Would you be upset with your husband over this?

[Anonymous]

Please find a good therapist. Enough time goes by when one spouse isn't satisfied and trouble will come to pass. Your husband likely feels rejected and you feel badgered. You probably need help to find that middle ground of a good satisfying marriage for both of you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please find a good therapist. Enough time goes by when one spouse isn't satisfied and trouble will come to pass. Your husband likely feels rejected and you feel badgered. You probably need help to find that middle ground of a good satisfying marriage for both of you.

dont be so alarmist.
relationships go thru ups and downs.

[Anonymous]

Your friend is a bitch, and likes being the center of attention. You really need to find a way to up that sex drive, fwiw. I'm the female in our relationship and it's my DH who won't put out and it puts an ENORMOUS strain on our relationship. My $.02.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your friend is a bitch, and likes being the center of attention. You really need to find a way to up that sex drive, fwiw. I'm the female in our relationship and it's my DH who won't put out and it puts an ENORMOUS strain on our relationship. My $.02.

NP here. why wont he put out?

Agree about the friend.

[Anonymous]

Your friend is a bitch, but your H needs more sex. Give it to him before he gets is elsewhere.

[Anonymous]

I think she's a bitch and you need to stop confiding in her. But I also think you need to sick it up and have more sex with your dh. I'm a woman btw. From the way you described your dh (women want him etc, and he's obviously not happy with your sex life) I'd think he's ripe pickings for a predatory woman. If he doesn't get it at home and others are offering...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think she's a bitch and you need to stop confiding in her. But I also think you need to sick it up and have more sex with your dh. I'm a woman btw. From the way you described your dh (women want him etc, and he's obviously not happy with your sex life) I'd think he's ripe pickings for a predatory woman. If he doesn't get it at home and others are offering...

I agree with this pp except for the term "predatory woman." I think it deprives men of their agency. He is a man, not a baby gazelle. If he has an affair, it'll be just as much his decision and responsibility as the other woman's.

[Anonymous]

I admit to being confused why you'd be mad at DH over this. It really had nothing to do with him. Your friend is the problem!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think she's a bitch and you need to stop confiding in her. But I also think you need to sick it up and have more sex with your dh. I'm a woman btw. From the way you described your dh (women want him etc, and he's obviously not happy with your sex life) I'd think he's ripe pickings for a predatory woman. If he doesn't get it at home and others are offering...

I will never understand this argument. If a husband cheats because he's unhappy with his sex life at home then truly, he wasn't worth having in the first place. Good riddance. If you really think this is a possibility, why are you with him?

Work on your sex life because you love your husband or because you want to make your marriage better--not because you're afraid he'll cheat.

[Anonymous]

Don't get why you are so mad at your husband. Especially the only speaking 2 words to him and intentionally avoiding him. If this speaks to the dynamics of your marriage plus the no sex thing, I'd probably try to work on it before you wind up like the other couple.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think she's a bitch and you need to stop confiding in her. But I also think you need to sick it up and have more sex with your dh. I'm a woman btw. From the way you described your dh (women want him etc, and he's obviously not happy with your sex life) I'd think he's ripe pickings for a predatory woman. If he doesn't get it at home and others are offering...

I will never understand this argument. If a husband cheats because he's unhappy with his sex life at home then truly, he wasn't worth having in the first place. Good riddance. If you really think this is a possibility, why are you with him?

Work on your sex life because you love your husband or because you want to make your marriage better--not because you're afraid he'll cheat.

I agree that a man who cheats is not worth having. But, I also think that a wife who chooses not to have sex with you isn't worth having either.

Also confused with the chronology. Bitch friend hits on sex-starved husband. No clue what the husband did from that point until he's in the car with a fight apparently already in progress and says that wife could take pointers from bitch friend. Which, while tactless, is probably accurate. Men aren't complicated - keep their balls empty and their stomachs full.

[Anonymous]

don't be mad at your husband. he was just trying to plead his case!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: Men aren't complicated - keep their balls empty and their stomachs full.

Sister that is the truth. If everyone followed this advice DCUM might not exist!

[Anonymous]

That friend is such bitch.
End that relationship with this so called friend.

[Anonymous]

I would add--keep their heads big.