DH's ex girlfriend and inlaws

[Anonymous]

And "Aunt Kasey?" WTF!!! Keep SIL away from your kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH needs to cancel NOW and tell them why.

He called. They told him they're sad they'll be missing him this year, maybe next year.

[Anonymous]

Her kid must be his kid then. Why else would they suddenly welcome her over your husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Her kid must be his kid then. Why else would they suddenly welcome her over your husband.

This!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Her kid is calling MIL nana.

How old is her kid?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Her kid must be his kid then. Why else would they suddenly welcome her over your husband.

He's definitely not her kid's father. She has a 2 year old and that kid's father is very much involved.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:your husband should call his parents and sister and let them know it is not ok. threaten not to come if she is there, etc.

Yes. It looks like the ex has persuaded the ILs she's still the one.

DH doesn't even know what to say. Should he just be blunt? "It was inconsiderate of you to invite a woman who repeatedly tried splitting my marriage. If she's there we won't be."

No, don't do this. In fact, don't let the inlaws know you are uncomfortable. That will only feed the drama. Just don't go. Make other plans and then tell them you have other plans.

The SIL already has to know you'd feel uncomfortable, or she's dense. Don't take the bait.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:your husband should call his parents and sister and let them know it is not ok. threaten not to come if she is there, etc.

Yes. It looks like the ex has persuaded the ILs she's still the one.

DH doesn't even know what to say. Should he just be blunt? "It was inconsiderate of you to invite a woman who repeatedly tried splitting my marriage. If she's there we won't be."

No, don't do this. In fact, don't let the inlaws know you are uncomfortable. That will only feed the drama. Just don't go. Make other plans and then tell them yo
u have other plans.

The SIL already has to know you'd feel uncomfortable, or she's dense. Don't take the bait.

Too late. DH already called. He just said we were uncomfortable with the ex being there. He said we understand they can invite whoever they want but if she's there perhaps we could do a lunch on a different day.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:your husband should call his parents and sister and let them know it is not ok. threaten not to come if she is there, etc.

Yes. It looks like the ex has persuaded the ILs she's still the one.

DH doesn't even know what to say. Should he just be blunt? "It was inconsiderate of you to invite a woman who repeatedly tried splitting my marriage. If she's there we won't be."

No, don't do this. In fact, don't let the inlaws know you are uncomfortable. That will only feed the drama. Just don't go. Make other plans and then tell them yo
u have other plans.

The SIL already has to know you'd feel uncomfortable, or she's dense. Don't take the bait.

Too late. DH already called. He just said we were uncomfortable with the ex being there. He said we understand they can invite whoever they want but if she's there perhaps we could do a lunch on a different day.

Wow your in laws are assholes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:your husband should call his parents and sister and let them know it is not ok. threaten not to come if she is there, etc.

Yes. It looks like the ex has persuaded the ILs she's still the one.

DH doesn't even know what to say. Should he just be blunt? "It was inconsiderate of you to invite a woman who repeatedly tried splitting my marriage. If she's there we won't be."

No, don't do this. In fact, don't let the inlaws know you are uncomfortable. That will only feed the drama. Just don't go. Make other plans and then tell them yo
u have other plans.

The SIL already has to know you'd feel uncomfortable, or she's dense. Don't take the bait.

Too late. DH already called. He just said we were uncomfortable with the ex being there. He said we understand they can invite whoever they want but if she's there perhaps we could do a lunch on a different day.

Wow your in laws are assholes.

DH is hurt. They won't even agree to lunch on a different day. Just "sorry will be missing you this year"

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:your husband should call his parents and sister and let them know it is not ok. threaten not to come if she is there, etc.

Yes. It looks like the ex has persuaded the ILs she's still the one.

DH doesn't even know what to say. Should he just be blunt? "It was inconsiderate of you to invite a woman who repeatedly tried splitting my marriage. If she's there we won't be."

No, don't do this. In fact, don't let the inlaws know you are uncomfortable. That will only feed the drama. Just don't go. Make other plans and then tell them yo
u have other plans.

The SIL already has to know you'd feel uncomfortable, or she's dense. Don't take the bait.

Too late. DH already called. He just said we were uncomfortable with the ex being there. He said we understand they can invite whoever they want but if she's there perhaps we could do a lunch on a different day.

Wow your in laws are assholes.

DH is hurt. They won't even agree to lunch on a different day. Just "sorry will be missing you this year"

Yeah I'd be hurt too. I still think there is more to this story.

[Anonymous]

Do the in laws know she was texting and sending pics? They sound awful. I'm sorry for your dh.

[Anonymous]

Not sure how you can love your IL's when they are this thoughtless and disconnected. In no universe is this okay.

[Anonymous]

If SIL invited her, shame on SIL. If you guys go to Thanksgiving with ex there, shame on you. Take the opportunity to plan a getaway. Your SIL sounds like a b!tch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not sure how you can love your IL's when they are this thoughtless and disconnected. In no universe is this okay.

This is a first for them. We're a bit blindsided.