you out when you weren't pursuing them after that night.

My guess is 1 or 3. Assume 3, let him ask you out and make a move.

Another man here. My guess it's #4. #5 is a possibility except they've been on 3 dates and been physical already. #2 statistically isn't that likely. #1 she asked him to come in, but he still could have done that and gone home after. #3 she'll know based on their dates so far what he's like.

What are you talking about #2 is statistically very likely. #3 he could be religious, he could just be conservative- doesn't mean he is definitely going to tell her first thing.

NP, btw

Well it would have to be HIV or Herpes. The rest are treatable and in men, usually show symptoms, so even if 25% of the population has had chlamydia, that doesn't mean he actively has it.

HIV is just not that prevalent among straight men who aren't involved in drugs.

You're crazy. A guy I dated had herpes and wouldn't sleep with me right away for this very reason. You definitely could not tell just by looking at his dick.

[Anonymous]

Is it really that impossible to believe a guy may really like a woman, but want to see her more than three times before having sex with her? Do we really think so little of them, that they have zero restraint or thoughts or emotions? If a woman offers a hint of being open to him sexually he has to go for it, or she'll assume he has no interest? This really sounds like we're assuming a guy is like an animal with no thoughts of his own to restrain his sexual impulses. Which is a huge contradiction to all the other messages out there.