Divorced dating sex life

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 50 and she's 54. Because of our custody schedules, we only get the chance 2-3 days a week, but we always have sex on those days. It's easily the best I've had. Really strong chemistry plus much more comfort, openness, communication than ever before. And she's hot and more confident sexually than most of my prior partners.

Same for me, but I'm 48 and she's 55. Older women!

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Anonymous wrote:"could mouth f..k me while fingering at the same time, legs on his shoulders"

Every woman I've been with in my 40s was very into both of these. It's great.

Nah, you are a liar. Almost no man can do this well.

Well maybe none of them would give me an A+ but they sure wanted to do it all the time.

Don't believe that either. Men I dated never heard of that position (mouth f..k and fingering at the same time), and they had dozens of female partners. Women are very conservative in dmv area. Men complained at not ever getting a BJ from their long term GFs (which matches this forum).

So yeah, you are making up stuff about dozens of women all knowledgable and wanting these rare positions that are not even shown as often in common porn

Dozens? It’s three women.

Why are you making up things about me?

It's even less probable, then. Only 3 women you've been with and all were extremely advanced and knowledgable. Total BS

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 50 and she's 54. Because of our custody schedules, we only get the chance 2-3 days a week, but we always have sex on those days. It's easily the best I've had. Really strong chemistry plus much more comfort, openness, communication than ever before. And she's hot and more confident sexually than most of my prior partners.

Same for me, but I'm 48 and she's 55. Older women!

Men need to realize that when a woman really WANTS you the quality of sex is much better. All these large gap relationships between young models and elderly ugly men make me wonder how these women even manager to open their legs with husbands.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 50 and she's 54. Because of our custody schedules, we only get the chance 2-3 days a week, but we always have sex on those days. It's easily the best I've had. Really strong chemistry plus much more comfort, openness, communication than ever before. And she's hot and more confident sexually than most of my prior partners.

Same for me, but I'm 48 and she's 55. Older women!

Me too but I’m 50 (f) and him 42. He’s 6’2 and so handsome. We had sex seven times in two days when we first Got
Together/ just really excellent chemistry (and I’m a woman who loves my body and is comfortable with my sexuality- he’s the same but a man.)

I have three teens and he has three younger kids- I won’t marry (and don’t want to meet his kids, he’s met mine as they’re older) but we have been together for a few years now and it’s so much better than being with my ex who was overweight and addicted to alcohol.

I found dating older men often brought ED issues and I’m in this for sex not marriage so sex is critical to me. Feel like I found what I was looking for and am very happy

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm male in my late 50s. Overall I've had some of the best sex of my life since my marriage broke up. I was already over 50 when that happened.

My ex wife and I had an emotional connection in the early days that made sex incredible a few times, usually after we had a big argument. She wasn't so great in bed in terms of skills, but I loved her very much and that made a difference. I'd still say the very best sexual experiences of my life were with her, but she lost all interest in me after we had kids. We had a sexless marriage by the end.

I've had sex with over a dozen women since my wife and I divorced. I had a few flings and several relationships. Different women were great in different ways. One woman was a genius who instinctively understood my body and always had a sense of exactly what to do and when to do it. A few women were extremely passionate and expressive, without being fake at all, which was very memorable and made me feel good about myself. One woman and I had an amazing connection emotionally and she also was a delicious kisser. A few liked to take off their clothes in front of the window, and one did that on the balcony, which was unbelievably hot. A couple of women really knew how to use their mouths in a way that was very arousing and pleasing (unlike most women, who can't do it in a way that's enjoyable for me even when they are willing). One woman liked to wrap herself around me after we finished so we could sleep in each other's arms, which was a very romantic and emotionally satisfying way to end the evening.

I was really consistent at pleasing some women and couldn't seem to give some of them what they wanted at all. Some said I was like a mind reader and some became very frustrated with me because they didn't like what I was doing. Having over a dozen partners helped me realize that partner compatibility issues are real. It's not all about whether he or she is "good" in bed or "not good" in bed.

None of my relationships lasted more than about a year but, yes, middle aged people can have satisfying sex lives after divorce.

As a woman, I'm still puzzled how my exH was my second partner and he gave me the best sex of my life. Yet, 3 years post divorce and a dozen of partners through, nobody can match that.

Did I just luck out in that area in my 20s with exH, or when you are young, your ability to learn your partner sexually is just so much higher that it sticks for life?
Or the reason for worse sex quality post divorce is overall short duration of all the relationships? Everyone is dating multiple people, partners don't concentrate or get too invested into a specific person, don't stay together long enough to develop a strong sexual connection.

What is the reason?

