My ex is engaged to a 24 year old

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Anonymous wrote:I a 42 yo married woman so I fully realize that this could happen to me too, but I honestly cannot understand why your would cringe or even care enough to cringe. He is getting married and she was not his mistress. Try to be happy fo him and her. She is going to be your children's step mother.

Please! You are married.

I'm sure you would be all giggles and smiles if you ended up divorced next year and your DH running off to marry a perky 24yr old.

Maybe not giggles and smiles but I can assure you that unless this woman played a role in the end of the marriage I would not give a rats ass. Life is too short to obsess about other people lives.

I am sorry but after ending a marriage, even mutual and friendly like with no infidelity- I still think I would have some feeling when that person moved on in a matter of months to get remarried. Maybe you are a robot with no feelings but most people would be somewhat affected...

[Anonymous]

At least your kids have a playmate.

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Anonymous wrote:Gee, maybe she loves him! The mother of my half sister (now 22) is only 3 years older than I am. She and I get along fine and my sister and I have a great relationship. My own mother treats her like one of the family. OP, I think that you are being a bit bitter. The only thing you shoud be worried about is whether she will be good to your kids.

I find it telling you are surprised that a 24 yo would want to marry your ex. Having regrets perhaps?

Um when most women are 24 they are busy chasing around other hot 24 yr olds, not old men! An old geezer like that would have made my skin crawl, maybe its because I'm not into fucking guys as old as my dad?

Some women prefer older men. A friend of a friend is 25 and dating a 51 yr old. I'm in my 20's dating a 42 yr old. It happens.

It does happen, and far too often, but it's incomprehensible to me. I vote Daddy issues, too, on the sweet tender young thing's part, and dick-swinging uninhibited by self-awareness and common decency on the ex's part.

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Anonymous wrote:Gee, maybe she loves him! The mother of my half sister (now 22) is only 3 years older than I am. She and I get along fine and my sister and I have a great relationship. My own mother treats her like one of the family. OP, I think that you are being a bit bitter. The only thing you shoud be worried about is whether she will be good to your kids.

I find it telling you are surprised that a 24 yo would want to marry your ex. Having regrets perhaps?

Um when most women are 24 they are busy chasing around other hot 24 yr olds, not old men! An old geezer like that would have made my skin crawl, maybe its because I'm not into fucking guys as old as my dad?

46 is not an old geezer! It's not like he's 80!
For those who can't see how this woman could possibly be interested in him, let me lay it out for you, trying to be as respectful to OP as possible: he just got out of a 21 year marriage. He is probably acting pretty damn carefree right now- he's divorced, he's got a young woman interested in him. He's probably a lot of fun right now. He takes her out to nice dinners, because he can afford to, and at 46, actually has taste. He is smart and has conversations with her. He is SO INTO HER because he's 46 and out of a long marriage and can't believe a 24 year old is interested in him, so right now, she feels like a queen. The kids obviously like her, so she thinks it's cute and fun when they're around and has no idea that when she's their stepmom, it might actually be serious and hard sometimes. And eventually, the OP's husband will settle down again and get back into the routine of being a 46 year old married dad- and maybe she can handle that and will be fine with it, but maybe she won't. But she doesn't see that right now. She sees a charming guy who adores her and worships her and she's the cool stepmother figure and it's gonna be awesome and great and they're gonna be a happy family. She thinks, Oh, I'll never have to work through the kinks of training a young guy- this one is trained. He has a career, and is obviously a family man. He will be a great dad when we have a child, and my child will have built in siblings already. I will always be his young hot wife on his arm, and he will never tire of me.

I am 38. My EX is 32. His DS is 48. Our DS is 8 mos. So yes, 46 can be a little on the old side

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OP I get it. I am divorced.

Just smile and nod. Never ever say anything negative to anyone. Take the high road. Get yourself a 24 YO boy toy.

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Anonymous wrote:Gee, maybe she loves him! The mother of my half sister (now 22) is only 3 years older than I am. She and I get along fine and my sister and I have a great relationship. My own mother treats her like one of the family. OP, I think that you are being a bit bitter. The only thing you shoud be worried about is whether she will be good to your kids.

I find it telling you are surprised that a 24 yo would want to marry your ex. Having regrets perhaps?

Um when most women are 24 they are busy chasing around other hot 24 yr olds, not old men! An old geezer like that would have made my skin crawl, maybe its because I'm not into fucking guys as old as my dad?

46 is not an old geezer! It's not like he's 80!
For those who can't see how this woman could possibly be interested in him, let me lay it out for you, trying to be as respectful to OP as possible: he just got out of a 21 year marriage. He is probably acting pretty damn carefree right now- he's divorced, he's got a young woman interested in him. He's probably a lot of fun right now. He takes her out to nice dinners, because he can afford to, and at 46, actually has taste. He is smart and has conversations with her. He is SO INTO HER because he's 46 and out of a long marriage and can't believe a 24 year old is interested in him, so right now, she feels like a queen. The kids obviously like her, so she thinks it's cute and fun when they're around and has no idea that when she's their stepmom, it might actually be serious and hard sometimes. And eventually, the OP's husband will settle down again and get back into the routine of being a 46 year old married dad- and maybe she can handle that and will be fine with it, but maybe she won't. But she doesn't see that right now. She sees a charming guy who adores her and worships her and she's the cool stepmother figure and it's gonna be awesome and great and they're gonna be a happy family. She thinks, Oh, I'll never have to work through the kinks of training a young guy- this one is trained. He has a career, and is obviously a family man. He will be a great dad when we have a child, and my child will have built in siblings already. I will always be his young hot wife on his arm, and he will never tire of me.

I am 38. My EX is 32. His DS is 48. Our DS is 8 mos. So yes, 46 can be a little on the old side

Your 32 year old's ex's son is 48? I'm not following...

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gee, maybe she loves him! The mother of my half sister (now 22) is only 3 years older than I am. She and I get along fine and my sister and I have a great relationship. My own mother treats her like one of the family. OP, I think that you are being a bit bitter. The only thing you shoud be worried about is whether she will be good to your kids.

I find it telling you are surprised that a 24 yo would want to marry your ex. Having regrets perhaps?

Um when most women are 24 they are busy chasing around other hot 24 yr olds, not old men! An old geezer like that would have made my skin crawl, maybe its because I'm not into fucking guys as old as my dad?

46 is not an old geezer! It's not like he's 80!
For those who can't see how this woman could possibly be interested in him, let me lay it out for you, trying to be as respectful to OP as possible: he just got out of a 21 year marriage. He is probably acting pretty damn carefree right now- he's divorced, he's got a young woman interested in him. He's probably a lot of fun right now. He takes her out to nice dinners, because he can afford to, and at 46, actually has taste. He is smart and has conversations with her. He is SO INTO HER because he's 46 and out of a long marriage and can't believe a 24 year old is interested in him, so right now, she feels like a queen. The kids obviously like her, so she thinks it's cute and fun when they're around and has no idea that when she's their stepmom, it might actually be serious and hard sometimes. And eventually, the OP's husband will settle down again and get back into the routine of being a 46 year old married dad- and maybe she can handle that and will be fine with it, but maybe she won't. But she doesn't see that right now. She sees a charming guy who adores her and worships her and she's the cool stepmother figure and it's gonna be awesome and great and they're gonna be a happy family. She thinks, Oh, I'll never have to work through the kinks of training a young guy- this one is trained. He has a career, and is obviously a family man. He will be a great dad when we have a child, and my child will have built in siblings already. I will always be his young hot wife on his arm, and he will never tire of me.

I am 38. My EX is 32. His DS is 48. Our DS is 8 mos. So yes, 46 can be a little on the old side

Your 32 year old's ex's son is 48? I'm not following...

Sorry my 32 year old ex's dad is 48. we have a DS 8 mos. So yes, 46 can be old....sorry the screen is jumping for some reason.

