Do you regret being a virgin?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DW was a virgin. I had had 2 partners, none in previous decade. (We married in30s). Two observations: 1) I loved everyone I had sex with. I know many guys are horndogs but I would not have sex without a deep emotional bond. It is a really intense thing. 2) The decline of my DW and I has never been great. We could not have known before we married, but we have not been that compatible. She has never orgasmed during sex, only oral. Sex was painful for her at first, which affected me as well. There was a lot more oral before we married, almost none after (from her), which I miss. It is a work in progress, and we did not communicate about this issue enough at times. Working on that now. Don't expect to jump right into great sex when you marry. But it is a good thing to work on!

In short, you have not missed out on anything. Cheap, meaningless sex is exactly that.

If it makes you feel better, most women don't orgasm from only vaginal intercourse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DW was a virgin. I had had 2 partners, none in previous decade. (We married in30s). Two observations: 1) I loved everyone I had sex with. I know many guys are horndogs but I would not have sex without a deep emotional bond. It is a really intense thing. 2) The decline of my DW and I has never been great. We could not have known before we married, but we have not been that compatible. She has never orgasmed during sex, only oral. Sex was painful for her at first, which affected me as well. There was a lot more oral before we married, almost none after (from her), which I miss. It is a work in progress, and we did not communicate about this issue enough at times. Working on that now. Don't expect to jump right into great sex when you marry. But it is a good thing to work on!

In short, you have not missed out on anything. Cheap, meaningless sex is exactly that.

Stupid spell check. Should read "sex life ... has not been great"

One could also argue that sex is important and if you'd put a little more effort into that part of the relationship before marriage, you might have found out if you were compatible instead of having to settle for a lackluster sex life.

[Anonymous]

Its cool that you waited, but sex is just sex, so just be careful that you don't fantasize it will be some magical experience on your wedding night. In that case you will be disappointed and your DH will also feel bad. I would experiment a lot before the big night, coming very close if not all the way, so you don't have overly unrealistic expectations, and so you know a bit more about what you like and don't like.

i totally disagree with the comment about most women not orgasming with vaginal sex. But, sex is never like it is in the movies-sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't-and you want to experiment a bit to find what works for you. The first few times take a bit of practice. Good luck!

PS: don't move in with him before you are married. i think that's worse than sex before marriage in terms of potentially winding up in a marriage you might have otherwise have opted out of.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:God always rewards those who follow His plan.

What reward do kids who die of cancer get?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Its cool that you waited, but sex is just sex, so just be careful that you don't fantasize it will be some magical experience on your wedding night. In that case you will be disappointed and your DH will also feel bad. I would experiment a lot before the big night, coming very close if not all the way, so you don't have overly unrealistic expectations, and so you know a bit more about what you like and don't like.

i totally disagree with the comment about most women not orgasming with vaginal sex. But, sex is never like it is in the movies-sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't-and you want to experiment a bit to find what works for you. The first few times take a bit of practice. Good luck!

PS: don't move in with him before you are married. i think that's worse than sex before marriage in terms of potentially winding up in a marriage you might have otherwise have opted out of.

Amen to this.
Yes, some of the best sex advice I got was that sometimes it goes wrong (especially in the beginning). When that happens, seriously do your best to not be hurt and whiny. Just talk, say what you want, listen to each other and talk about what you'll do better the next time. It sounds silly but it turned out to work wonders. When I say 'go wrong' I just mean you'll be doing great then someone makes a move that maybe ruins the flow of things--it's very easy for me to go back to square 1 in terms of being turned on. Then he feels upset that I'm done or whatever. Just talk it through and use your very best classic communication skills, and learn for next time.

[Anonymous]

I waited for the right person. I was 25. I'd never marry someone before I had a healthy sex life with them. Who would want to sign all the paperwork then find out they weren't compatible?

We've been married 30 fabulous years.

[Anonymous]

I lost my virginity at 28. I don't regret it but I do wish it would have been with someone I truly cared about. I was tired of men not giving me the time of day so I just went out one night, met a guy and said "let's sleep together". Not my greatest moment in life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:God always rewards those who follow His plan.

What reward do kids who die of cancer get?

they go to heaven?

[Anonymous]

OP, I was a virgin well into my 30s so was my husband I posted about it here before.

I don't regret. The first time wasn't the best sex we have had, but it wasn't horrible either . It was sweet and pretty darn wonderful.

I never had any interest in having lots of sex with as many people as possible so maybe that's why I don't have any regrets.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I waited for the right person. I was 25. I'd never marry someone before I had a healthy sex life with them. Who would want to sign all the paperwork then find out they weren't compatible?

We've been married 30 fabulous years.

I feel like you can know and still be a Virgin. I knew with mine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Its cool that you waited, but sex is just sex, so just be careful that you don't fantasize it will be some magical experience on your wedding night. In that case you will be disappointed and your DH will also feel bad. I would experiment a lot before the big night, coming very close if not all the way, so you don't have overly unrealistic expectations, and so you know a bit more about what you like and don't like.

i totally disagree with the comment about most women not orgasming with vaginal sex. But, sex is never like it is in the movies-sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't-and you want to experiment a bit to find what works for you. The first few times take a bit of practice. Good luck!

PS: don't move in with him before you are married. i think that's worse than sex before marriage in terms of potentially winding up in a marriage you might have otherwise have opted out of.

I have read that this is indeed true:

http://www.womansday.com/relationships/sex-tips/a5144/10-surprising-facts-about-orgasms-111985/
http://abcnews.go.com/Health/ReproductiveHealth/sex-study-female-orgasm-eludes-majority-women/story?id=8485289

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:God always rewards those who follow His plan.

What reward do kids who die of cancer get?

My child died of cancer. It's been a comfort to me to think she was so pure, as an innocent child, that she would only see the face of God when she passed. Your comment is horrible.

[Anonymous]

you can enjoy your life with being virgin. You can do al the sexy staffs. Also you can use your back instead of your virgin. Why you ask

yourself now?! you should ask yourself this question when you were in 20s!!??

I don't why people like to be sad and regret in everything. You can't change anything in the past so, live your moment now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:you can enjoy your life with being virgin. You can do al the sexy staffs. Also you can use your back instead of your virgin. Why you ask

yourself now?! you should ask yourself this question when you were in 20s!!??

I don't why people like to be sad and regret in everything. You can't change anything in the past so, live your moment now.

lol... someone needs to check their autocorrect before posting!

[Anonymous]

Stopped waiting at 24. Married at 29 and DH was #5. Greatly regret the other 4. Cheap and pointless and empty compared to the real thing.