My DH is too tender and sensitive

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do many women prefer men who are aggressive and dominant in bed? I am not sure.

Yes! Happily married here but I wish daily that my dh was rougher in bed. Sometimes I moan during sex and he mistakes it for pain and he becomes concerned for me. Gah.

Here we go again. Why are men and women so embarrassed to talk about their sexual needs, especially in a marriage? There are so many problems that could be solved if this was not an issue.

If a woman has to *say* she wants him to be dominant before he'll be rough, then it doesn't count. If he truly loved her and lusted after her, he would be able to control himself around her and she wouldn't have to say anything. (And, when she didn't actually want that level of aggression, he'd just know.) Or something.

Yes, we are all mind readers

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do many women prefer men who are aggressive and dominant in bed? I am not sure.

Yes! Happily married here but I wish daily that my dh was rougher in bed. Sometimes I moan during sex and he mistakes it for pain and he becomes concerned for me. Gah.

Here we go again. Why are men and women so embarrassed to talk about their sexual needs, especially in a marriage? There are so many problems that could be solved if this was not an issue.

If a woman has to *say* she wants him to be dominant before he'll be rough, then it doesn't count. If he truly loved her and lusted after her, he would be able to control himself around her and she wouldn't have to say anything. (And, when she didn't actually want that level of aggression, he'd just know.) Or something.

This 100 percent wrong.

The "I shouldn't have to ask" mentality is a huge fallacy and causes problems in relationships.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:this thread is so disrespectful. her poor husband.

Yeah, but what's he gonna do about it. Wimp.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do many women prefer men who are aggressive and dominant in bed? I am not sure.

Yes! Happily married here but I wish daily that my dh was rougher in bed. Sometimes I moan during sex and he mistakes it for pain and he becomes concerned for me. Gah.

Here we go again. Why are men and women so embarrassed to talk about their sexual needs, especially in a marriage? There are so many problems that could be solved if this was not an issue.

If a woman has to *say* she wants him to be dominant before he'll be rough, then it doesn't count. If he truly loved her and lusted after her, he would be able to control himself around her and she wouldn't have to say anything. (And, when she didn't actually want that level of aggression, he'd just know.) Or something.

This 100 percent wrong.

I think the PP was being facetious.

The "I shouldn't have to ask" mentality is a huge fallacy and causes problems in relationships.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:this thread is so disrespectful. her poor husband.

Yeah, but what's he gonna do about it. Wimp.

Troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do many women prefer men who are aggressive and dominant in bed? I am not sure.

Yes! Happily married here but I wish daily that my dh was rougher in bed. Sometimes I moan during sex and he mistakes it for pain and he becomes concerned for me. Gah.

Here we go again. Why are men and women so embarrassed to talk about their sexual needs, especially in a marriage? There are so many problems that could be solved if this was not an issue.

If a woman has to *say* she wants him to be dominant before he'll be rough, then it doesn't count. If he truly loved her and lusted after her, he would be able to control himself around her and she wouldn't have to say anything. (And, when she didn't actually want that level of aggression, he'd just know.) Or something.

This 100 percent wrong.

The "I shouldn't have to ask" mentality is a huge fallacy and causes problems in relationships.

The bolded, times a billion.

[Anonymous]

Feminazis everywhere told you that you wanted a nice, tender, in-touch-with-his-feminine-side man. Enjoy!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Woman want men to "open up" emotionally and express their feelings -- but, they lose attraction when the men actually do this.

Women want to be treated as an equal -- except when they want to be dominated, and will lose attraction if men can't read their minds and be dominate only when they want it, otherwise, it's rape.

Women want equal pay -- but lose respect if their husbands make less than them, or have a lesser-status job.

Women want men who dress and groom well -- but they also don't because it might mean that the man is too into himself. And a man shouldn't think about himself. He should spend all of his time and energy thinking about doting on his Princess.

There's a reason why there are so many still-single 30s & 40s women in the US today.

This. x10000

[Anonymous]

OP Here ... He teared up after watching a sad story on the nightly news ... Do other men do this??

[Anonymous]

OP again here . It was the story of a woman who lost a limb in an accident last year and then ran 3 miles w/a prosthetic limb this year ... I didn't shed a tear or get emotional while watching this on the news. Of course it is a sad story .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP again here . It was the story of a woman who lost a limb in an accident last year and then ran 3 miles w/a prosthetic limb this year ... I didn't shed a tear or get emotional while watching this on the news. Of course it is a sad story .

Maybe the problem is you need some tenderness, not that he needs to eliminate it. Also I'm sensing a troll.

[Anonymous]

Op here - not a troll ... I'm sensitive but I didn't think men were usually this emotional. Am I wrong?

[Anonymous]

Depends on the man.

We're you both military or just one?

I used to tear up occasionally at tearjerker movies.

Did a lot of tearing up in the first 3 months after my wife died.

Also cried when I lost my first troopers in combat (late 1970s). Didn't seem to hurt my relationship with the remaining ones. (Different culture, though: refugee protection.

[Anonymous]

Depends on the man.

We're you both military or just one?

I used to tear up occasionally at tearjerker movies.

Did a lot of tearing up in the first 3 months after my wife died.

Also cried when I lost my first troopers in combat (late 1970s). Didn't seem to hurt my relationship with the remaining ones. (Different culture, though: refugee protection, local semi-irregular troops).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP again here . It was the story of a woman who lost a limb in an accident last year and then ran 3 miles w/a prosthetic limb this year ... I didn't shed a tear or get emotional while watching this on the news. Of course it is a sad story .

my vagina would atrophy if my DH did that.