What's Appropriate? A Young Couple Marries...

[Anonymous]

1st wife, too confusing otherwise

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Whichever one he said? If he didn't pick, let the living spouse pick, as she probably knew her role. If both wives are deceased, let the kids pick, as either is "appropriate."

If I'm the living spouse, he's being buried with me.

In a different cemetery.

Across town.

Yeah I'm petty that way. Lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First wife.
Second wife was just filling his time....not his true love. Second wife should know her place.

So 2nd wife lies alone for eternity??

(Which leaves 1st wife to lie alone.)

Yes.

Don't be a second wife if you don't like what that entails. Second wife's should know what they are signing up for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First wife.
Second wife was just filling his time....not his true love. Second wife should know her place.

So 2nd wife lies alone for eternity??

(Which leaves 1st wife to lie alone.)

Well, she's DEAD and just a rotting corpse so it doesn't really matter. Graves are for surviving friends and family.

[Anonymous]

whichever wife bought him a plot first

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First wife.
Second wife was just filling his time....not his true love. Second wife should know her place.

Ok so let's throw in a curve-

2nd wife was the one who got away. Had she been willing he would've married her. But she was a 21 yo who didn't want to be tied down so young.

So he meets and marries wonderful sweet wife 1.

He thinks about the one who got away over the years. When Wife 1 dies he pursues the one who got away.

They marry.

What now?

[Anonymous]

What's appropriate? Whatever he wants. (Good idea to ask people about their desired funeral arrangements in advance.)

[Anonymous]

My grandmother died after almost 30 years of marriage and my grandfather remarried, to a widow who had been married maybe 20 years. Grandpa and second wife were married 25 years but both wanted to be buried with their first spouses. Both of the original marriages included children.

In my grandpa's case, his second marriage was more for companionship. They didn't even get along very well.

That said, if I were a second wife and we had a strong and loving marriage I would want to be buried with that husband.

[Anonymous]

Doesn't the surviving spouse (in this case Wife 2) make the decision?

How many second wives would bury him with Wife 1?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First wife.
Second wife was just filling his time....not his true love. Second wife should know her place.

Ok so let's throw in a curve-

2nd wife was the one who got away. Had she been willing he would've married her. But she was a 21 yo who didn't want to be tied down so young.

So he meets and marries wonderful sweet wife 1.

He thinks about the one who got away over the years. When Wife 1 dies he pursues the one who got away.

They marry.

What now?

Still wife #1
The kids should have their parents together.

Are you bored? Why are you posting this nonsense?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First wife.
Second wife was just filling his time....not his true love. Second wife should know her place.

Well, maybe the man was one of these poor DCUM saps who is bossed around and shat on by his first wife, then she died, and he finally found someone who appreciates him and doesn't treat him like a paycheck/punching bag/imbecile. (And no I'm not a man)

[Anonymous]

Whoever is paying decides. Done.

[Anonymous]

Easy, out live the second wife and either flip a coin or go with the one who was hotter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:cut body in half. Each wife gets a share. He's already dead. He's not gonna mind.

Cremation would be more practical if this is your solution. Fertalize the first wife's grave with half the ashes. If the second wife outlives him, give her the other half. If not, use the other half to fertilize the second wife's grave.

You could also divide up the ashes in such a way that it is proportional to the lengths of the marriages (ie if the first wife was married to him for 20 years & the second wife was married to him for 10 years, 2/3 of the ashes are used to fertilize the first wife's grave & the remaining 1/3 are given to the second wife/ used to fertilize her grave).

[Anonymous]

Burying someone isn't for the dead person. It's for the remaining families. If H and W#1 have kids, you should bury them together so the kids can go to one place to visit their parents' graves. If you believe in the afterlife, then you'd believe that your soul isn't trapped under ground in a coffin. The H, W#1 and W#2 would be spending their afterlives with whomever their soulmate is - regardless of where you're buried. If you don't believe in the afterlife, well, then, it doesn't really matter where your rotting corpse is buried since...well...it's just a rotting corpse and in that case, again, where you're buried is really for those family and friends who are still alive who would like someplace to go to remember you by. In either case, H should be buried with W#1 - the wife with whom he had kids.