What's Appropriate? A Young Couple Marries...

[Anonymous]

...in their 20's.

They have 2 kids and are married 20 years.

Wife dies.

Husband remarries.

When hubby dies, is he buried with the 1st wife or 2nd?

Their children are adults who, one would assume, will create their own families.

[Anonymous]

This happened to a relative. He wanted to be burried with the first wife, who he always viewed as his "true" wife.

[Anonymous]

Neither. Cremation. Ashes to the kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Neither. Cremation. Ashes to the kids.

Yep.

[Anonymous]

First wife.
Second wife was just filling his time....not his true love. Second wife should know her place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Neither. Cremation. Ashes to the kids.

Yep.

Because of religious beliefs, none of the 3 want cremation.

BTW: Hubby and Wife 2 had no kids.

[Anonymous]

Why can't they all be buried together or at least close by?

[Anonymous]

I know someone in this situation (in another country, so not sure about what the laws are here) who was "sandwiched" between his wives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This happened to a relative. He wanted to be burried with the first wife, who he always viewed as his "true" wife.

How was that resolved?

It also happened with Jackie O, which sparked a huge debate this morning and led to this post.

At least Baby Patrick was buried there as well.

One debated loudly she shouldn't have been buried with JFK because she was no longer a Kennedy.

But when you really think about it...

[Anonymous]

cut body in half. Each wife gets a share. He's already dead. He's not gonna mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First wife.
Second wife was just filling his time....not his true love. Second wife should know her place.

So 2nd wife lies alone for eternity??

(Which leaves 1st wife to lie alone.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This happened to a relative. He wanted to be burried with the first wife, who he always viewed as his "true" wife.

How was that resolved?

It also happened with Jackie O, which sparked a huge debate this morning and led to this post.

At least Baby Patrick was buried there as well.

One debated loudly she shouldn't have been buried with JFK because she was no longer a Kennedy.

But when you really think about it...

First marriage is usually the true love.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This happened to a relative. He wanted to be burried with the first wife, who he always viewed as his "true" wife.

What does 2nd wife say about this?

[Anonymous]

Whichever one he said? If he didn't pick, let the living spouse pick, as she probably knew her role. If both wives are deceased, let the kids pick, as either is "appropriate."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This happened to a relative. He wanted to be burried with the first wife, who he always viewed as his "true" wife.

How was that resolved?

It also happened with Jackie O, which sparked a huge debate this morning and led to this post.

At least Baby Patrick was buried there as well.

One debated loudly she shouldn't have been buried with JFK because she was no longer a Kennedy.

But when you really think about it...

First marriage is usually the true love.

Usually yes. But is this really about true love and feelings (which change on the fly) or what's appropriate???

No one's loving anybody in the after life.