My ex is engaged to a 24 year old

[Anonymous]

Oh yeah, if she is his grad student, that explains everything ...

[Anonymous]

OP, she wants three hots and a cot. Hopefully when she is done with him she will be able to trade up.

[Anonymous]

If you got rid of him for maturity issues, here is your proof that you were spot on. Be glad he's having his midlife crisis on someone else's turf.

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Anonymous wrote:Gee, maybe she loves him! The mother of my half sister (now 22) is only 3 years older than I am. She and I get along fine and my sister and I have a great relationship. My own mother treats her like one of the family. OP, I think that you are being a bit bitter. The only thing you shoud be worried about is whether she will be good to your kids.

I find it telling you are surprised that a 24 yo would want to marry your ex. Having regrets perhaps?

Um when most women are 24 they are busy chasing around other hot 24 yr olds, not old men! An old geezer like that would have made my skin crawl, maybe its because I'm not into fucking guys as old as my dad?

I totally agree w/ the skin crawl statement!! I felt the same way and even @ nearly 39 find large age gaps sort of gross. To me there's just something off about a man who cant/wont date someone more age appropriate.

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Anonymous wrote:Gee, maybe she loves him! The mother of my half sister (now 22) is only 3 years older than I am. She and I get along fine and my sister and I have a great relationship. My own mother treats her like one of the family. OP, I think that you are being a bit bitter. The only thing you shoud be worried about is whether she will be good to your kids.

I find it telling you are surprised that a 24 yo would want to marry your ex. Having regrets perhaps?

I agree, OP is probably a little bit bitter, there aren't many divorces that don't leave a bit of bitterness at the very least. But falling in love after 5 months?? pulllllleeeease. that only happens in hollywood and other dream lands, and we all know how it turns out. OP's ex is probably having a bit of mid-life crisis. he's divorced, probably balding. why couldn't he just get a new car or buy a Hawaiian print shirt like other men?

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Anonymous wrote:Lots of younger women lover older guys

says old man with hairy tufts coming out of his ears.



let's rephrase that. lots of younger women lover older guys with lots of money.

Please don't flatter yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gee, maybe she loves him! The mother of my half sister (now 22) is only 3 years older than I am. She and I get along fine and my sister and I have a great relationship. My own mother treats her like one of the family. OP, I think that you are being a bit bitter. The only thing you shoud be worried about is whether she will be good to your kids.

I find it telling you are surprised that a 24 yo would want to marry your ex. Having regrets perhaps?

Um when most women are 24 they are busy chasing around other hot 24 yr olds, not old men! An old geezer like that would have made my skin crawl, maybe its because I'm not into fucking guys as old as my dad?

46 is not an old geezer! It's not like he's 80!
For those who can't see how this woman could possibly be interested in him, let me lay it out for you, trying to be as respectful to OP as possible: he just got out of a 21 year marriage. He is probably acting pretty damn carefree right now- he's divorced, he's got a young woman interested in him. He's probably a lot of fun right now. He takes her out to nice dinners, because he can afford to, and at 46, actually has taste. He is smart and has conversations with her. He is SO INTO HER because he's 46 and out of a long marriage and can't believe a 24 year old is interested in him, so right now, she feels like a queen. The kids obviously like her, so she thinks it's cute and fun when they're around and has no idea that when she's their stepmom, it might actually be serious and hard sometimes. And eventually, the OP's husband will settle down again and get back into the routine of being a 46 year old married dad- and maybe she can handle that and will be fine with it, but maybe she won't. But she doesn't see that right now. She sees a charming guy who adores her and worships her and she's the cool stepmother figure and it's gonna be awesome and great and they're gonna be a happy family. She thinks, Oh, I'll never have to work through the kinks of training a young guy- this one is trained. He has a career, and is obviously a family man. He will be a great dad when we have a child, and my child will have built in siblings already. I will always be his young hot wife on his arm, and he will never tire of me.

