What's Appropriate? A Young Couple Marries...

[Anonymous]

Second spouse always loses out, and that is how it should be especially if there are no kids. Best never to remarry, and second wives are usually evil stepmoms, hence adult kids have to visit the grave of the evil step mom? Of course, evil stepmom wants her way, that is why she is the second wife. if she was first wife material she would have been married earlier.

[Anonymous]

Same goes for second husbands, but women who truly loved their spouse most likely will not remarry, and most certainly not to an evil step dad material.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Second spouse always loses out, and that is how it should be especially if there are no kids. Best never to remarry, and second wives are usually evil stepmoms, hence adult kids have to visit the grave of the evil step mom? Of course, evil stepmom wants her way, that is why she is the second wife. if she was first wife material she would have been married earlier.

Spoken like a true bitter divorcée

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First wife.
Second wife was just filling his time....not his true love. Second wife should know her place.

Ok so let's throw in a curve-

2nd wife was the one who got away. Had she been willing he would've married her. But she was a 21 yo who didn't want to be tied down so young.

So he meets and marries wonderful sweet wife 1.

He thinks about the one who got away over the years. When Wife 1 dies he pursues the one who got away.

They marry.

What now?

Still wife #1
The kids should have their parents together.

Are you bored? Why are you posting this nonsense?

Agreed. Unless he asks to be buried with his second wife (or to be cremated) instead, the man being discussed here should be buried with his first wife/the mother of his children.

But what is the right solution when the deceased man in question had kids with his first wife, became a widower, remarried, & had more kids with his second wife?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Second spouse always loses out, and that is how it should be especially if there are no kids. Best never to remarry, and second wives are usually evil stepmoms, hence adult kids have to visit the grave of the evil step mom? Of course, evil stepmom wants her way, that is why she is the second wife. if she was first wife material she would have been married earlier.

Spoken like a true bitter divorcée

No, happily married first spouse, for over 23 years. But as an orthodox christian, first marriage is the only marriage to me, there is no possibility of second marriage in my eyes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Second spouse always loses out, and that is how it should be especially if there are no kids. Best never to remarry, and second wives are usually evil stepmoms, hence adult kids have to visit the grave of the evil step mom? Of course, evil stepmom wants her way, that is why she is the second wife. if she was first wife material she would have been married earlier.

Spoken like a true bitter divorcée

Ha, spoken by a true AP on your part. Go away, home wrecker.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Second spouse always loses out, and that is how it should be especially if there are no kids. Best never to remarry, and second wives are usually evil stepmoms, hence adult kids have to visit the grave of the evil step mom? Of course, evil stepmom wants her way, that is why she is the second wife. if she was first wife material she would have been married earlier.

Spoken like a true bitter divorcée

No, happily married first spouse, for over 23 years. But as an orthodox christian, first marriage is the only marriage to me, there is no possibility of second marriage in my eyes.

What is the view like from up there on your high horse?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Second spouse always loses out, and that is how it should be especially if there are no kids. Best never to remarry, and second wives are usually evil stepmoms, hence adult kids have to visit the grave of the evil step mom? Of course, evil stepmom wants her way, that is why she is the second wife. if she was first wife material she would have been married earlier.

Time to lay off the Disney movies, PP.

[Anonymous]

Unless he expressed a preference, I would go with what the surviving spouse wants.

I don't honestly think it matters, anyway!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Second spouse always loses out, and that is how it should be especially if there are no kids. Best never to remarry, and second wives are usually evil stepmoms, hence adult kids have to visit the grave of the evil step mom? Of course, evil stepmom wants her way, that is why she is the second wife. if she was first wife material she would have been married earlier.

Spoken like a true bitter divorcée

Ha, spoken by a true AP on your part. Go away, home wrecker.

Yes, all second wives obviously started out as APs -- even the ones who married their husbands several years after the first wives' deaths!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Same goes for second husbands, but women who truly loved their spouse most likely will not remarry, and most certainly not to an evil step dad material.

True

[Anonymous]

This happened to my grandfather. He actually wanted to be buried in a different plot all those years later, so wife 1 (my grandma, who died when my dad was a teenager) is in cemetery A, he is in cemetery B (in another part of the state), and wife 2 is in cemetery C at her family church.

When my grandmother died, he bought a 3-spot gravesite, which the kids can use as they see fit.

[Anonymous]

Bury them all three close together. I would be OK with this if my husband passed away after my death. I am also Catholic though, and we believe in the communion of saints after death. So, from my perspective, the soulmate issue is irrelevant, and where someone is buried only matters as to how it affects the grieving family.

[Anonymous]

What do the kids think? Do they like Wife 2? Did Wife 1 let it be known that she wanted Husband to remarry?

If so, I would bury them all together.

[Anonymous]

What if he and Wife2 have kids together?