9 year old asked how gay people have sex.. How to respond?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm an adult female and unclear how two women do

Really?! Don't you ever engage in any thing but intercourse?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm an adult female and unclear how two women do

Then you've been doing it wrong. I'm sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm an adult female and unclear how two women do

Then you've been doing it wrong. I'm sorry.

Lol

True!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He's 9, so in third or fourth grade, is that right? What school or school system here has actual sex education in third or fourth grade? I think DC's school may have had an "our changing bodies" talk for the fourth grade girls, but nothing behind that.

Independent school, fourth grade is when they do human reproduction. Kids ask questions beyond the curriculum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have had frank and age appropriate discussions about sex and reproduction. Now this! Help!!

"Up the butt, man!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We asked him why he asked. It was because another kid in the class has mentioned it during sex ed.

This sex ed must be pretty lousy if they're not being taught about sex for pleasure/intimacy.

If child is in public schools in Virginia, I promise you that it is, in fact, lousy. I've seen the curriculum. Very big on morality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We asked him why he asked. It was because another kid in the class has mentioned it during sex ed.

This sex ed must be pretty lousy if they're not being taught about sex for pleasure/intimacy.

If child is in public schools in Virginia, I promise you that it is, in fact, lousy. I've seen the curriculum. Very big on morality.

Morality is bad?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm an adult female and unclear how two women do

Oral sex and the use of digits and toys for penetration (i.e. strap-ons).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We asked him why he asked. It was because another kid in the class has mentioned it during sex ed.

This sex ed must be pretty lousy if they're not being taught about sex for pleasure/intimacy.

If child is in public schools in Virginia, I promise you that it is, in fact, lousy. I've seen the curriculum. Very big on morality.

Morality is bad?

NP. In my opinion, the way our culture presents matters of morality as related to sex is absolutely bad.

It also doesn't line up with our views of morality.

We're in VA and gave our kids the option to be opted out of the school's "sex ed" program due to how flawed we feel the information presented is in so many ways.

I strongly advise all parents to take a careful look at the curriculum and make sure it lines up with what they expect and what/how they wish their children to learn about such things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have had frank and age appropriate discussions about sex and reproduction. Now this! Help!!

"Up the butt, man!"

Wow - you know nothing about sex. I feel sorry for your husband or wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have had frank and age appropriate discussions about sex and reproduction. Now this! Help!!

"Up the butt, man!"

You owe me a new keyboard, for mine is now covered in diet coke from my spittake.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds to me like he is. He knows how men and women have sex and wants to know how two men have sex. Just tell him.

Does gay = men, these days? I didn't know that.

Also, there is more to men/women sex than inserting Tab P in Slot V. True fact.

Yeah, it's amazing how straight people rush straight to the buttsex. I think it's because a lot of straight people's sex lives are just put-penis-in-vagina, take it out, repeat, done. Sad!

I bet that straight people with a rich and varied sex life have no questions about what gay people -- male and female -- do to have sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sounds to me like he is. He knows how men and women have sex and wants to know how two men have sex. Just tell him.

Does gay = men, these days? I didn't know that.

Also, there is more to men/women sex than inserting Tab P in Slot V. True fact.

Yeah, it's amazing how straight people rush straight to the buttsex. I think it's because a lot of straight people's sex lives are just put-penis-in-vagina, take it out, repeat, done. Sad!

I bet that straight people with a rich and varied sex life have no questions about what gay people -- male and female -- do to have sex.

Very well said.
~a lesbian

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sounds to me like he is. He knows how men and women have sex and wants to know how two men have sex. Just tell him.

Does gay = men, these days? I didn't know that.

Also, there is more to men/women sex than inserting Tab P in Slot V. True fact.

Yeah, it's amazing how straight people rush straight to the buttsex. I think it's because a lot of straight people's sex lives are just put-penis-in-vagina, take it out, repeat, done. Sad!

I bet that straight people with a rich and varied sex life have no questions about what gay people -- male and female -- do to have sex.

Knock it off, smug pp who has all the answers. Believe it or not, there are those of use who rich and varied hetero sex lives who have not watched gay porn nor have had intimate conversations with our gay friends about how they like to get off. It's been a mystery to me (is the same one always the "top"? is oral/manual enough? are toys always involved?) and I was OK with that, since it's none of my business. Having to answer a 9-year-old -- yikes!

[Anonymous]

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Knock it off, smug pp who has all the answers. Believe it or not, there are those of use who rich and varied hetero sex lives who have not watched gay porn nor have had intimate conversations with our gay friends about how they like to get off. It's been a mystery to me (is the same one always the "top"? is oral/manual enough? are toys always involved?) and I was OK with that, since it's none of my business. Having to answer a 9-year-old -- yikes!

Do you think that all straight people all have sex exactly the same way?

Do you think that straight porn is an accurate reflection of the way straight people have sex?

If the answer to both of these questions is "no" for straight people, why do you think that the answer would be "yes" for gay people?