S/O What motivates men to string women along for years?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just propose to him. Will you marry me? No? Ok bye. Don’t twist his arm and make him propose to you, that’s really just you proposing and lying about who is doing it.

A man who wants to propose will do so. No reason to make it weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just propose to him. Will you marry me? No? Ok bye. Don’t twist his arm and make him propose to you, that’s really just you proposing and lying about who is doing it.

A man who wants to propose will do so. No reason to make it weird.

How old are you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just read the thread about the 26yo whose 34yo boyfriend still hasn’t proposed after 3 years of dating and it has got me thinking about why men do this.

I know many women who’ve experienced this. The guy would always know that his girlfriend wants commitment and he knew he wasn’t planning to her give her that, yet, would continue to date her and waste years of her time.

Why aren’t they just upfront about their intentions and end the relationship?

The OP in that thread never identified a job and acknowledged she was still being supported by her parents. While they had been dating for three years, she was still in the process of moving in with him. No rational person could think she was ready for marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just propose to him. Will you marry me? No? Ok bye. Don’t twist his arm and make him propose to you, that’s really just you proposing and lying about who is doing it.

A man who wants to propose will do so. No reason to make it weird.

How old are you?

How old are you?? Do you think you speak for modern young men or something?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just read the thread about the 26yo whose 34yo boyfriend still hasn’t proposed after 3 years of dating and it has got me thinking about why men do this.

I know many women who’ve experienced this. The guy would always know that his girlfriend wants commitment and he knew he wasn’t planning to her give her that, yet, would continue to date her and waste years of her time.

Why aren’t they just upfront about their intentions and end the relationship?

The OP in that thread never identified a job and acknowledged she was still being supported by her parents. While they had been dating for three years, she was still in the process of moving in with him. No rational person could think she was ready for marriage.

And yet that man was dating her. Indicating he is not ready for marriage despite quickly honing in on middle age.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just propose to him. Will you marry me? No? Ok bye. Don’t twist his arm and make him propose to you, that’s really just you proposing and lying about who is doing it.

A man who wants to propose will do so. No reason to make it weird.

How old are you?

How old are you?? Do you think you speak for modern young men or something?

Why not answer the question? Are you suffering from dementia?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just read the thread about the 26yo whose 34yo boyfriend still hasn’t proposed after 3 years of dating and it has got me thinking about why men do this.

I know many women who’ve experienced this. The guy would always know that his girlfriend wants commitment and he knew he wasn’t planning to her give her that, yet, would continue to date her and waste years of her time.

Why aren’t they just upfront about their intentions and end the relationship?

As I get older I see that women don't give themselves enough agency. That can always leave when they are not getting what they want. No need to be a victim.

We also give men too much credit for having a 'motivation'. They generally have no idea what they are doing.

I agree with this - the ones with the clear intentions and endgame in mind are the ones who are proposing!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just read the thread about the 26yo whose 34yo boyfriend still hasn’t proposed after 3 years of dating and it has got me thinking about why men do this.

I know many women who’ve experienced this. The guy would always know that his girlfriend wants commitment and he knew he wasn’t planning to her give her that, yet, would continue to date her and waste years of her time.

Why aren’t they just upfront about their intentions and end the relationship?

The OP in that thread never identified a job and acknowledged she was still being supported by her parents. While they had been dating for three years, she was still in the process of moving in with him. No rational person could think she was ready for marriage.

And yet that man was dating her. Indicating he is not ready for marriage despite quickly honing in on middle age.

Maybe he was hoping she'd grow up. He has time. No reason to rush into marriage with someone that is obviously still trying to get her life in order.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just read the thread about the 26yo whose 34yo boyfriend still hasn’t proposed after 3 years of dating and it has got me thinking about why men do this.

I know many women who’ve experienced this. The guy would always know that his girlfriend wants commitment and he knew he wasn’t planning to her give her that, yet, would continue to date her and waste years of her time.

