Reply to She wants a very high-quality man

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "She wants a very high-quality man—what are her chances?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are you asking for someone you know?[/quote]

Yes, a cousin. Forgot to add that she’s never worked and doesn’t plan to ever work.[/quote]

She's never worked and doesn't plan to ever work, she hates cooking and cleaning, she's lazy with her chores, she doesn't drive, and has no hobbies, but she's willing to do whatever it takes to please her husband. What is her education level? Is she religious?

Honestly, she sounds like the pampered daughter of some wealthy foreign businessman. She probably grew up with nannies/governesses, housekeepers, cooks, and chauffeurs. If she is looking for a wealthy American husband that checks all of her boxes, I think she's going to run into some challenges. If she's looking for a conservative, wealthy foreign husband, she might have a better chance.[/quote]

She's from a regular UMC New England family, currently a college student majoring in English and History, and isn't religious.

[/quote]

It's really not okay to behave like this in UMC New England culture. She will have to marry someone from a different culture.[/quote]

Tell her it's not happening.

Tell her that if she really wants a wealthy husband, she's going to need to also make it a job, and seek help from her relatives and friends to meet lots of men. Men in her age group will not be rich - she's going to need to assess wealth potential, which is different. If she wants money now, she will need to look for established older men. Most of them want slightly younger women, but they do want evidence of intelligence in terms of diplomas and budding careers, even if their wives them stay home for life... because the children need to not be dumb.

She needs to prove she can bring intelligence to the table. She needs to be a good conversationalist, and be able to show that she's very well-read, has a lot of global culture and is generally knowledgeable about many things, including current events. Then men she meets will be impressed, and might not care so much about messiness or lack of a successful career. Instead of refusing to work, she has to figure out what career she can start that will sustain her if the husband plan doesn't work out.

I agree with another poster - she seems quite autistic. She has a lot of mental rigidity and anxieties about practical aspects of life, along with some evidence of executive function issues (in the housekeeping category). In total, it's all a red flag for autism.

[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics