My ex is engaged to a 24 year old

[Anonymous]

so is the 24 fat and ugly?

[Anonymous]

Yikes. Sorry, OP, that is pretty cringe-worthy. And I have no doubt that her "coolness" will fade very very quickly.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry OP. Does your ex have a lot of money? That's the only reason I can think of why a 24 year old would be interested.

My brother had a friend in high school whose Dad married a much younger woman. The friend was a senior in high school (17 years old) and her Dad married an 18 year old!!!!!

It was really hard on my brother's friend, she and her new "step mom" did not get along at all. Her mother was dead so she really had nowhere else to live but with her Dad and new step mom.

[Anonymous]

OP, the marriage will fail, at least statistically.
I would have no problem with telling the kids to be careful about who they tell and how they say it. Honestly, if my dd told me that her bf's father is marrying a woman of that age, there would be no more play dates at that house. I would see him as nuts.
Call me judgmental.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:is she hot

Please. What "hot" woman, who presumably has lots of options, would chose a 46 year old man with 3 kids?

A gold digger of course! Or one with daddy issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Gee, maybe she loves him! The mother of my half sister (now 22) is only 3 years older than I am. She and I get along fine and my sister and I have a great relationship. My own mother treats her like one of the family. OP, I think that you are being a bit bitter. The only thing you shoud be worried about is whether she will be good to your kids.

I find it telling you are surprised that a 24 yo would want to marry your ex. Having regrets perhaps?

Um when most women are 24 they are busy chasing around other hot 24 yr olds, not old men! An old geezer like that would have made my skin crawl, maybe its because I'm not into fucking guys as old as my dad?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gee, maybe she loves him! The mother of my half sister (now 22) is only 3 years older than I am. She and I get along fine and my sister and I have a great relationship. My own mother treats her like one of the family. OP, I think that you are being a bit bitter. The only thing you shoud be worried about is whether she will be good to your kids.

I find it telling you are surprised that a 24 yo would want to marry your ex. Having regrets perhaps?

Um when most women are 24 they are busy chasing around other hot 24 yr olds, not old men! An old geezer like that would have made my skin crawl, maybe its because I'm not into fucking guys as old as my dad?

46 is not an old geezer! It's not like he's 80!
For those who can't see how this woman could possibly be interested in him, let me lay it out for you, trying to be as respectful to OP as possible: he just got out of a 21 year marriage. He is probably acting pretty damn carefree right now- he's divorced, he's got a young woman interested in him. He's probably a lot of fun right now. He takes her out to nice dinners, because he can afford to, and at 46, actually has taste. He is smart and has conversations with her. He is SO INTO HER because he's 46 and out of a long marriage and can't believe a 24 year old is interested in him, so right now, she feels like a queen. The kids obviously like her, so she thinks it's cute and fun when they're around and has no idea that when she's their stepmom, it might actually be serious and hard sometimes. And eventually, the OP's husband will settle down again and get back into the routine of being a 46 year old married dad- and maybe she can handle that and will be fine with it, but maybe she won't. But she doesn't see that right now. She sees a charming guy who adores her and worships her and she's the cool stepmother figure and it's gonna be awesome and great and they're gonna be a happy family. She thinks, Oh, I'll never have to work through the kinks of training a young guy- this one is trained. He has a career, and is obviously a family man. He will be a great dad when we have a child, and my child will have built in siblings already. I will always be his young hot wife on his arm, and he will never tire of me.

[Anonymous]

When my dad was 61, I was 24 and he had an affair with a 22 yo girl. He was even going to this girl's house and met her parents. I cringe just writing about it. My mom didn't divorce him but their marriage is a piece of shit since then.

the age gap is disgusting.

I even think J Lo is a dumb bitch for dating that guy. What a pathetic couple...OMG..she is so ridiculous...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I a 42 yo married woman so I fully realize that this could happen to me too, but I honestly cannot understand why your would cringe or even care enough to cringe. He is getting married and she was not his mistress. Try to be happy fo him and her. She is going to be your children's step mother.

Please! You are married.

I'm sure you would be all giggles and smiles if you ended up divorced next year and your DH running off to marry a perky 24yr old.

Maybe not giggles and smiles but I can assure you that unless this woman played a role in the end of the marriage I would not give a rats ass. Life is too short to obsess about other people lives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gee, maybe she loves him! The mother of my half sister (now 22) is only 3 years older than I am. She and I get along fine and my sister and I have a great relationship. My own mother treats her like one of the family. OP, I think that you are being a bit bitter. The only thing you shoud be worried about is whether she will be good to your kids.

I find it telling you are surprised that a 24 yo would want to marry your ex. Having regrets perhaps?

Um when most women are 24 they are busy chasing around other hot 24 yr olds, not old men! An old geezer like that would have made my skin crawl, maybe its because I'm not into fucking guys as old as my dad?

Some women prefer older men. A friend of a friend is 25 and dating a 51 yr old. I'm in my 20's dating a 42 yr old. It happens.

[Anonymous]

Age is just a number. I know 46 year olds who act like they are in their 20s, and 24 year olds who have their shit together and act much older.

[Anonymous]

46 is definitely an old geezer to a 24 year old. Can you say "Daddy Issues?" Sorry, OP, nothing for you to cringe about but be grateful you are done with that dirty old man ex.

[Anonymous]

Very disturbing, OP. You really have to wonder what each of them is thinking.

The power imbalance inherent to the old guy, young woman thing is also troubling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Gee, maybe she loves him! The mother of my half sister (now 22) is only 3 years older than I am. She and I get along fine and my sister and I have a great relationship. My own mother treats her like one of the family. OP, I think that you are being a bit bitter. The only thing you shoud be worried about is whether she will be good to your kids.

I find it telling you are surprised that a 24 yo would want to marry your ex. Having regrets perhaps?

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[Anonymous]

when I was 24- I thought a 30 year old was a geezer. yuck.

that girl has issues, and it goes without saying so does ex.