Q to the ladies: What gets you turned on?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Choreplay is king. Do some chores so that I am not tired and resentful of you when we get in bed. If I am I not cussing you out in my mind you have a better chance of getting laid.

I think that some men think this means that women literally get aroused by watching men do chores.

It’s more like having the chores done means that I can get into a headspace to get aroused if we start kissing and touching.

What if the guy always did his share of the chores? Would the woman's libido always be high(er)?

I have been married twice, and lived with another woman. I always split the chores in a mutually agreed upon way. I never noticed any correlation between completing a household task and my partner's horniness.

There might be a correlation but not the one you see. They were probably wiped out re-doing tasks you couldn't do right the first time.

Ha,ha, nice try. One relationship I left for reasons unrelated to sex, and I'm still married to my 2nd wife. So I don't think my poor choreplay was the problem, or at least it doesn't correlate with relationships in my expereince.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am a woman and I am always ready to go (I don’t think it’s my hormones in my 40s, I have always been like this). Words turn me on, and confidence too. When my husband tells me he wants me, that I’m sexy, etc. etc. that’s pretty much all I need.

Let us know in your 50s and 60s, then you can state the role of hormones.

Yeah, I can’t be the only one to answer “nothing, literally nothing.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Choreplay is king. Do some chores so that I am not tired and resentful of you when we get in bed. If I am I not cussing you out in my mind you have a better chance of getting laid.

I think that some men think this means that women literally get aroused by watching men do chores.

It’s more like having the chores done means that I can get into a headspace to get aroused if we start kissing and touching.

What if the guy always did his share of the chores? Would the woman's libido always be high(er)?

I have been married twice, and lived with another woman. I always split the chores in a mutually agreed upon way. I never noticed any correlation between completing a household task and my partner's horniness.

There might be a correlation but not the one you see. They were probably wiped out re-doing tasks you couldn't do right the first time.

Ha,ha, nice try. One relationship I left for reasons unrelated to sex, and I'm still married to my 2nd wife. So I don't think my poor choreplay was the problem, or at least it doesn't correlate with relationships in my expereince.

Did you have sexual issues in your relationships? You didn’t say.

[Anonymous]

Acting like he desires me especially and notices things about me.
I remember reading an Onion story where a man’s wedding vows were something like “Out of all the women who were willing to sleep with me, you were the best looking one so I guess I’ll marry you.” This is every woman’s nightmare!
Women are fundamentally a little bit narcissistic and we need that validation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Choreplay is king. Do some chores so that I am not tired and resentful of you when we get in bed. If I am I not cussing you out in my mind you have a better chance of getting laid.

I think that some men think this means that women literally get aroused by watching men do chores.

It’s more like having the chores done means that I can get into a headspace to get aroused if we start kissing and touching.

What if the guy always did his share of the chores? Would the woman's libido always be high(er)?

I have been married twice, and lived with another woman. I always split the chores in a mutually agreed upon way. I never noticed any correlation between completing a household task and my partner's horniness.

There might be a correlation but not the one you see. They were probably wiped out re-doing tasks you couldn't do right the first time.

Ha,ha, nice try. One relationship I left for reasons unrelated to sex, and I'm still married to my 2nd wife. So I don't think my poor choreplay was the problem, or at least it doesn't correlate with relationships in my expereince.

Did you have sexual issues in your relationships? You didn’t say.

No, although my current wife has a higher libido than me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Choreplay is king. Do some chores so that I am not tired and resentful of you when we get in bed. If I am I not cussing you out in my mind you have a better chance of getting laid.

I think that some men think this means that women literally get aroused by watching men do chores.

It’s more like having the chores done means that I can get into a headspace to get aroused if we start kissing and touching.

What if the guy always did his share of the chores? Would the woman's libido always be high(er)?

I have been married twice, and lived with another woman. I always split the chores in a mutually agreed upon way. I never noticed any correlation between completing a household task and my partner's horniness.

There might be a correlation but not the one you see. They were probably wiped out re-doing tasks you couldn't do right the first time.

Ha,ha, nice try. One relationship I left for reasons unrelated to sex, and I'm still married to my 2nd wife. So I don't think my poor choreplay was the problem, or at least it doesn't correlate with relationships in my expereince.

Did you have sexual issues in your relationships? You didn’t say.

No, although my current wife has a higher libido than me.

Well then. I think this is proof that choreplay works!
If her libido is too high, cut back on the chores. That will dampen it

[Anonymous]

Most Sundays my husband is nothing but a Dad, starting with breakfast right through tubbie time. Watching him having fun with our children is a real turn on. I make sure to cook a nice dinner and then all I want to do is jump on him and I do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a woman, late 40s. For me, it’s a matter of chemistry. I’ve been with my boyfriend for about 5 months, and we both just want each other all the time. He says that we are like magnets and rabbits - just can’t put our hands off each other, and it’s never enough, sometimes after 4-5 times a day.

Signed, Gary, 57, in Cleveland.

[Anonymous]

For a few months my libido has been running on overdrive and it takes little to turn me on. My husband has been the recipient of this behavior but I think he's even backed off on any flirting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a woman, late 40s. For me, it’s a matter of chemistry. I’ve been with my boyfriend for about 5 months, and we both just want each other all the time. He says that we are like magnets and rabbits - just can’t put our hands off each other, and it’s never enough, sometimes after 4-5 times a day.

Signed, Gary, 57, in Cleveland.

No, I’m for real. This is what can happen when you’re so into each other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a woman, late 40s. For me, it’s a matter of chemistry. I’ve been with my boyfriend for about 5 months, and we both just want each other all the time. He says that we are like magnets and rabbits - just can’t put our hands off each other, and it’s never enough, sometimes after 4-5 times a day.

Signed, Gary, 57, in Cleveland.

No, I’m for real. This is what can happen when you’re so into each other.

Also 5 months in.

[Anonymous]

52 woman here. Good body, very confident, masculine. Take charge.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Choreplay is king. Do some chores so that I am not tired and resentful of you when we get in bed. If I am I not cussing you out in my mind you have a better chance of getting laid.

Choreplay. LOL

[Anonymous]

I feel now I am older I have a better idea of what I want.

I want someone who is confident but not narcissistic, kind, social skills, loyal, sees me and listens to me and cares about my feelings and thoughts, does little things to show they are paying attention. They go out of their way during sex to make sure I feel comfortable. Someone who is emotionally regulated and has muscles and cares about fitness and takes good care of their presentation without being vain (well groomed, dresses well) turns me on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Choreplay is king. Do some chores so that I am not tired and resentful of you when we get in bed. If I am I not cussing you out in my mind you have a better chance of getting laid.

I think that some men think this means that women literally get aroused by watching men do chores.

It’s more like having the chores done means that I can get into a headspace to get aroused if we start kissing and touching.

What if the guy always did his share of the chores? Would the woman's libido always be high(er)?

I have been married twice, and lived with another woman. I always split the chores in a mutually agreed upon way. I never noticed any correlation between completing a household task and my partner's horniness.

There might be a correlation but not the one you see. They were probably wiped out re-doing tasks you couldn't do right the first time.

There’s no winning once you’re married and have kids. She’s gotten what she wanted to accomplish out of you (wedding and kids). Now resentment builds and there’s no answer you can offer as a man that’s the right one. Young kids are hard and she resents you for it. She sure as hell doesn’t want you experiencing any pleasure in life. Its a subtle, unspoken and passive feeling that ranges from indifference to hate.