Parents letting their little girls sleep over at my ex husband's house

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are you letting your kids sleep there?

She probably has a court ordered custody schedule.

Have you seriously never heard of divorce?

[Anonymous]

If I met a divorced dad who lives in the same neighborhood as his ex-wife, and has what appears to be a really pleasant relationship with her, I would not assume he was a bad guy. I would assume it was an amicable divorce and make my own decision about him based on our interactions.

I mean, I wouldn't let my young girl sleep over at his house, but my girls' first sleepover wasn't until they were around 10 years old anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not being a good husband is separate from whether he can be a safe supervising adult around kids.

Not being a safe driver is separate from whether he can safely supervise kids at home (if I knew someone got a fairly recent DUI and didn't know for sure they'd done rehab no way would I consider them driving my kids).

If, based on his behavior that you know about and the neighbors don't, you genuinely strongly suspect his drinking makes it unsafe for him to supervise children, you should consider saying something, once, to the parents.

If, based on his behavior that you know about first hand and other people don't, you truly suspect he is or will become a child molester..... you likely need to contact law enforcement and/or cps.

Only you know how genuine and well-founded your concerns are. Act accordingly. Be the sort of adult kids in danger need (if applicable) or be the sort of civil co-parent you would want your ex to be to you (if appropriate).

This.

[Anonymous]

It is absolutely insane to let kids sleep over at a single man's house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is absolutely insane to let kids sleep over at a single man's house.

Simply because he’s single, or are you inferring the absence of a woman serving as a de facto guardian?
Because if it’s an issue of marital status, I can assure you that married men offend as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is absolutely insane to let kids sleep over at a single man's house.

The man is putting himself in danger as well. It is insane both ways.

[Anonymous]

As usual the “there’s a pedo around every corner” posters are horrified. And the poster who claimed to be a former prosecutor doesn’t know that boys are molested by religious leaders, sports coaches, Boy Scouts, their own family members. It’s not common but neither is molesting girls outside of family members and trusted people.

My daughter had a best friend in 5th grade. Sadly she moved after one year but her single father was the best. I really liked him, he was so easy to get along with. We would take turns taking the girls out to movies, parks, carnivals, they played basketball together. And my daughter slept over their house.

The mother on the other hand wasn’t very nice. The first time I met her she went on and on about how horrible he was. He never said a word about her.

[Anonymous]

Vacation wife, is this you?

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1280637.page

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Vacation wife, is this you?

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1280637.page

+1. Nailed it!

[Anonymous]

This looney tune posts here ALL the time

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are you letting your kids sleep there?

Coming to post the same. Your kids are there!

[Anonymous]

Alcoholic pedo says what?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a former prosecutor it always chills me how easily some parents send their kids - especially girls - to sleep in a home with a man they barely know. Even teen boys can be predators, think of the girl raped and murdered by her own stepbrother.

Sleepovers at my house only.

Is there not a man in your house? If you feel so strongly about this, why would you expose other little girls to risks you won't take with your own children? Unless there are no men in your house, your response to this concern should be "no sleepovers," not "let me make sure my own kids are safe but who cares about these other kids."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is absolutely insane to let kids sleep over at a single man's house.

Simply because he’s single, or are you inferring the absence of a woman serving as a de facto guardian?
Because if it’s an issue of marital status, I can assure you that married men offend as well.

NP but for me it’s the absence of a woman’s presence, not marital status. I work with survivors of DV and SA, so I don’t allow my kids to sleepover at anyone’s house regardless. I’ve heard too much and experienced things myself as a kid. I think it’s a lot worse to let kids sleepover with a single male and no other adults, period. There are many stories in the news about things that happen at play dates- doesn’t even have to be sleepovers. Parents need to understand they should be fully aware who their kids spend time with and under what circumstances- never blindly trust anyone with your kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is absolutely insane to let kids sleep over at a single man's house.

Simply because he’s single, or are you inferring the absence of a woman serving as a de facto guardian?
Because if it’s an issue of marital status, I can assure you that married men offend as well.

So deep