Do you regret being a virgin?

[Anonymous]

eh, sometimes. i waited (albeit not as long as you) and DH was a virgin too. we enjoy sex but our sex life has always been tepid, as we're both a bit too uptight to have free conversations about what we'd like to try to do differently. let's say, suggestions aren't taken well. anyway, this is not saying i regret marrying him! he's wonderful! i just wish we had both been a bit less uptight/more experienced when we were trying to figure out what we were doing.

No harm in waiting, i imagine, if you're willing to adventure together!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 33 and a virgin. About to be engaged soon and I have offered to give up my virginity to my BF of 2 years. He is not a virgin, but has had 1 partner.

I was raised Catholic and believed in waiting til marriage, but now that we're pretty close to it, Iknow I'm going to be with him for the future, I feel good about being ready and being his. Ironically though he hasn't taken me up on the offer and is now turning the tables and making me wait til marriage. his reasoning though: birth control. I don't take any, and don't want to take any because of the side effects. He doesn't want us to be knocked up before we walk down the aisle. Some times though I wish he could just go for it!

I have feeling your soon to be DH isn't going to be that into sex even after your married. It will be one excuse after another. Been there done that. Luckily I wasn't married to any of them. But I read your post and thought either gay or majorly screwed up regarding sex. You really need to talk to him before marriage. A man with a healthy sexuality would be willing of his partner is willing.

sorry, but i also agree w/ what the PP above said.

[Anonymous]

Do not wait. Life is short. You are 30 years old. Have a love affair.

[Anonymous]

Male here and, personally, I would not want to marry a virgin. Married sex is fraught with risk even when the couple knows what they're getting into, and those risk are simply too great when you don't know what you're getting into.