Would you be upset with your husband over this?
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Anonymous
Those idiots are not worth keeping. |
Anonymous
Maybe if this was 1952... |
Anonymous
These women are so insecure. They have we when they'd don't feel like it just to keep their man from cheating. |
Anonymous
I think a perfectly intelligent, faithful person can be happy because he has a good sex life and his stomach is satisfied. My husband would never cheat but those things would make him very happy. Marriage is about fulfilling each other's needs and those two needs are very important to a lot of men. Maybe other men like a very clean house or someone who goes hiking with them or something like that, I don't know. But men do seem a lot simpler than women. |
Anonymous
| Big Bitch agreed. Swallow his load. |
Anonymous
What, men changed in 1952? Or is that when women were relieved of the obligation of doing their part to keep a marriage happy? But, as a guy, I'm happy to meet her half way. I can order a pizza. |
Anonymous
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We do not know everything. WHY doesn't she desire him more? Maybe hes a controlling, full of himself narcissistic, complete control freak. Maybe there's a reason!
No doubt she is feeling vulnerable by what this so called friend said but for her husband to also call her out on in, right or wrong just rubbed salt into a wound she is already really uncomfortable with. I think her husband was totally wrong to verbally attack her in the car instead of calling the other woman out for what she did which was super inappropriate. If the shoes were reverse, I cannot imagine her husband or any wounded man for that reason wouldn't explode! Think of it that way. |
Anonymous
But you're turning this into DH failing. He's probably feeling unloved and lacks intimacy. Hate to share our secret, but men crave intimacy as much as women. IMO, his response reflects his feeling Isolated from the marriage, frustrated that he has no idea how get what he needs (intimacy), and Probably wondering what he's done to fail the marriage. |
Anonymous
Wow, you sound like a great catch. 
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Anonymous
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Your friend was not being a good friend to you. It's hard to judge a whole relationship based on one incident but if she does this kind of thing to you a lot (throw you under the bus to make herself look better), I would lose her number.
That said, I think your H's reaction was also off. He should gave been in your corner as well and wasn't. It sounds like the sex thing us a bigger deal to him than maybe you really realize. I think you are vulnerable here and I would be careful. Maybe tho whim a bone more often? |
Anonymous
| But if he didn't know hisbwife confided in her friend, how could he be in her corner. He probably just assumed it was more of the natural flirting dynamic the OP described. |
Anonymous
It's sexist but unfortunately true in my (admittedly limited) experience. Think about how many couples you know URL and posts you see on here where the problem is that the male half wants more sex and the female half would rather go to bed with a good book 
I'm not exempting myself btw. We have the same issue. In my case though I make it a rule to initiate 2x a week because he gets too grumpy otherwise. But seriously, it's amazing to me what a difference it makes in his mood and how he treats me. I don't know whether I should be happy or depressed about it. (At least I have this effect on him? But if we couldn't gave sex for a long time for some reason, would our marriage be over?) |
Anonymous
| Newsflash people marriage is not only about sex. I have a truly great marriage, solid and healthy as a rock. But we have sex maybe 2-5 times a month. We are both fine with that, if either of us wanted it more we would say so. That said, there have been months where we haven't had sex or maybe only 1 or 2 times. It did not change the dynamic at all, we are each others best friend and this works for us. Any marriage that would fail due to lack of sex was never a strong one to begin with, and I believe that with every ounce of my being. |
Anonymous
It sounds like there are more issues at play than lack of sex. It also doesn't sound like the lack of sex is working with her husband. And I think that is ok. I love my husband more than anything and he's my best friend, but if he rejected me on a regular basis and was not interested in sex, it would most certainly impact our marriage. Not because of the lack of sex, but because of the rejection and the little interest in my needs as well. Yes, low sex marriages work for some people but I don't think saying that the ones that don't work aren't a strong marriage. Years of rejection and coldness can take a toll on either a husband or a wife. That said, the fact that OP and her husband were arguing after dinner and THEN he said something leads me to believe they have other issues. Same with the fact that OP said two words to her husband all day and made plans in order to avoid him over something that many PPs are confused as to why she's so angry. Both these things make me think there are other issues going on than just the lack of interest from the wife. |
Anonymous
This x 1,000. |