Would you choose a great partner even though sex is mediocre?

[Anonymous]

I (30f) have been dating a guy (33) for close to 6 months. He is a really great guy. He meets all of my materialistic requirements and more. We get along really well but sex is mediocre. It’s by no means bad, but I do find myself longing for certain acts to be better. My friends are split - some told me to breakup, while a couple of others told me to stay with him because sex won’t matter much down the line. I know I can’t have it all, but I was hoping sex would be really great. Do I forego great sex in order to have a guy who matches all of my other requirements?

[Anonymous]

Can it e improved upon ,have you tried coaching?

[Anonymous]

He deserves a better woman. Please move on.

[Anonymous]

Is it because he’s selfish? Because if he’s selfish that way, he’ll end up being selfish in other ways.

[Anonymous]

Yes, break up.

You don’t deserve him.

[Anonymous]

Which one is easier to find, most of your requirements or great sex?

[Anonymous]

No.

[Anonymous]

If he's coachable and unselfish, yes. Sex can always change. The best sex of your life can drop off a cliff, mediocre can be improved. If both parties are enthusiastic and willing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can it e improved upon ,have you tried coaching?

I have and some acts he just doesn’t do well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it because he’s selfish? Because if he’s selfish that way, he’ll end up being selfish in other ways.

Very giving lover. Sexual intercourse is great. I just wish he was better at giving oral.

[Anonymous]

Speaking as a 50-something woman, pick the good husband and good father. Mediocre sex will not ruin your life but a bad partner will. I am 20 years into a wonderful marriage to a guys who is pretty bad at sex. He is my best friend and a great dad and makes a lot of money. My life is really great. I would not trade one thing about him for better sex.

[Anonymous]

After the first kid your resentment will lead to a dead bedroom from which his resentment will naturally follow.

[Anonymous]

If you're already longing for something else, sex-wise, then no.

I did marry an amazing guy and the sex is mediocre, and it's totally fine. But I'm not a super sexual person and neither is he. It's totally adequate and he is perfect and wonderful. Great choice for me!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Speaking as a 50-something woman, pick the good husband and good father. Mediocre sex will not ruin your life but a bad partner will. I am 20 years into a wonderful marriage to a guys who is pretty bad at sex. He is my best friend and a great dad and makes a lot of money. My life is really great. I would not trade one thing about him for better sex.

Good to know. I was leaning towards that because I love him but a couple friends keep telling me to not be with a man who doesn’t sexually satisfy all needs.

He does make a lot of money but I don’t care much about that. What I care about is that he treats me well. I feel comfortable with him, he’s a good person, and I find him so hot. Our values align and I love his personality. He’s also great with communication, financially stable, and I love his family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:After the first kid your resentment will lead to a dead bedroom from which his resentment will naturally follow.

Why would I resent him?