My DH is too tender and sensitive

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes - I need to learn to be more grateful for what I have ...

No, you just need to find a more MANLY MAN on the side! Have your cake and eat it too.... or I'll jamb it down your throat!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Woman don't want to be married to another woman. We want to be married to a man. Sorry OP. You can't change this about him.

The same "primal instinct" men that sleep with all of their co-workers?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I know I'm an ass. But I just can't help it. By masculine energy and aggression I just mean things that are most typically associated with a man. What can I say? He's awesome but I'm less and less sexually attracted to him bc of traits that seem feminine to me. We already have a child. He is former military, tall, looks very masculine and fit. But he is the first to be taken advantage of by people, no street smarts, and not aggressive sexually. There's nothing "wrong" with him but I don't feel the right passion. I guess I'm a colossal bitch.

You are not an ass or a colassal bitch! You are a reasonable women who is unfortunately in a tough situation. I feel nothing but sympathy.

[Anonymous]

Is the issue that he is "unmanly," or that he is being childish?

There's no shame in crying, but if he's just constantly weeping away, it might be an legitimate emotional issue if he just can't deal with stressful situations.

I am male, and I veer toward sensitive side. I don't like confrontation, but I understand that it is sometimes necessary to get things done. It's not it about being a man. It's about being an adult.

Are you sure that the issue is about him being "unmanly," or is it more that he is being a bit childish? Everyone has vulnerabilities, but it's unfair to constantly put other people in a position where they have to reassure you.

Personally, I think the same standard applies to women. I would get tired of a woman who was constantly crying over every little thing and couldn't handle day to day stresses. It puts a burden on others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is no pleasing the DC women.

+1,000

[Anonymous]

OMG Op - Me too!

Lovely guy, honest and trustworthy as you could ever want, handsome, great dad, smart, etc...

Cries at the drop of a hat. The man cries repeatedly during Game of Thrones for god's sake.

Zero passion or sex drive - used to be low, now it's just zero.

For my b'day I'm going to ask him to have his testosterone checked. It's bad.

I totally get it. You are not a colossal bitch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMG Op - Me too!

Lovely guy, honest and trustworthy as you could ever want, handsome, great dad, smart, etc...

Cries at the drop of a hat. The man cries repeatedly during Game of Thrones for god's sake.

Zero passion or sex drive - used to be low, now it's just zero.

For my b'day I'm going to ask him to have his testosterone checked. It's bad.

I totally get it. You are not a colossal bitch.

He's gay.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Woman don't want to be married to another woman. We want to be married to a man. Sorry OP. You can't change this about him.

The same "primal instinct" men that sleep with all of their co-workers?

No, my husband is caring, but he still acts like a guy. He doesn't cheat on me; he just isn't all wanting to talk about feelings all day long. Opposites attract. We don't want to be with someone just like us. And "man" doesn't equal "jerk." I can see why a woman would not particularly want a super sensitive, effeminate man, is all I'm saying. Same reason a guy wouldn't want to marry a super man-like woman.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Woman don't want to be married to another woman. We want to be married to a man. Sorry OP. You can't change this about him.

The same "primal instinct" men that sleep with all of their co-workers?

No, my husband is caring, but he still acts like a guy. He doesn't cheat on me; he just isn't all wanting to talk about feelings all day long. Opposites attract. We don't want to be with someone just like us. And "man" doesn't equal "jerk." I can see why a woman would not particularly want a super sensitive, effeminate man, is all I'm saying. Same reason a guy wouldn't want to marry a super man-like woman.

Fair enough...what you are describing right there is much more effective way of conveying your point, as opposed to implying an all-or-nothing relationship that a sensitive man = a woman.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Woman don't want to be married to another woman. We want to be married to a man. Sorry OP. You can't change this about him.

The same "primal instinct" men that sleep with all of their co-workers?

No, my husband is caring, but he still acts like a guy. He doesn't cheat on me; he just isn't all wanting to talk about feelings all day long. Opposites attract. We don't want to be with someone just like us. And "man" doesn't equal "jerk." I can see why a woman would not particularly want a super sensitive, effeminate man, is all I'm saying. Same reason a guy wouldn't want to marry a super man-like woman.

Fair enough...what you are describing right there is much more effective way of conveying your point, as opposed to implying an all-or-nothing relationship that a sensitive man = a woman.

Although generally you're not going to hear a man saying he wants a manly looking woman. It's not uncommon to hear a woman say they want a sensitive, caring man. Men are much, much more direct about expressing what they want in a woman.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Woman don't want to be married to another woman. We want to be married to a man. Sorry OP. You can't change this about him.

The same "primal instinct" men that sleep with all of their co-workers?

No, my husband is caring, but he still acts like a guy. He doesn't cheat on me; he just isn't all wanting to talk about feelings all day long. Opposites attract. We don't want to be with someone just like us. And "man" doesn't equal "jerk." I can see why a woman would not particularly want a super sensitive, effeminate man, is all I'm saying. Same reason a guy wouldn't want to marry a super man-like woman.

Fair enough...what you are describing right there is much more effective way of conveying your point, as opposed to implying an all-or-nothing relationship that a sensitive man = a woman.

I should never quickly fire off responses on my phone. Of course, I'm doing that right now! But I did date a really sensitive guy for a long, long time, and it took me forever to realize that, although we could talk for hours about feelings and that was great, it kinda killed the attraction aspect. Balance is good! My husband and I don't always understand each other, but trying to figure him out is part of what keeps things interesting. I have girlfriends who can fulfill the other role.

[Anonymous]

The crying probably wouldn't bother her as much if he could take control in bed. Sometimes women just want to be f-ed, crude as that sounds.

[Anonymous]

Op, I have a tall, fit and handsome man who is sexually aggressive, passionate and dominant in bed. Do you want to trade your husband to me for him? Your husband sounds very nice and I am interested.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, I have a tall, fit and handsome man who is sexually aggressive, passionate and dominant in bed. Do you want to trade your husband to me for him? Your husband sounds very nice and I am interested.

why would you want to trade?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is no pleasing the DC women.

Isn't that the truth.