Why aren’t they just upfront about their intentions and end the relationship?

The OP in that thread never identified a job and acknowledged she was still being supported by her parents. While they had been dating for three years, she was still in the process of moving in with him. No rational person could think she was ready for marriage.

And yet that man was dating her. Indicating he is not ready for marriage despite quickly honing in on middle age.

Maybe he was hoping she'd grow up. He has time. No reason to rush into marriage with someone that is obviously still trying to get her life in order.

If he cared to grow up himself, he would date someone who was already an adult. Clearly he’s emotionally stunted while she’s at least closer to acting her age.

[Anonymous]

I thought women were done with men, per all of the raging threads on this forum.

Anyway, if you want to get married so much, you can propose to him. Being "strung along" is a conscious choice.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just propose to him. Will you marry me? No? Ok bye. Don’t twist his arm and make him propose to you, that’s really just you proposing and lying about who is doing it.

A man who wants to propose will do so. No reason to make it weird.

How old are you?

How old are you?? Do you think you speak for modern young men or something?

Why not answer the question? Are you suffering from dementia?

I’m in my 30s; young enough to know men propose when they want to. But you’re clearly playing some dumb game, trying to convince people men like playing the girl now.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just read the thread about the 26yo whose 34yo boyfriend still hasn’t proposed after 3 years of dating and it has got me thinking about why men do this.

I know many women who’ve experienced this. The guy would always know that his girlfriend wants commitment and he knew he wasn’t planning to her give her that, yet, would continue to date her and waste years of her time.

Why aren’t they just upfront about their intentions and end the relationship?

The OP in that thread never identified a job and acknowledged she was still being supported by her parents. While they had been dating for three years, she was still in the process of moving in with him. No rational person could think she was ready for marriage.

And yet that man was dating her. Indicating he is not ready for marriage despite quickly honing in on middle age.

Maybe he was hoping she'd grow up. He has time. No reason to rush into marriage with someone that is obviously still trying to get her life in order.

If he cared to grow up himself, he would date someone who was already an adult. Clearly he’s emotionally stunted while she’s at least closer to acting her age.

Maybe. But by their mid-30s, a lot of women are already fat, even if they haven't had kids yet.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Just propose to him. Will you marry me? No? Ok bye. Don’t twist his arm and make him propose to you, that’s really just you proposing and lying about who is doing it.

A man who wants to propose will do so. No reason to make it weird.

How old are you?

How old are you?? Do you think you speak for modern young men or something?

Why not answer the question? Are you suffering from dementia?

I’m in my 30s; young enough to know men propose when they want to. But you’re clearly playing some dumb game, trying to convince people men like playing the girl now.

So you like to have you cake and eat it too?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just propose to him. Will you marry me? No? Ok bye. Don’t twist his arm and make him propose to you, that’s really just you proposing and lying about who is doing it.

A man who wants to propose will do so. No reason to make it weird.

How old are you?

How old are you?? Do you think you speak for modern young men or something?

Why not answer the question? Are you suffering from dementia?

I’m in my 30s; young enough to know men propose when they want to. But you’re clearly playing some dumb game, trying to convince people men like playing the girl now.

What a strange way to put it. Why can't women just say what they want instead of making it a game?

And there's no way you're younger than 60.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just propose to him. Will you marry me? No? Ok bye. Don’t twist his arm and make him propose to you, that’s really just you proposing and lying about who is doing it.

A man who wants to propose will do so. No reason to make it weird.

How old are you?

How old are you?? Do you think you speak for modern young men or something?

Why not answer the question? Are you suffering from dementia?

I’m in my 30s; young enough to know men propose when they want to. But you’re clearly playing some dumb game, trying to convince people men like playing the girl now.

What a strange way to put it. Why can't women just say what they want instead of making it a game?

And there's no way you're younger than 60.

I’m guessing you’re a boomer who believes in boomer feminism.