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Would you choose a great partner even though sex is mediocre?
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Anonymous
You’re saying it’s not a deal breaker but I kind of think it is |
Anonymous
| You will cheat in 10 years or less if you do this. |
Anonymous
Sex does matter. I am 50 and have a very active sex life, now when both of our kids grown up, only youngest one in college and comes back for breaks. I have a female friend who is 62 and still have an active sex life. I would never give that up for some $$$. |
Anonymous
| I accepted mediocre sex during my 25 yr marriage because I didn't know any better. After my divorce I had a BF who was fantastic in bed. Since then I would not accept anything less just to be in a relationship. I would rather be single because solo sex is better than mediocre sex. |
Anonymous
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You will be miserable down the road if you are already bothered by it.
The red flags you ignore in the beginning end up being the reasons for divorce….signed 52 yr old women with many friends in that situation right now. |
Anonymous
| No, I like sex too much. |
Anonymous
I am also sensing that it’s a dealbreaker for OP. The thing about relationships is that YOU are the person in them. If this is a dealbreaker for you OP you have to be honest with yourself about it. This will not stop bothering you and over time may grow in your mind. The things that bothered me in the beginning of my relationship were the things that almost broke the marriage. Listen to your own heart and your own instincts. It’s not stupid or trivial to want to have sexual satisfaction in a long term relationship. Maybe a man that isn’t as impressive on paper would be a better partner for you. Maybe a less good looking guy who blows your mind in the bedroom would make you happier long term. |
Anonymous
This is true in all relationships to a certain extent. Once the honeymoon phase is over, you won't have sex as much. It's normal. People who keep trying to chase that initial high are the ones with a string of broken relationships. As far as the sex not being that great. It's two things. Mental - you must get your head into the game. It isn't always instant, like it might be with a long time crush. Physical - you must communicate and teach your lover what you like, and they teach you. |
Anonymous
I won’t. I don’t cheat. I was with an ex for years who wasn’t that skilled and it didn’t cause me to cheat or look elsewhere. Our breakup had nothing to do with sex either. |
Anonymous
You may not cheat, that’s true. But I generally think younger people are very naive about how they will feel 10, 20, 30, 40 years in a situation. |
Anonymous
This is your problem right here. You are expecting him to be a mind reader. It’s not submissive, it’s passing responsibility. Why not say “I love when you take charge and do XYZ. When you go down, I’d love it even more if you would…”. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
You are freaking ridiculous op! So much so that I kind of think your thread is a work of fiction. If you are real I don't think you really want a relationship or you really need to grow up if you want to be in one. You have to communicate with your partner. This is not fairytale land and though you claim to be a realistic your posts show you are the opposite you are chasing a unicorn. You can want whatever you want but don't pretend you're not. |
Anonymous
So you're looking for a reason to break up |
Anonymous
6 months in? You can still teach him. If he's a good guy, he'll want to learn. |