My mom has lost interest in me - has become self centered - I'm grieving
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Anonymous
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She's getting old. It's what's happens. Jeez my mom is the same way. God, she talks non stop about stupid shit, and never asks anyone else about what is happening in their lives. Seriously, we could have a conversation like this:
Me: holy shit mom! The most amazing thing happened today. I single handedly thwarted an ISIS terror plot while shopping in the Body Shop at Pentagon city. Mom: ok... So I just tried a new recipe for a zucchini casserole. Here, let me go into excruciating detail of how I made it and the conversation your father and I had while I was in the kitchen. Me: ...cool story bro. |
Anonymous
| Oh lord, what is it about the laborious, detailed explanations of what they eat? |
Anonymous
Right ?!?!?!? |
Anonymous
OMG I thought it was just me! My mother and I used to have the greatest conversations and now it's all soups and sandwiches. |
Anonymous
| Would rather talk about food than the ailments that all her friends have. |
Anonymous
I swear to God 50% of our conversations are what she ate or what she might be in the mood to eat later! Wtf?! I ate the stale crusts of my sons pbj for my dinner! |
Anonymous
| I love how this thread has been hijacked, btw. |
Anonymous
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OP, if it makes you feel any better, my mother has always been this way. Here is how our conversations go.
Me: Today I dealt with X, which was extremely important to me because... Her: Oh, I know what you mean. When I was [reference to something only very tangentially related], I [15 minute monologue about her life either in high school, college, or her career, which is nothing like mine at all]. |
Anonymous
| I also suspect possibly cognitive issue. Could also be hearing. Even a little hearing loss makes it easier to talk than listen, esp if you don't want to admit to it. Plus older folks often have fewer social outlets and have a need to talk. I noticed this first in my grandmother and then my mother. Try to remember the woman she was as the person she truly is. |
Anonymous
OMG. It's like you know us! |
Anonymous
| Relationships ebb and flow - real relationships, that is. You say you have always had a real relationship with her - well then. this is part of it. It may take time to adjust, months, years. |
Anonymous
This is a real possibility. |
Anonymous
| Also - dies she regularly travel far distances? It may be she is intimidated to make the trip to you but wouldn't admit it. |
Anonymous
I did not think my siblings were on DCUM. Clearly one them is here because THIS IS OUR MOTHER!!!! 
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Anonymous
| How old is your mom? |