My DH is too tender and sensitive

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG Op - Me too!

Lovely guy, honest and trustworthy as you could ever want, handsome, great dad, smart, etc...

Cries at the drop of a hat. The man cries repeatedly during Game of Thrones for god's sake.

Zero passion or sex drive - used to be low, now it's just zero.

For my b'day I'm going to ask him to have his testosterone checked. It's bad.

I totally get it. You are not a colossal bitch.

He's gay.

Yep, I thought about that, and we've even discussed it. I don't think that's the answer, for reasons I don't need to go into here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is no pleasing the DC women.

Isn't that the truth.

The reality is that women are far more complex than men and want more out of relationships than man generally need. Why do you think 2/3 of all divorces are initiated by women (allowing for the fact that men often don't leave because they don't want to give up seeing their kids everyday).

This translates to the need for multiple levels of sexual and emotional requirements. I truly believe through nature that women are more prone to cheat than men because of what OP mentions. She needs her DH to provide emotional support and resources for children. But she also wants a man who is going to dominate and be extremely masculine to satisfy her primal desires as a woman.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like being married to a woman. Major turn off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know there are women who would love to have such a sensitive man. It's too bad you're mismatched. There must be something he does that you feel is manly. Sign him up for martial arts or something.

I think most women will find this unappealing, actually. It's how we're wired. I was with a sensitive guy for 8 years. I broke up with him because there was no romance. We're still friends. He's like a great girlfriend.

Right? And who the hell wants to have sex with their best girlfriend. whrn you move into the nice friend zone, your sex life is gone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The crying probably wouldn't bother her as much if he could take control in bed. Sometimes women just want to be f-ed, crude as that sounds.

And sometimes women are afraid to say so plainly, because we've been socially conditioned from day one that "a lady" doesn't talk like that, or talk about that, or even wants that.

That's why I asked OP if she had tried communicating honestly and openly what she wants in the line of sex.

I don't think the person who answered "He cried" is the OP. I think that poster is a troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The crying probably wouldn't bother her as much if he could take control in bed. Sometimes women just want to be f-ed, crude as that sounds.

And sometimes women are afraid to say so plainly, because we've been socially conditioned from day one that "a lady" doesn't talk like that, or talk about that, or even wants that.

That's why I asked OP if she had tried communicating honestly and openly what she wants in the line of sex.

I don't think the person who answered "He cried" is the OP. I think that poster is a troll.

That is what I admire about gay couples vs. straight - they are not afraid to talk about their wants and needs. Why are married couples so scared to talk about their sexuality? Is it that much of a threat? What is wrong with a woman or man saying, " I want to be dominated, I want to try something new, I want to be submissive for once and have you dream of things you want to do to me, I want to experiment with other couples" or whatever? What is so terrifying about this?

OP, we don't know him. Maybe he wants to do new things and ramp it up! Why can't couples just be honest? So you bang a number of people before you get married and then cannot open up when you have a spouse? Doesn't make sense.

[Anonymous]

Is OP the "fake poster AMA" person?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, I have a tall, fit and handsome man who is sexually aggressive, passionate and dominant in bed. Do you want to trade your husband to me for him? Your husband sounds very nice and I am interested.

why would you want to trade?

Because I've been with him for quite sometime and though sex is great I have other needs that OP's husband can fulfill. And besides sex with a sensitive man can be great.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, I have a tall, fit and handsome man who is sexually aggressive, passionate and dominant in bed. Do you want to trade your husband to me for him? Your husband sounds very nice and I am interested.

why would you want to trade?

Because I've been with him for quite sometime and though sex is great I have other needs that OP's husband can fulfill. And besides sex with a sensitive man can be great.

and what would your DH think about you with another guy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The crying probably wouldn't bother her as much if he could take control in bed. Sometimes women just want to be f-ed, crude as that sounds.

And sometimes women are afraid to say so plainly, because we've been socially conditioned from day one that "a lady" doesn't talk like that, or talk about that, or even wants that.

