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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Same father who is very involved. We were never married. the kids are 7,5,3.[/quote]

I totally acknowledge that my situation is different, since I have 1 child, but thought I should share anyway. I'm 30, with a 3.5yo. Ex is still involved regularly as well. I have found that usually guys are impressed with my situation. DD has a dad she sees 6 days a week (we split drop off/pick up), I have a decent amount of free time, and when my ex is brought up in conversation, I always speak positively of the situation (i.e. "Coparenting works, relationship didn't. No complaints."). I think its assumed when you're 20 something with kids that there must be drama or an absentee parent. I also find that people are more understanding of the breakup due to incompatibility because we early 20s when we met. Guys have told me they respect the fact we have made the most out of what could have been a bad situation.

There will be some guys who will not be interested, sure. But that holds true for anyone, you will not be everybody's type. Although I tend to date childless men, I have dated some divorced guys who only seriously date women with kids because they had kids young and don't want to feel obligated to have more. Being attractive definitely helps. I have met a couple of guys who have dated women with 3-5 kids and were open to marriage. One joked that his ex was so fine, she could've had 3 more kids and he wouldn't have cared (she had 3). A mutual friend tried to hook me up with the latter, but we werent a match. For one, he wants a large family so a single mom is a bonus to him. However, he prefers single moms without the dad around because he's a diplomat and moves every 2 years internationally. So there's someone for everyone out here.[/quote]

For most guys in the 29-35 age bracket, a woman with one child would be far more appealing than a woman with three.  Coming to a relationship with one child still leaves plenty of room (literally and figuratively) for the new couple to have kids of their own.  With three, it becomes much harder logistically, financially, and mentally for the couple to add more.[/quote]

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