Parents letting their little girls sleep over at my ex husband's house

[Anonymous]

Ex and I have two daughters ages 6 and 7.

We live in the same neighborhood and generally share the neighborhood friends so our kids have playdates with the local crew regardless of which house they're at. However, there are 2 families that live on his specific block, one with a 9yo girl and one with a 10yo girl. I havent met either family but the kids all play outside together when the girls are at their dad's. These 2 families avoid me at school functions so I'm not quite sure what the deal is there.

Friday night my ex texted me pics of my girls and the 2 older girls from the block having a sleepover at his house. I was...shocked. I actually assumed it would be hard for him to even have playdates at his house as a solo dad with only daughters, but the fact that two families let their little girls sleep there is bonkers to me.

Dont they presume he's a not so good person if his wife left him while we had little kids? Fwiw, he had a 3 year long affair, hid drinking, got a very severe DUI that was on trial for a year, those things resulted in job loss and he was unemployed for the last year. So, not exactly an upstanding citizen and someone I worry about having to coparent with.

Am I crazy? Are they crazy?

[Anonymous]

He clearly has the charisma to charm and convince people, OP. Isn't that why you married him?

What's sad is that he's turned these families against you. That's not cool at all. I'm sorry about that.

[Anonymous]

You are bonkers. Not them. Lots of good people of both genders get divorced.

[Anonymous]

The divorced dads I know are no better or worse people than the divorced moms, and I don't keep my kids away from either.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes the mom's have affairs and aren't good people.

[Anonymous]

So because he’s a divorced dad who left his wife’s he’s a pedo?

It’s his house, you can’t control what happens, but I really do think it’s weird that the parents allowed that. Sounds like they are careless parents.

[Anonymous]

Nice judgment of them when you’re the idiot who procreated with the dirtbag, TWICE.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The divorced dads I know are no better or worse people than the divorced moms, and I don't keep my kids away from either.

This

[Anonymous]

Why are you letting your kids sleep there?

[Anonymous]

So he’s not safe, he’s a pedophile, apparently, and you let your kids sleep there? Surely you have police reports and court orders, OP. If he’s dangerous.

[Anonymous]

The DUI and the drinking might be reasons to keep your kids away, but that's information they don't have. You can't assume a divorced dad has a DUI or that anyone else (including a woman) doesn't have one. I've got a good friend who got a DUI with her kids in the car, and you'd see her as a standup mother and member of the school community if you met her.

[Anonymous]

When people get divorced I don’t automatically think that one is a monster. I think that it didn’t work out. (And I’m happily married with extended family who for the most part are all in long term happy marriages).

If my kid’s friend’s parents split up I wouldn’t automatically ban sleepovers at the dad’s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So he’s not safe, he’s a pedophile, apparently, and you let your kids sleep there? Surely you have police reports and court orders, OP. If he’s dangerous.

Right? Most divorced people aren't pedophiles or sexual predators.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ex and I have two daughters ages 6 and 7.

We live in the same neighborhood and generally share the neighborhood friends so our kids have playdates with the local crew regardless of which house they're at. However, there are 2 families that live on his specific block, one with a 9yo girl and one with a 10yo girl. I havent met either family but the kids all play outside together when the girls are at their dad's. These 2 families avoid me at school functions so I'm not quite sure what the deal is there.

Friday night my ex texted me pics of my girls and the 2 older girls from the block having a sleepover at his house. I was...shocked. I actually assumed it would be hard for him to even have playdates at his house as a solo dad with only daughters, but the fact that two families let their little girls sleep there is bonkers to me.

Dont they presume he's a not so good person if his wife left him while we had little kids? Fwiw, he had a 3 year long affair, hid drinking, got a very severe DUI that was on trial for a year, those things resulted in job loss and he was unemployed for the last year. So, not exactly an upstanding citizen and someone I worry about having to coparent with.

Am I crazy? Are they crazy?

Uh, no? They might not know you initiated the divorce, it might be infidelity (his OR yours), which is yucky but doesn't mean someone isn't safe to be around kids, etc.

[Anonymous]

Youve posted here several times about this loser. Maybe he’s a pedo