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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]All of you, nearly unanimously, say pay her. I think it's pretty funny. OP can't pay her if she never receives a bill, invoice, offhand mention of estimate, etc.  It's not OP's responsibility to graciously and tactfully ask her friend how much money to give her.

While OP probably does owe the "friend" some money, it's incredibly tacky for the friend to make the cake pops and expect to get paid for them, without having mentioned it first. Once OP has settled with the friend, that's the last I'd ever speak to her. And forget a good review or recommendations.[/quote]

Well you sound just delightful. It's always a little awkward when it's friends and not just a bussiness relationship. She probably doesn't quite know how to bring it up because she probably expected you to have casually asked. Ask now. It won't be a big deal. [/quote]

I agree with the PP you're quoting.  The OP had no idea that the woman she asked ran a business; it was on that person to say so, as soon as OP asked.

"Yes, I'd love to make the Cars cake pops.  I actually provide them as part of my business, the cost would be $XX.  Are you still interested?"

If you're going to do business, you need to be comfortable asking people for money.[/quote]

I totally agree with this. I think the whole interaction sounds weird. If someone said to me, "I'd be happy to bring cake pops to your kid's birthday!" I might ask how much she charges but I also might not think about it and say, "Oh, what a nice gesture!".  Especially if I didn't realize it was her business and thought it was just a hobby for her. We have an annual party and people bring stuff all the time.

Did the woman literally show up with the cake pops with no further interaction? Was OP counting on them as the "dessert" for the party or were they extra above and beyond cake, etc.? If the initial interaction was several weeks ago, and OP contacted her to confirm because she was counting on them as the "cake" - then yes, she should pay. But if they had an off-hand conversation two weeks ago and then no further interaction before the other mom showed up with the cake pops, I wouldn't necessarily think she was expecting payment. [/quote]

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