DH's ex girlfriend and inlaws

[Anonymous]

Honestly OP it seems to me your DH cheated on you with this woman and her son is your husbands. .

[Anonymous]

I know DH has already called now. But if it were me, I totally would have put ex out there and let everyone know that the REASON we are unable to be there is because she tried to interfere in the relationship by sending naked pictures. Might as well try to shame her a little, though it might not even work - she sounds like kind of a ho.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is your relationship like with your SIL? Has this situation recently escalated or gave they been besties for all these years? Seems very strange/psychological issues to hang around for this many years. I think your DH did the best thing. You can't let this woman worm her way into your family. She is doing it to the extended family which is awful but your number one duty is to your marriage and children.

I hate calling her SIL. I don't even claim her. She's one of those that intentionally spells my name wrong on the Christmas stocking. Its always little things that she does to remind me she doesn't like me. I don't care. She didn't like this woman until recently. She gave me this speech about how this woman had wronged her blah blah blah and then boom they're besties years later randomly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly OP it seems to me your DH cheated on you with this woman and her son is your husbands. .

No the other guy denied the kid at first. There was a DNA test. Small town. I trust my husband.

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Anonymous wrote:Damn your want your husband to have authority over who his sister can/can't be friends with?
Yikes

We don't even like his sister. We don't care who she's friends with. We just dont want to be around her and we reserve that right.

Conversely maybe your in-laws don't even like your husband...or you! They reserve the right to invite whoever the hell they want to Thanksgiving and their grandson reserves the right to have an amicable relationship with whoever the hell he pleases.

[Anonymous]

It is really weird that the in-laws chose your SIL's friend over their son. This is just so odd, I can't wrap my head around it.

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Anonymous wrote:Damn your want your husband to have authority over who his sister can/can't be friends with?
Yikes

We don't even like his sister. We don't care who she's friends with. We just dont want to be around her and we reserve that right.

Conversely maybe your in-laws don't even like your husband...or you! They reserve the right to invite whoever the hell they want to Thanksgiving and their grandson reserves the right to have an amicable relationship with whoever the hell he pleases.

What does their grandson have to do with anything?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is really weird that the in-laws chose your SIL's friend over their son. This is just so odd, I can't wrap my head around it.

They don't want to make waves with their daughter. It's a lot easier for them to just make waves with DH.

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Anonymous wrote:Damn your want your husband to have authority over who his sister can/can't be friends with?
Yikes

We don't even like his sister. We don't care who she's friends with. We just dont want to be around her and we reserve that right.

Conversely maybe your in-laws don't even like your husband...or you! They reserve the right to invite whoever the hell they want to Thanksgiving and their grandson reserves the right to have an amicable relationship with whoever the hell he pleases.

Their grandson is my son so no he doesn't have the right to have a relationship with whoever hr chooses. Hes 8.

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Anonymous wrote:Damn your want your husband to have authority over who his sister can/can't be friends with?
Yikes

We don't even like his sister. We don't care who she's friends with. We just dont want to be around her and we reserve that right.

Conversely maybe your in-laws don't even like your husband...or you! They reserve the right to invite whoever the hell they want to Thanksgiving and their grandson reserves the right to have an amicable relationship with whoever the hell he pleases.

Their grandson is my son so no he doesn't have the right to have a relationship with whoever hr chooses. Hes 8.

Sorry meant to say if some kid wants to call your MIL "Nana" and she's fine with it then that's her prerogative.

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Anonymous wrote:Damn your want your husband to have authority over who his sister can/can't be friends with?
Yikes

We don't even like his sister. We don't care who she's friends with. We just dont want to be around her and we reserve that right.

Conversely maybe your in-laws don't even like your husband...or you! They reserve the right to invite whoever the hell they want to Thanksgiving and their grandson reserves the right to have an amicable relationship with whoever the hell he pleases.

Their grandson is my son so no he doesn't have the right to have a relationship with whoever hr chooses. Hes 8.

Sorry meant to say if some kid wants to call your MIL "Nana" and she's fine with it then that's her prerogative.

No one told them they couldn't. They can all sit at the dinner table if they choose but it doesn't mean we have to attend or oartake in the shitshow.

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Anonymous wrote:Damn your want your husband to have authority over who his sister can/can't be friends with?
Yikes

We don't even like his sister. We don't care who she's friends with. We just dont want to be around her and we reserve that right.

Conversely maybe your in-laws don't even like your husband...or you! They reserve the right to invite whoever the hell they want to Thanksgiving and their grandson reserves the right to have an amicable relationship with whoever the hell he pleases.

Their grandson is my son so no he doesn't have the right to have a relationship with whoever hr chooses. Hes 8.

Sorry meant to say if some kid wants to call your MIL "Nana" and she's fine with it then that's her prerogative.

No one told them they couldn't. They can all sit at the dinner table if they choose but it doesn't mean we have to attend or oartake in the shitshow.

Okay so it sounds like you know how to handle it. Cool.

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Anonymous wrote:Damn your want your husband to have authority over who his sister can/can't be friends with?
Yikes

We don't even like his sister. We don't care who she's friends with. We just dont want to be around her and we reserve that right.

Conversely maybe your in-laws don't even like your husband...or you! They reserve the right to invite whoever the hell they want to Thanksgiving and their grandson reserves the right to have an amicable relationship with whoever the hell he pleases.

Their grandson is my son so no he doesn't have the right to have a relationship with whoever hr chooses. Hes 8.

Sorry meant to say if some kid wants to call your MIL "Nana" and she's fine with it then that's her prerogative.

No one told them they couldn't. They can all sit at the dinner table if they choose but it doesn't mean we have to attend or oartake in the shitshow.

Meant to put they could all sit at the dinner table naked if they choose to* and it should say partake

[Anonymous]

This is so bizarre. My husband had a long relationship with his ex and his family were friends with her. I promise we would not be there if she attended any family function. And if my SIL referred to her as my child's aunt I think I'd lose my shit.

[Anonymous]

Ex is buttering up ILs to get to hubby. Good that you have a plan. Have a wonderful Thanksgiving.