I agree with PP, and I'm a 27 yr old woman.
I'm dating a 42 yr old who doesn't have any children.

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5 months from actual divorce? This was gone some time before the divorce was granted.

[Anonymous]

PP here, sorry meant if divorce was nine months ago, then there were years of growing apart prior. Crappy yes, youngster yes, but guy hasn't had much of a partner in quite a while I'd bet.

[Anonymous]

OP, who else was going to take him, really? Maybe she has daddy issues?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gee, maybe she loves him! The mother of my half sister (now 22) is only 3 years older than I am. She and I get along fine and my sister and I have a great relationship. My own mother treats her like one of the family. OP, I think that you are being a bit bitter. The only thing you shoud be worried about is whether she will be good to your kids.

I find it telling you are surprised that a 24 yo would want to marry your ex. Having regrets perhaps?

Um when most women are 24 they are busy chasing around other hot 24 yr olds, not old men! An old geezer like that would have made my skin crawl, maybe its because I'm not into fucking guys as old as my dad?

46 is not an old geezer! It's not like he's 80!
For those who can't see how this woman could possibly be interested in him, let me lay it out for you, trying to be as respectful to OP as possible: he just got out of a 21 year marriage. He is probably acting pretty damn carefree right now- he's divorced, he's got a young woman interested in him. He's probably a lot of fun right now. He takes her out to nice dinners, because he can afford to, and at 46, actually has taste. He is smart and has conversations with her. He is SO INTO HER because he's 46 and out of a long marriage and can't believe a 24 year old is interested in him, so right now, she feels like a queen. The kids obviously like her, so she thinks it's cute and fun when they're around and has no idea that when she's their stepmom, it might actually be serious and hard sometimes. And eventually, the OP's husband will settle down again and get back into the routine of being a 46 year old married dad- and maybe she can handle that and will be fine with it, but maybe she won't. But she doesn't see that right now. She sees a charming guy who adores her and worships her and she's the cool stepmother figure and it's gonna be awesome and great and they're gonna be a happy family. She thinks, Oh, I'll never have to work through the kinks of training a young guy- this one is trained. He has a career, and is obviously a family man. He will be a great dad when we have a child, and my child will have built in siblings already. I will always be his young hot wife on his arm, and he will never tire of me.

Um, yes. When I was 24, 46 was OLD. When I was 24, my mother was 43 and that was as old as Jesus.

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Love sees no age

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a bunch of bitter old women posting.

46 is not gross. If the guy takes care of himself, he can actually be hot. (Brad Pitt is 48; Clooney is 50; Johnny Depp is 48; Tom Cruise is 49).

Good for this husband! He had a long marriage and raised his kids. Unfortunately the marriage didn't last, but life goes on. I hope he has a fun ride, however long it lasts!!!

Amen. My DH is 18 years older then me - we have a wonderful relationship. Why the assumptions that you'd have nothing in common? Don't get it - why wouldn't you have things in common? We love to do the same things, discuss the same things, and enjoy raising our son together. Not every 46 year old is the same, and not every 24 yo is the same.

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My condolences to his fiance.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a bunch of bitter old women posting.

46 is not gross. If the guy takes care of himself, he can actually be hot. (Brad Pitt is 48; Clooney is 50; Johnny Depp is 48; Tom Cruise is 49).

Good for this husband! He had a long marriage and raised his kids. Unfortunately the marriage didn't last, but life goes on. I hope he has a fun ride, however long it lasts!!!

Amen. My DH is 18 years older then me - we have a wonderful relationship. Why the assumptions that you'd have nothing in common? Don't get it - why wouldn't you have things in common? We love to do the same things, discuss the same things, and enjoy raising our son together. Not every 46 year old is the same, and not every 24 yo is the same.

Well, I'm not bitter and not old, unless you think 31 is old.

I think generally, in OUR culture, to have an intimate relationship with someone 22 years your senior is pretty gross and is indicative of having daddy issues. I lump them in the same psychological category as strippers, hookers, and porn stars.