Do you regret being a virgin?

[Anonymous]

I was a virgin until I had sex with my boyfriend at age 22. I ended up marrying him, and we have been together 10+ years. I knew that our relationship was serious but did not know that we would definitely get married when we had sex. He was not a virgin.

Do I regret not having had sex earlier? Yes, kind of. I built it up as a really big thing in my head and sort of wish I had experienced more before getting married. But I'm also really happy with my marriage and husband, and it really doesn't matter at all now. I also had no specific desire to wait until marriage -- I just knew that I wanted to be in a very serious relationship and not have sex willy-nilly. I had been in one serious relationship previously but my boyfriend in that relationship wanted to wait until marriage. If he hadn't, I probably would have had sex with him.

I'm happy to say that I have only had one sexual partner, though, and it makes me certain that I don't have any diseases or other issues as a result of things I did with people I no longer know. Kudos to you for waiting if it's something you believe in! If you've waited this long and want to marry your boyfriend, then wait until marriage if it works for you. Just make sure you and your boyfriend aren't rushing into marriage just because you want to have sex. My earlier boyfriend was super intent on marriage, even though we were younger than I wanted to marry (in college), and I'm fairly sure it was because he wanted to have sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:you can enjoy your life with being virgin. You can do al the sexy staffs. Also you can use your back instead of your virgin. Why you ask

yourself now?! you should ask yourself this question when you were in 20s!!??

I don't why people like to be sad and regret in everything. You can't change anything in the past so, live your moment now.

lol... someone needs to check their autocorrect before posting!

I am studying Academic English now and I am practicing in this beautiful website

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was a virgin until I had sex with my boyfriend at age 22. I ended up marrying him, and we have been together 10+ years. I knew that our relationship was serious but did not know that we would definitely get married when we had sex. He was not a virgin.

Do I regret not having had sex earlier? Yes, kind of. I built it up as a really big thing in my head and sort of wish I had experienced more before getting married. But I'm also really happy with my marriage and husband, and it really doesn't matter at all now. I also had no specific desire to wait until marriage -- I just knew that I wanted to be in a very serious relationship and not have sex willy-nilly. I had been in one serious relationship previously but my boyfriend in that relationship wanted to wait until marriage. If he hadn't, I probably would have had sex with him.

I'm happy to say that I have only had one sexual partner, though, and it makes me certain that I don't have any diseases or other issues as a result of things I did with people I no longer know. Kudos to you for waiting if it's something you believe in! If you've waited this long and want to marry your boyfriend, then wait until marriage if it works for you. Just make sure you and your boyfriend aren't rushing into marriage just because you want to have sex. My earlier boyfriend was super intent on marriage, even though we were younger than I wanted to marry (in college), and I'm fairly sure it was because he wanted to have sex.

Your DH could have given you diseases since he banged others besides you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Virgins who posted, were your spouses Virgins too?[/quote
Probably not, the guys got their fun in while the girls waited, idiots.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Virgins who posted, were your spouses Virgins too?

Yes, DH and I both were virgins and were college sweethearts. I was clear from the very beginning that I will only have sex with my husband. So, he had a choice to dump me if he wanted. I thought that if the person really thought I was worth the wait, then he will wait.

We dated for a number of years, and sometimes came very close to having sex, but often it was my DH who had the iron control. I think he realized that my virginity meant something very special to me.

Anyways, when we married it was like we could not get enough sex. And that hunger has not really abated even after 20+ years. I also think that for the first few years of our marriage, the newness of sex and the excitement and pleasure of sexual exploration, made us very amenable to marital adjustment and give and take. It was like we were crushing on each other and really addicted to sex. We went out of our way to take care of each other's likes and dislikes.

I know people will slam me for this, but losing my virginity on my wedding night, elevated sex to making love with a person who respected me enough to wait for me. As I am writing this, I wonder what it meant to my DH? I never asked him that question.

