Affairs: Who is more likely to have them, men or women?

[Anonymous]

Most of the married women I know just aren't that into sex. They do it to please DH but don't need extra.

[Anonymous]

Statistically, men have slightly more affairs than women. But when you think about how hard it is for a man to have an affair, it shows men WOULD cheat far more than women if they could.

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Anonymous wrote:Women on the other hand can get laid anywhere anytime regardless of class or income.

This is a myth that DCUM perpetuates. Anywhere? Anytime? Really?

Sure. I'm not saying that it would necessarily be your ideal partner, but if a woman wants to get laid this afternoon then they can. Just go into any hotel bar and put on a sign that says "looking to get laid" and you'll have a dozen choices in the next two hours. Most men couldn't get laid in a given afternoon without pulling out a credit card.

People are ALWAYS saying this on DCUM but I think its crap.

When I was single I could NOT find someone to hook up with whenever I wanted. And while I'm certainly not Cindy Crawford I would say I'm not ugly at all. Solidly middle of the road, good features and less good but overall a clean and attractive package. And I'm only 30 so not old. And yet if you today would pay me actual money to go do it with a stranger I would have no idea how to go about doing that with a guarantee of success. Just like, I dunno get drunk and go to a club or something? That did not always work for me when I was single.

Of course you could. What you mean is that you couldn't find someone who appealed to you. I get that. But if you simply wanted sex this afternoon and were willing to compromise on your ideals you absolutely could. You know this.

Again, not so for men, regardless of how much they might lower their standards.

OK so two people responded with essentially the same comment.

Seriously I dont think I could. If I saw someone that DID appeal to me I wouldn't know how to immediately turn that encounter into having sex. WTF, you really think if I just walked up to a guy and asked if he wanted to go do it he'd say yes? Aren't people worried about STDs? If Brad Pitt walked up to me and said that I don't think I'd say yes, so weird. I do not 'know this.'

I think this must just be a belief from guys who believe they are below the 'standards' most women have to make themselves feel better? This is a really strange conviction I think. Because I GENUINELY think that if I went to a hotel bar as some other guy suggested and started to strike up conversations that people would look at me like I was crazy. Any person, regardless of gender, sitting alone at a bar drinking for hours does not really seem that appealing for conversation or sex.

This is because you're projecting onto men the attitudes that you would have as a woman. If that makes sense.

You as a woman might see someone sitting alone at the bar and obviously on the make as sad and pathetic. You as a woman might worry about STD's. You as a woman might think they look weird or crazy.

The man however is thinking, "Oh cool, I can have sex with this woman."

No one is saying that you could hang out your shingle and every man would bite. But someone would. Guaranteed. Any average woman under 60 with no obvious deformities could get sex any day they wanted so long as they're willing to lower their standards enough. No way could you say that about a man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most of the married women I know just aren't that into sex. They do it to please DH but don't need extra.

Oh you bet your ass if Brad Pitt winked at her, she'd want "extra". Please don't delude yourself. A married woman is just that, married, not dead.


Speaking as a DW who has had affairs, all you need is that guy who gets your juices flowing again. I will say though that I have always "traded up" from DH, looks wise, status wise, intelligent wise, everything wise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most surveys I've seen show men more likely to have affairs than women, but I question this. First of all, it's just plain easier for women to get laid, so an affair would be easier for a woman to pull off. Secondly, I think the same principle is at play as when men and women talk about their "number." In other words, men are more likely to exaggerate the number of women they've had sex with while women do the opposite.

Flame away.

Maybe. But some women are truthful about their numbers.

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Women.

because women are sex maniacs.

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Anonymous wrote:Women.

because women are sex maniacs.

ROFLMAO!

This thread is priceless!

[Anonymous]

Women have more affairs. Come on! Just read through this board. Women feel they are entitled to whatever they want.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:2 reasons

1. Women become insanely desperate from ages 28-32 with the idea of their ticking clock will explode like a bomb. These women ... we will call them 'easy pickins".... 1 chick who is desperate to find a man will bang multiple married men hoping one "unhappily" married man will leave his wife.

2. we know men are stupid and women are crazy, 1 crazy woman will bang multiple stupid men that think they can get away with it (until the rabbit boils).

So where do I find these women you speak of ?????

Closing time

[Anonymous]

Men have more affairs because men have higher sex drives. Duh???

Kind of like the reason more women struggle with weight. It's another example of fighting a biological impulse. Women are biologically programmed to retain more weight. Men are programmed to spread their seed. Monogamy requires fighting this impulse.