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Congrats to him!

I bet he's happy with a nice young thing after all those years.

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so for clarity: ex is 32, his dad is 48 or 49 his mom is 47 or 48. They are both grandparents to three kids. Grandparants at 40!...it was a small small community in a different time.

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I had a relatipnship with a 46 year old when I was in my twenties. He was not married (or well, divorced, but well before me). I'm glad I didn't marry him and yeah, I probably had daddy issues, but I didn't think he was gross.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gee, maybe she loves him! The mother of my half sister (now 22) is only 3 years older than I am. She and I get along fine and my sister and I have a great relationship. My own mother treats her like one of the family. OP, I think that you are being a bit bitter. The only thing you shoud be worried about is whether she will be good to your kids.

I find it telling you are surprised that a 24 yo would want to marry your ex. Having regrets perhaps?

Um when most women are 24 they are busy chasing around other hot 24 yr olds, not old men! An old geezer like that would have made my skin crawl, maybe its because I'm not into fucking guys as old as my dad?

46 is not an old geezer! It's not like he's 80!
For those who can't see how this woman could possibly be interested in him, let me lay it out for you, trying to be as respectful to OP as possible: he just got out of a 21 year marriage. He is probably acting pretty damn carefree right now- he's divorced, he's got a young woman interested in him. He's probably a lot of fun right now. He takes her out to nice dinners, because he can afford to, and at 46, actually has taste. He is smart and has conversations with her. He is SO INTO HER because he's 46 and out of a long marriage and can't believe a 24 year old is interested in him, so right now, she feels like a queen. The kids obviously like her, so she thinks it's cute and fun when they're around and has no idea that when she's their stepmom, it might actually be serious and hard sometimes. And eventually, the OP's husband will settle down again and get back into the routine of being a 46 year old married dad- and maybe she can handle that and will be fine with it, but maybe she won't. But she doesn't see that right now. She sees a charming guy who adores her and worships her and she's the cool stepmother figure and it's gonna be awesome and great and they're gonna be a happy family. She thinks, Oh, I'll never have to work through the kinks of training a young guy- this one is trained. He has a career, and is obviously a family man. He will be a great dad when we have a child, and my child will have built in siblings already. I will always be his young hot wife on his arm, and he will never tire of me.

I am 38. My EX is 32. His DS is 48. Our DS is 8 mos. So yes, 46 can be a little on the old side

Your 32 year old's ex's son is 48? I'm not following...

Sorry my 32 year old ex's dad is 48. we have a DS 8 mos. So yes, 46 can be old....sorry the screen is jumping for some reason.

I have the ages down, but . . .

I
don't
follow
any
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it!

none!

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Don't be embarrassed.. YOU have nothing to be embarrassed about OP.

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Ew, when I was 26, I went out with a 43 year old for a while. We actually had tons in common (he was immature, I guess), he tried really hard to be "cool" and I tried really hard to like him (and all the nice restaurants and bars he took me too) but he was just old and felt old and it was wrong.

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Anonymous wrote:Gee, maybe she loves him! The mother of my half sister (now 22) is only 3 years older than I am. She and I get along fine and my sister and I have a great relationship. My own mother treats her like one of the family. OP, I think that you are being a bit bitter. The only thing you shoud be worried about is whether she will be good to your kids.

I find it telling you are surprised that a 24 yo would want to marry your ex. Having regrets perhaps?

Um when most women are 24 they are busy chasing around other hot 24 yr olds, not old men! An old geezer like that would have made my skin crawl, maybe its because I'm not into fucking guys as old as my dad?

Some women prefer older men. A friend of a friend is 25 and dating a 51 yr old. I'm in my 20's dating a 42 yr old. It happens.

Why are you on this site?

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My best friend's dad left his wife of 20 years and turned around months later and married a 23 fresh out of college teacher at our school! It was so crazy. I remember how embarassed my friend was. We were 16 and this woman used to babysit for my parents. Everyone was shocked! 20 years later, they are still together, with two kids of their own. They seem happy.