[Anonymous]

I don't really understand "virgins" who have oral sex and sometimes even anal sex, but keep the precious vagina pure. I sort of feel like, at that point, if you like to do it for the symbolism then OK, but you can be pretty sexually experienced and still be a technical virgin. You could have tons of sexual experiences before marriage and thus not "miss out" on much of anything while keeping some technical definition of purity. If you and your boyfriend are fooling around naked in bed together and each making the other happy through oral sex, I don't think you'd be missing out on anything at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't really understand "virgins" who have oral sex and sometimes even anal sex, but keep the precious vagina pure. I sort of feel like, at that point, if you like to do it for the symbolism then OK, but you can be pretty sexually experienced and still be a technical virgin. You could have tons of sexual experiences before marriage and thus not "miss out" on much of anything while keeping some technical definition of purity. If you and your boyfriend are fooling around naked in bed together and each making the other happy through oral sex, I don't think you'd be missing out on anything at all.

It's the Bill Clinton affect: "I did not have sexual relations with that women".. or something like that, because he didn't have intercourse with her, it wasn't really sex.

[Anonymous]

I love my DH and we have had some amazing sex together over the years. However, I gotta say, waiting until you are 30 sounds horrible. I was the most horny, wet, and sexually adventurous between the ages of 17-25. Especially as a teenager...the sex drive and insatiable curiosity to try new things was out of control and not always in a bad way.

In my late 20s, real life (career stress, bills, being with the same person for 5+ years) kicked in, and I just don't have as many crazy sexual adventures.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love my DH and we have had some amazing sex together over the years. However, I gotta say, waiting until you are 30 sounds horrible. I was the most horny, wet, and sexually adventurous between the ages of 17-25. Especially as a teenager...the sex drive and insatiable curiosity to try new things was out of control and not always in a bad way.

In my late 20s, real life (career stress, bills, being with the same person for 5+ years) kicked in, and I just don't have as many crazy sexual adventures.

Pretty sure I dated you in college... That was awesome

[Anonymous]

I think waiting until marriage is a terrible idea. At least three of my very serious relationships ended because we did not enjoy the same kind of sex. It would have awful if we had waited only to find out on the wedding night that we were not compatible. When I did marry, it was to a person with whom I had wonderful sex with before marriage.

[Anonymous]

But if you're mostly just with one person in your life, your likely not going to enjoy 'different kinds.' You will create it one in the same together. I mean yes you come to the table with different desires. But it won't be too far apart.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:But if you're mostly just with one person in your life, your likely not going to enjoy 'different kinds.' You will create it one in the same together. I mean yes you come to the table with different desires. But it won't be too far apart.

That's simply not true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:But if you're mostly just with one person in your life, your likely not going to enjoy 'different kinds.' You will create it one in the same together. I mean yes you come to the table with different desires. But it won't be too far apart.

That's simply not true.

+1. I was serious with one woman who would only have sex in one particular position. It was a position that I do but not my favorite by any means. But that was the only way she would do it. That just did not work for me so I ended it. I was serious about another woman who liked being handcuffed and ordered around and being yelled at and called a b**ch. I just couldn't get into it. I wasn't meeting her needs so she ended it. If you wait until marriage to have sex you are taking a big risk.

[Anonymous]

Gigantic mistake to wait until marriage. Sexual incompatibility kills relationships. Learn who you are and what you like. Marry someone who you can have good sex with, not because you think so, but because you have actually done it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love my DH and we have had some amazing sex together over the years. However, I gotta say, waiting until you are 30 sounds horrible. I was the most horny, wet, and sexually adventurous between the ages of 17-25. Especially as a teenager...the sex drive and insatiable curiosity to try new things was out of control and not always in a bad way.

In my late 20s, real life (career stress, bills, being with the same person for 5+ years) kicked in, and I just don't have as many crazy sexual adventures.

Oh my, you haven't seen a sex drive until you hit your late 30s.....