He Turned Down Sex..

[Anonymous]

I am asking this again after the thread has seemed to be deleted. I would like answers to my question, not a war amongst two people like last night. I went on a date 3 with a guy and he declined to come back to my place. We are late 20's and early 30's. We met at a housewarming party, and after a couple weeks of being unsure, I went on a date. I really have liked getting to know him, and wanted to further our intimacy, but he said no. We have been talking since the date, let usual, but no mention of Friday night. Do I ask? Keep my mouth shut until he says something?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am asking this again after the thread has seemed to be deleted. I would like answers to my question, not a war amongst two people like last night. I went on a date 3 with a guy and he declined to come back to my place. We are late 20's and early 30's. We met at a housewarming party, and after a couple weeks of being unsure, I went on a date. I really have liked getting to know him, and wanted to further our intimacy, but he said no. We have been talking since the date, let usual, but no mention of Friday night. Do I ask? Keep my mouth shut until he says something?

He is letting the tension build my dear. Don't push it. Let him make the next move.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he just had a busy day the next day? Maybe he was nervous? Maybe he forgot to wear clean underwear?

[Anonymous]

You started another thread about this? Chill!

[Anonymous]

Lots of folks answered your thread yesterday until it derailed. You know the majority said to give it time. You keep mentioning three dates, but yesterday you said they were all in quick succession. Perhaps for this guy it's not the number of dates, but that he doesn't want to sleep with someone he has only known a week or two.

If want a relationship with this guy, then you need to learn to be patient. If you just want sex (like you said in your OP yesterday) then join Tinder or go to a bar and pick someone up.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he can tell that you're a level 5 clinger and he's trying to decide if having sex with you is worth the trouble of getting rid of you soon after?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You started another thread about this? Chill!

Seriously. I don't know how the thread went after the first couple of pages, but the consensus early on was clearly "chill"!

[Anonymous]

Chill

[Anonymous]

Op here. Only about 5 answered and the rest was those two people arguing back and forth. We had 3 dates over the course of a month.

[Anonymous]

OP he is jus not that into you. He could be launching a space shuttle tomorrow at 5am and if he is into you he is coming inside. You also need to let a man pursue. He will sleep with you and then probably not call you. Stop being clingy and needy. Men like the chase if they want you.

[Anonymous]

I'm telling you, he had poop-related issues.

[Anonymous]

He is not into you or has an std. Move on.

[Anonymous]

Op here. He asked me out again yesterday after saying he had a good time. Wouldn't he just ghost if he wasn't interested? I get I need to chill but I don't know how I handle going forward. Should I not mention anything and don't make advances until he does?

[Anonymous]

Yes, let him make the next advance since he's on a different timeline than you are.

[Anonymous]

Give it time.

Maybe he didn't feel well.
Maybe he has herpes.
Maybe he has a low sex drive.
Maybe he's seeing someone else.

You'll have answers soon enough.