Did I screw this mom over?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here! Yikes I was totally in the wrong! I pay paled her the exact amount I owed her according to her list prices.

You had no idea this was a business - the baker is at fault too. I think ppl are being way too hard on OP. OP graciously admitted she was wrong without being defensive and paid. I think she's a class act.

OP DID know---baker has a FB that list prices!

Which she found out AFTER the party and she friended her on Facebook. I still maintain that if baker expected to be paid, she should have said the charges up front.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here! Yikes I was totally in the wrong! I pay paled her the exact amount I owed her according to her list prices.

You had no idea this was a business - the baker is at fault too. I think ppl are being way too hard on OP. OP graciously admitted she was wrong without being defensive and paid. I think she's a class act.

OP DID know---baker has a FB that list prices!

Which she found out AFTER the party and she friended her on Facebook. I still maintain that if baker expected to be paid, she should have said the charges up front.

PP again who couldn't agree with you more. Yeah, OP, you probably could have asked her what she charged when she said she'd make the cake pops, but she's very passive for someone running her own business. Again, if you want to be paid, you have to be comfortable asking for money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I think I should be ok. I messaged her that I pay paled her the payment and I really appreciated her hard work and she said... "thank you so much, look forward to future parties. " So i don't think she will be insulted I paid her. Looking back it was silly for me to think otherwise.

glad to hear it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here! Yikes I was totally in the wrong! I pay paled her the exact amount I owed her according to her list prices.

You had no idea this was a business - the baker is at fault too. I think ppl are being way too hard on OP. OP graciously admitted she was wrong without being defensive and paid. I think she's a class act.

OP DID know---baker has a FB that list prices!

Which she found out AFTER the party and she friended her on Facebook. I still maintain that if baker expected to be paid, she should have said the charges up front.

PP again who couldn't agree with you more. Yeah, OP, you probably could have asked her what she charged when she said she'd make the cake pops, but she's very passive for someone running her own business. Again, if you want to be paid, you have to be comfortable asking for money.

Totally agree.

I don't think OP was in the wrong at all, but she definitely did the right thing.

The pile-on criticism was definitely uncalled for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here! Yikes I was totally in the wrong! I pay paled her the exact amount I owed her according to her list prices.

You had no idea this was a business - the baker is at fault too. I think ppl are being way too hard on OP. OP graciously admitted she was wrong without being defensive and paid. I think she's a class act.

OP DID know---baker has a FB that list prices!

Which she found out AFTER the party and she friended her on Facebook. I still maintain that if baker expected to be paid, she should have said the charges up front.

PP again who couldn't agree with you more. Yeah, OP, you probably could have asked her what she charged when she said she'd make the cake pops, but she's very passive for someone running her own business. Again, if you want to be paid, you have to be comfortable asking for money.

Also completely agree. Don't offer to make something for someone and fail to mention you charge for it!!

Totally agree.

I don't think OP was in the wrong at all, but she definitely did the right thing.

The pile-on criticism was definitely uncalled for.

[Anonymous]

This was the weirdest thread ever.

1. OP's acquiantance offers to make cake pops for a party and brings them
2. OP LATER finds out said acquiantance has a business BUT never asked OP to pay.
3. OP PAYS acquiantance and then later says "hey i paid you".

AWKWARD

[Anonymous]

If she was just a friend of a friend that you FB friended afterwards, how did she know the time and exact date of the party to just show up with the pops?

[Anonymous]

I think it's odd that this supposed business woman doesn't know how to ask for and bill a customer. At best, the baker left it vague. Yes, OP should pay her. But, it is incumbent on the baker to ensure that happens. Otherwise, her business days will be numbered.

[yonster]

Anonymous wrote:This was the weirdest thread ever.

1. OP's acquiantance offers to make cake pops for a party and brings them
2. OP LATER finds out said acquiantance has a business BUT never asked OP to pay.
3. OP PAYS acquiantance and then later says "hey i paid you".

AWKWARD

haha totally.

As a business woman, myself, if you don't ask, you will not receive.
We can't rely on the nicenss of our customers to pay us without letting them know that it's a service-for-fee.
You have state the price and see if they customer even wants the service for whatever price or product.
Who knows? Maybe the OP wouldn't have wanted the pops if she considered it too much for the budget!
Obviously the baker is inexperienced. but I'm sure she learned her lesson.

It WAS SUPER NICE of the OP to consider and DID MAKE THE payment when she wasn't asked to do so.
Not very smart of the baker to never mention it and it should've been a lesson to her. But thankful for the OP, she got paid.

Anyway, let's be all be nice.

[Anonymous]

I'm so confused by this post -- how did the baker mom know the time/place of the party? Was her child also invited to the party or was there more formal follow up about date, time, number of pops needed, etc.

I don't necessarily fault OP b/c it sounds like the baker needs to be more up front about the fact she has a business and what she charges. I'd probably be somewhat caught off guard if some mom at a party just started offering to do something for me without being up front about the fact it is a business transaction. Maybe OP wouldn't have wanted the cake pops if she knew the prices, but now sort of got suckered into being a customer.

Either way, it sounds like an awkward lesson learned for both parties.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here! Yikes I was totally in the wrong! I pay paled her the exact amount I owed her according to her list prices.

You had no idea this was a business - the baker is at fault too. I think ppl are being way too hard on OP. OP graciously admitted she was wrong without being defensive and paid. I think she's a class act.

OP DID know---baker has a FB that list prices!

Which she found out AFTER the party and she friended her on Facebook. I still maintain that if baker expected to be paid, she should have said the charges up front.

I totally agree. Sounds to me like the baker was kind of sneaky about it. she should have been more upfront about owning a bakery and happy to provide the baked goods at her standard prices. Not some BS making it sound like she's just a friend bringing some treats.

[Anonymous]

$1 a pop? I'd love to know the baker mom's FB page!

[Anonymous]

PAY HER. Wow. You are dense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PAY HER. Wow. You are dense.

No, you're dense. OP already paid her a couple of pages back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's odd that this supposed business woman doesn't know how to ask for and bill a customer. At best, the baker left it vague. Yes, OP should pay her. But, it is incumbent on the baker to ensure that happens. Otherwise, her business days will be numbered.

Exactly..+1000