I'm not an expert in sex or relationshipa, but I'd say the emotional part of sex matters a lot. You probably loved your husband a lot. Also, some people are compatible very quickly (like the first or second time). That's just luck. The women who said I was a mind reader said it after the first night. One of them lives far away but became a long term friend with benefits. One of them said she was scared she was becoming obsessed after one great weekend and never agreed to see me again, although she would send me friendly texts in the middle of the night once in a while.

It's hard to separate love from great chemistry sometimes, but I bet you and your husband had great chemistry and real love.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 50 and she's 54. Because of our custody schedules, we only get the chance 2-3 days a week, but we always have sex on those days. It's easily the best I've had. Really strong chemistry plus much more comfort, openness, communication than ever before. And she's hot and more confident sexually than most of my prior partners.

Same for me, but I'm 48 and she's 55. Older women!

Men need to realize that when a woman really WANTS you the quality of sex is much better. All these large gap relationships between young models and elderly ugly men make me wonder how these women even manager to open their legs with husbands.

Amen!

[Anonymous]

Dating multiple partners makes building trust very hard, but some of the most intense and sincere relationships I've had post divorce were not exclusive. A lot of people can form a really strong emotional connection even though they have trouble with commitment. The lack of commitment may actually make it easier to form the emotional connection for some people. Other people just feel nervous, cold, or angry when the relationship isn't exclusive. A lot of DCUM people think that's nuts, or a lie, but it's true for some people. Obviously the people like that aren't usually a good match for the people who need commitment to be comfortable, sexual, etc.

[Anonymous]

I was 47 and didn’t date for over a year after my divorce. Sex was not a priority as it wasn’t very good with my ex. Then at a conference I met a guy almost ten years younger than me and he was very sweet so I decided to go for it. It was definitely the best sexual experience of my life so I decided that maybe having a sex life would be a good thing. I’m now 53 and it’s been fun!

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Seven times in two days would not have been possible for me at age 22, let alone 62. Good for both of you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dating multiple partners makes building trust very hard, but some of the most intense and sincere relationships I've had post divorce were not exclusive. A lot of people can form a really strong emotional connection even though they have trouble with commitment. The lack of commitment may actually make it easier to form the emotional connection for some people. Other people just feel nervous, cold, or angry when the relationship isn't exclusive. A lot of DCUM people think that's nuts, or a lie, but it's true for some people. Obviously the people like that aren't usually a good match for the people who need commitment to be comfortable, sexual, etc.

As a woman, I found the same. But I can't continue having sex with a man after maybe 3 nights together. When it gets too intense and we "progress" through more intense play, the issue of removing protection and liquids exchange would come up. I just feel frozen and disgusted, can't progress with relationship if I think he might be having unprotected anal with someone when I give him BJ etc. I dumped several men when it got to this stage just stopped seeing them leaving them puzzled as to why. I would never request exclusivity a man should offer that. All I can say I'm no longer comfortable thats all

How do you address this issue sleeping with multiple women?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 50 and she's 54. Because of our custody schedules, we only get the chance 2-3 days a week, but we always have sex on those days. It's easily the best I've had. Really strong chemistry plus much more comfort, openness, communication than ever before. And she's hot and more confident sexually than most of my prior partners.

Same for me, but I'm 48 and she's 55. Older women!

Men need to realize that when a woman really WANTS you the quality of sex is much better. All these large gap relationships between young models and elderly ugly men make me wonder how these women even manager to open their legs with husbands.

Amen!

I've had multiple partners 15-25 years younger. Most of them obviously were extremely attracted to me. There are things that can't be faked. One said she feels more comfortable with older men and doesn't enjoy taking or having sex with men her own age. One lasted only a month and she obviously wasn't very attracted to me or didn't like what I did in bed or something, and we broke up.

There are a lot of women on DCUM who don't get this desire by some younger women who are smart and attractive and professional. These women are not just Only fans models. Not sure why this is so hard to understand.

By the way, some women in the 55-65 range have been pretty awesome too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Dating multiple partners makes building trust very hard, but some of the most intense and sincere relationships I've had post divorce were not exclusive. A lot of people can form a really strong emotional connection even though they have trouble with commitment. The lack of commitment may actually make it easier to form the emotional connection for some people. Other people just feel nervous, cold, or angry when the relationship isn't exclusive. A lot of DCUM people think that's nuts, or a lie, but it's true for some people. Obviously the people like that aren't usually a good match for the people who need commitment to be comfortable, sexual, etc.