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Anonymous wrote:Women on the other hand can get laid anywhere anytime regardless of class or income.

This is a myth that DCUM perpetuates. Anywhere? Anytime? Really?

Sure. I'm not saying that it would necessarily be your ideal partner, but if a woman wants to get laid this afternoon then they can. Just go into any hotel bar and put on a sign that says "looking to get laid" and you'll have a dozen choices in the next two hours. Most men couldn't get laid in a given afternoon without pulling out a credit card.

People are ALWAYS saying this on DCUM but I think its crap.

When I was single I could NOT find someone to hook up with whenever I wanted. And while I'm certainly not Cindy Crawford I would say I'm not ugly at all. Solidly middle of the road, good features and less good but overall a clean and attractive package. And I'm only 30 so not old. And yet if you today would pay me actual money to go do it with a stranger I would have no idea how to go about doing that with a guarantee of success. Just like, I dunno get drunk and go to a club or something? That did not always work for me when I was single.

In my 20s, I never had an issue getting laid. In my 30s, I was consistently hit on. In my 40s, I am hit on by guys my age up to 60. I'm married, but a flirt. If I wanted to get laid, I could.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men have more affairs because men have higher sex drives. Duh???

Kind of like the reason more women struggle with weight. It's another example of fighting a biological impulse. Women are biologically programmed to retain more weight. Men are programmed to spread their seed. Monogamy requires fighting this impulse.

So... in a world where fat shaming is wrong because people are simply predisposed to a certain weight due to their genetics it should be just as wrong to "affair shame" men because, as you put it, they are genetically programmed that way. Similarly to those who are born gay, men are not "oriented" towards monogamy and it is wrong to force them into it. I wonder if this should be a new class that is protected by SJWs.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Women on the other hand can get laid anywhere anytime regardless of class or income.

This is a myth that DCUM perpetuates. Anywhere? Anytime? Really?

Sure. I'm not saying that it would necessarily be your ideal partner, but if a woman wants to get laid this afternoon then they can. Just go into any hotel bar and put on a sign that says "looking to get laid" and you'll have a dozen choices in the next two hours. Most men couldn't get laid in a given afternoon without pulling out a credit card.

People are ALWAYS saying this on DCUM but I think its crap.

When I was single I could NOT find someone to hook up with whenever I wanted. And while I'm certainly not Cindy Crawford I would say I'm not ugly at all. Solidly middle of the road, good features and less good but overall a clean and attractive package. And I'm only 30 so not old. And yet if you today would pay me actual money to go do it with a stranger I would have no idea how to go about doing that with a guarantee of success. Just like, I dunno get drunk and go to a club or something? That did not always work for me when I was single.

In my 20s, I never had an issue getting laid. In my 30s, I was consistently hit on. In my 40s, I am hit on by guys my age up to 60. I'm married, but a flirt. If I wanted to get laid, I could.

PP claims any woman under 60 without a major defect can do this (I think I'm pretty far above that bar) so I'm happy for you but I am saying I don't believe that and cited myself. I did not claim no woman could do this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Men have more affairs because men have higher sex drives. Duh???

Kind of like the reason more women struggle with weight. It's another example of fighting a biological impulse. Women are biologically programmed to retain more weight. Men are programmed to spread their seed. Monogamy requires fighting this impulse.

So... in a world where fat shaming is wrong because people are simply predisposed to a certain weight due to their genetics it should be just as wrong to "affair shame" men because, as you put it, they are genetically programmed that way. Similarly to those who are born gay, men are not "oriented" towards monogamy and it is wrong to force them into it. I wonder if this should be a new class that is protected by SJWs.

Men don't have to be in a monogamous relationship. No one is holding a gun to your head. You can have meaningless random sex with whoever you want, you just can't force someone else to be in a relationship with you and be ok with you sleeping around. Just like a gay guy can't force a straight guy to be in a relationship with him.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Most of the married women I know just aren't that into sex. They do it to please DH but don't need extra.

Oh you bet your ass if Brad Pitt winked at her, she'd want "extra". Please don't delude yourself. A married woman is just that, married, not dead.


Speaking as a DW who has had affairs, all you need is that guy who gets your juices flowing again. I will say though that I have always "traded up" from DH, looks wise, status wise, intelligent wise, everything wise.

I don't mean this as an insult, but I am a man who has had affairs and have always traded down. Although the women I have had affairs with loved sex, so in that respect they blew my DW away.