That's why I asked OP if she had tried communicating honestly and openly what she wants in the line of sex.

I don't think the person who answered "He cried" is the OP. I think that poster is a troll.

That is what I admire about gay couples vs. straight - they are not afraid to talk about their wants and needs. Why are married couples so scared to talk about their sexuality? Is it that much of a threat? What is wrong with a woman or man saying, " I want to be dominated, I want to try something new, I want to be submissive for once and have you dream of things you want to do to me, I want to experiment with other couples" or whatever? What is so terrifying about this?

OP, we don't know him. Maybe he wants to do new things and ramp it up! Why can't couples just be honest? So you bang a number of people before you get married and then cannot open up when you have a spouse? Doesn't make sense.

I'm thinking you are a woman who has never had a sexual relationship with another woman.

This is what is most frustrating about being with women. You never know what the hell they are thinking or what they want. Fucking smoke signals.

[Anonymous]

Woman want men to "open up" emotionally and express their feelings -- but, they lose attraction when the men actually do this.

Women want to be treated as an equal -- except when they want to be dominated, and will lose attraction if men can't read their minds and be dominate only when they want it, otherwise, it's rape.

Women want equal pay -- but lose respect if their husbands make less than them, or have a lesser-status job.

Women want men who dress and groom well -- but they also don't because it might mean that the man is too into himself. And a man shouldn't think about himself. He should spend all of his time and energy thinking about doting on his Princess.

There's a reason why there are so many still-single 30s & 40s women in the US today.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Woman want men to "open up" emotionally and express their feelings -- but, they lose attraction when the men actually do this.

Women want to be treated as an equal -- except when they want to be dominated, and will lose attraction if men can't read their minds and be dominate only when they want it, otherwise, it's rape.

Women want equal pay -- but lose respect if their husbands make less than them, or have a lesser-status job.

Women want men who dress and groom well -- but they also don't because it might mean that the man is too into himself. And a man shouldn't think about himself. He should spend all of his time and energy thinking about doting on his Princess.

There's a reason why there are so many still-single 30s & 40s women in the US today.

+1M
Fucking brilliant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Woman want men to "open up" emotionally and express their feelings -- but, they lose attraction when the men actually do this.

Women want to be treated as an equal -- except when they want to be dominated, and will lose attraction if men can't read their minds and be dominate only when they want it, otherwise, it's rape.

Women want equal pay -- but lose respect if their husbands make less than them, or have a lesser-status job.

Women want men who dress and groom well -- but they also don't because it might mean that the man is too into himself. And a man shouldn't think about himself. He should spend all of his time and energy thinking about doting on his Princess.

There's a reason why there are so many still-single 30s & 40s women in the US today.

Except the OP, as well as several other posters that chimed in, are married. So, there's that.

[Anonymous]

I am as masculine as they come. Many years of sports, outdoor activities and DIY. Yet I can be moved to tears. Sometimes in movies, my daughters getting married, emotionally trying times, more so for others more than myself. I am very connected to my emotions. But when it comes to sex while I can be tender and do enjoy a soft, slow lovemaking session I can also pound the hell out of her. A woman's pleasure is paramount for me so I can also shift gears pretty easily when she wants something different, hard, fast, biting her....well, this is the non-explicit so let me stop there.

[Anonymous]

I'm OP. The "he cried " and the " yeah i thougt about that but that's not it " in reference to him being gay was not me. I've asked him directly to pull my hair or grab me hard on my hips in bed - sometimes he does it but I can tell he feels uncomfortable and isn't that into it. He generally wants to "make love." He was also on a business trip once and I asked him to flirt with a woman at the bar and then tell me about it - in hopes that this would make me very jealous and inspire some passion within me. He would not do it. I feel a lot of love for him but not desire. I have started fantasizing about other men when we are in bed - and I have to fantasize each and every time. I just feel sad and guilty.