Did I screw this mom over?

[Anonymous]

Agree that OP should pay but also agree that it is super weird that the vendor did not mention prices and/or invoice OP.

[Anonymous]

I don't know about just dropping off a check. I'm a PP who suggested asking for an invoice. There is a possibility she will say she "no charge", she is trying to build her business and would appreciate a good review and future business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hah 13:48

My spidey sense thinks there is a troll on holiday today and is coming up with crazy scenarios

So report them to Jeff

I think this one is real, but the movie theater is fake.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Its kind of bold you assumed an acquaintance would do all this hard work for you just because.

In OP's defense, I would also expect said businesswoman/acquaintance to have quoted a price, or provided an invoice.

[Anonymous]

It would be gracious of you to treat it as a business transaction even though she did not present it as such. This is an awkward approach for her to take re: marketing her business, but not everybody is good at all aspects of business. Say you want to do all you can to support her business - and pay her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:$1/pop seems more than reasonable, TBH.

Same. OP, hope you reach out and pay list prices today. PayPal her the money if you need to.

[Anonymous]

Of course you need to pay her, and pay the list price. A dollar a pop is cheap! Those are difficult and time consuming to make. Send her an email and apologize for being so busy erc and you will drop a check for $x in the mail tomorrow.

[Anonymous]

All of you, nearly unanimously, say pay her. I think it's pretty funny. OP can't pay her if she never receives a bill, invoice, offhand mention of estimate, etc. It's not OP's responsibility to graciously and tactfully ask her friend how much money to give her.

While OP probably does owe the "friend" some money, it's incredibly tacky for the friend to make the cake pops and expect to get paid for them, without having mentioned it first. Once OP has settled with the friend, that's the last I'd ever speak to her. And forget a good review or recommendations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All of you, nearly unanimously, say pay her. I think it's pretty funny. OP can't pay her if she never receives a bill, invoice, offhand mention of estimate, etc. It's not OP's responsibility to graciously and tactfully ask her friend how much money to give her.

While OP probably does owe the "friend" some money, it's incredibly tacky for the friend to make the cake pops and expect to get paid for them, without having mentioned it first. Once OP has settled with the friend, that's the last I'd ever speak to her. And forget a good review or recommendations.

Well you sound just delightful. It's always a little awkward when it's friends and not just a bussiness relationship. She probably doesn't quite know how to bring it up because she probably expected you to have casually asked. Ask now. It won't be a big deal.

[Anonymous]

OP told friend how many to make, so she knows how much to pay at $1 per pop. Easy.

[Anonymous]

It would be super awkward for friend to invoice you. That is why you should just pay her for the number you requested.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All of you, nearly unanimously, say pay her. I think it's pretty funny. OP can't pay her if she never receives a bill, invoice, offhand mention of estimate, etc. It's not OP's responsibility to graciously and tactfully ask her friend how much money to give her.

While OP probably does owe the "friend" some money, it's incredibly tacky for the friend to make the cake pops and expect to get paid for them, without having mentioned it first. Once OP has settled with the friend, that's the last I'd ever speak to her. And forget a good review or recommendations.

Well you sound just delightful. It's always a little awkward when it's friends and not just a bussiness relationship. She probably doesn't quite know how to bring it up because she probably expected you to have casually asked. Ask now. It won't be a big deal.

I agree with the PP you're quoting. The OP had no idea that the woman she asked ran a business; it was on that person to say so, as soon as OP asked.

"Yes, I'd love to make the Cars cake pops. I actually provide them as part of my business, the cost would be $XX. Are you still interested?"

If you're going to do business, you need to be comfortable asking people for money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Her prices are kind of high (dollar a pop!) would you pay her "list" prices or just offer her a set amount of money?

$1 per pop is really cheap. These are extremely time consuming treats to make. If you were dumb enough to ask her to bring them without checking her prices, then you just need to suck it up and pay. But, really her prices are quite reasonable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Her prices are kind of high (dollar a pop!) would you pay her "list" prices or just offer her a set amount of money?

$1 per pop is really cheap. These are extremely time consuming treats to make. If you were dumb enough to ask her to bring them without checking her prices, then you just need to suck it up and pay. But, really her prices are quite reasonable.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All of you, nearly unanimously, say pay her. I think it's pretty funny. OP can't pay her if she never receives a bill, invoice, offhand mention of estimate, etc. It's not OP's responsibility to graciously and tactfully ask her friend how much money to give her.

While OP probably does owe the "friend" some money, it's incredibly tacky for the friend to make the cake pops and expect to get paid for them, without having mentioned it first. Once OP has settled with the friend, that's the last I'd ever speak to her. And forget a good review or recommendations.

Well you sound just delightful. It's always a little awkward when it's friends and not just a bussiness relationship. She probably doesn't quite know how to bring it up because she probably expected you to have casually asked. Ask now. It won't be a big deal.

I agree with the PP you're quoting. The OP had no idea that the woman she asked ran a business; it was on that person to say so, as soon as OP asked.

"Yes, I'd love to make the Cars cake pops. I actually provide them as part of my business, the cost would be $XX. Are you still interested?"

If you're going to do business, you need to be comfortable asking people for money.

I totally agree with this. I think the whole interaction sounds weird. If someone said to me, "I'd be happy to bring cake pops to your kid's birthday!" I might ask how much she charges but I also might not think about it and say, "Oh, what a nice gesture!". Especially if I didn't realize it was her business and thought it was just a hobby for her. We have an annual party and people bring stuff all the time.

Did the woman literally show up with the cake pops with no further interaction? Was OP counting on them as the "dessert" for the party or were they extra above and beyond cake, etc.? If the initial interaction was several weeks ago, and OP contacted her to confirm because she was counting on them as the "cake" - then yes, she should pay. But if they had an off-hand conversation two weeks ago and then no further interaction before the other mom showed up with the cake pops, I wouldn't necessarily think she was expecting payment.