As a woman, I found the same. But I can't continue having sex with a man after maybe 3 nights together. When it gets too intense and we "progress" through more intense play, the issue of removing protection and liquids exchange would come up. I just feel frozen and disgusted, can't progress with relationship if I think he might be having unprotected anal with someone when I give him BJ etc. I dumped several men when it got to this stage just stopped seeing them leaving them puzzled as to why. I would never request exclusivity a man should offer that. All I can say I'm no longer comfortable thats all

How do you address this issue sleeping with multiple women?

STD tests. Condom use for a while. Promise of exclusivity prior to going without condims. And honestly, unsafe sex has happened more than once.

You sound prudent, but you also sound like you are a little scared of the emotional connection and potential pain from a breakup as much as STDs. I'm not criticizing you. Your feelings and needs are what they are. There are plenty of women and men like this.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 50 and she's 54. Because of our custody schedules, we only get the chance 2-3 days a week, but we always have sex on those days. It's easily the best I've had. Really strong chemistry plus much more comfort, openness, communication than ever before. And she's hot and more confident sexually than most of my prior partners.

Same for me, but I'm 48 and she's 55. Older women!

Men need to realize that when a woman really WANTS you the quality of sex is much better. All these large gap relationships between young models and elderly ugly men make me wonder how these women even manager to open their legs with husbands.

Amen!

I've had multiple partners 15-25 years younger. Most of them obviously were extremely attracted to me. There are things that can't be faked. One said she feels more comfortable with older men and doesn't enjoy taking or having sex with men her own age. One lasted only a month and she obviously wasn't very attracted to me or didn't like what I did in bed or something, and we broke up.

There are a lot of women on DCUM who don't get this desire by some younger women who are smart and attractive and professional. These women are not just Only fans models. Not sure why this is so hard to understand.

By the way, some women in the 55-65 range have been pretty awesome too.

All the hottest grandpas are on mommy boards on a Sunday afternoon. LOL you don’t seem defensive at all.

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Anonymous wrote:xH is still the best in bed I’ve ever slept with, but he had almost zero interest in sex. So I’ve gone from a 10 every 1-2 months to a 5-8 whenever I want.

I know eventually I’ll find another 10 so just gotta keep test driving new men.

What made xH a 10? Seems like finding someone good shouldn’t be too hard.

Intense physical chemistry plus he did a lot of little things that I loved. I can find good, which is fine, but it’s not as good. And it’s things that are difficult to explain - like how do you explain to a man you want him to look at you a certain way or take off your thong in a very specific way? I’ve tried sending videos with examples of what I want but men rarely follow through.

It’s not BAD sex, but it’s not the level I really want.

Why did you divorce then?

He had almost zero interest in sex with me, tried to cheat on me for years, ADHD, depressed, did nothing at home, spent a bunch of money and racked up debt without me knowing, got angry at me for asking him to do basic things like clean, wanted nothing to do with our family so weekends were me taking the kids out so he could have “alone time” which was really him going out with our neighbor, drug addiction….the list goes on and on.

Zero regrets. I’ll still take my peace and good-not-great sex whenever I want it over a chaotic home with hot sex 4-5 times a year. But, still, sigh. I just want someone to toss me around and call me a good girl.

Can you still see him occasionally just for sex?

When I caught him trying to cheat, it killed all interest I have in him. Sure, he may be good in bed, but I still need an emotional connection and feeling of safety.

This. I may be wrong but I think for most women they need an emotional connection to have sex with someone. For us men it's just coochie. Post but clarity happens within second and we forgot about you until the next time we need it.

Again I am not a woman so I may be wrong.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 50 and she's 54. Because of our custody schedules, we only get the chance 2-3 days a week, but we always have sex on those days. It's easily the best I've had. Really strong chemistry plus much more comfort, openness, communication than ever before. And she's hot and more confident sexually than most of my prior partners.

Same for me, but I'm 48 and she's 55. Older women!

Men need to realize that when a woman really WANTS you the quality of sex is much better. All these large gap relationships between young models and elderly ugly men make me wonder how these women even manager to open their legs with husbands.

Amen!

I've had multiple partners 15-25 years younger. Most of them obviously were extremely attracted to me. There are things that can't be faked. One said she feels more comfortable with older men and doesn't enjoy taking or having sex with men her own age. One lasted only a month and she obviously wasn't very attracted to me or didn't like what I did in bed or something, and we broke up.

There are a lot of women on DCUM who don't get this desire by some younger women who are smart and attractive and professional. These women are not just Only fans models. Not sure why this is so hard to understand.

By the way, some women in the 55-65 range have been pretty awesome too.

All the hottest grandpas are on mommy boards on a Sunday afternoon. LOL you don’t seem defensive at all.

What? I think all the men who have posted here have been late 40s or early 50s. I don't know any men that age who are grandpas.