DH's ex girlfriend and inlaws

[Anonymous]

Help!!! Lately, my sister in law has become "besties" with my husband's ex girlfriend. DH and I have a strict have nothing to do with exes policy and now the ex is coming for Thanksgiving at MIL and FIL's. Her kid is calling MIL nana. I'm so uncomfortable with this and unsure how to handle.

[Anonymous]

Oh for the love.

Are you the same poster with the Christmas smokergate text exchange post?

[Anonymous]

No! Omg No!!!

[Anonymous]

I should add that this is "the" ex. As in the ex right before me. In laws all hated her until about a month ago and now she's being sprung on DH and I.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh for the love.

Are you the same poster with the Christmas smokergate text exchange post?

NO!! OMG NO!!! Was meant as a response for this.

[Anonymous]

Do not go to thanksgiving at your inlaws. Plan a nice weekend trip for your family and enjoy the time together. It's really very simple.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do not go to thanksgiving at your inlaws. Plan a nice weekend trip for your family and enjoy the time together. It's really very simple.

8 year old DS asked me who aunt kasey was. I told him he didn't have an aunt kasey. That's when he said "oh, well Aunt Lisa told me that Aunt Kasey was coming to Thanksgiving.

[Anonymous]

Does it really matter? I assume they don't have kids together? Is it really that big of a deal?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do not go to thanksgiving at your inlaws. Plan a nice weekend trip for your family and enjoy the time together. It's really very simple.

8 year old DS asked me who aunt kasey was. I told him he didn't have an aunt kasey. That's when he said "oh, well Aunt Lisa told me that Aunt Kasey was coming to Thanksgiving.

Is the 8yo yours with dh? How long have you been together?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does it really matter? I assume they don't have kids together? Is it really that big of a deal?

That she's having my son refer to her as aunt without discussing it with me? Yes, it's an issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do not go to thanksgiving at your inlaws. Plan a nice weekend trip for your family and enjoy the time together. It's really very simple.

8 year old DS asked me who aunt kasey was. I told him he didn't have an aunt kasey. That's when he said "oh, well Aunt Lisa told me that Aunt Kasey was coming to Thanksgiving.

Is the 8yo yours with dh? How long have you been together?

8 year old is mine. 10 years we've been together. This ex has sent DH nude pics and tried to win him back so many times that he changed his number.

[Anonymous]

your husband should call his parents and sister and let them know it is not ok. threaten not to come if she is there, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:your husband should call his parents and sister and let them know it is not ok. threaten not to come if she is there, etc.

I worry that will cause drama and they can invite who they want. I'm half tempted to give no response and just not go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:your husband should call his parents and sister and let them know it is not ok. threaten not to come if she is there, etc.

Yes. It looks like the ex has persuaded the ILs she's still the one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:your husband should call his parents and sister and let them know it is not ok. threaten not to come if she is there, etc.

Yes. It looks like the ex has persuaded the ILs she's still the one.

DH doesn't even know what to say. Should he just be blunt? "It was inconsiderate of you to invite a woman who repeatedly tried splitting my marriage. If she's there we won't be."