Divorced dating sex life

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Late 30sF having the best sex of my life post divorce. Been sleeping with an early 40s lawyer for a year and that man takes me universes I cannot even comprehend. It is otherworldly across every metric- physically, emotionally, communication, laughter, intensity,.frequency, openness, respect

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 50 and she's 54. Because of our custody schedules, we only get the chance 2-3 days a week, but we always have sex on those days. It's easily the best I've had. Really strong chemistry plus much more comfort, openness, communication than ever before. And she's hot and more confident sexually than most of my prior partners.

Same for me, but I'm 48 and she's 55. Older women!

Men need to realize that when a woman really WANTS you the quality of sex is much better. All these large gap relationships between young models and elderly ugly men make me wonder how these women even manager to open their legs with husbands.

Amen!

I've had multiple partners 15-25 years younger. Most of them obviously were extremely attracted to me. There are things that can't be faked. One said she feels more comfortable with older men and doesn't enjoy taking or having sex with men her own age. One lasted only a month and she obviously wasn't very attracted to me or didn't like what I did in bed or something, and we broke up.

There are a lot of women on DCUM who don't get this desire by some younger women who are smart and attractive and professional. These women are not just Only fans models. Not sure why this is so hard to understand.

By the way, some women in the 55-65 range have been pretty awesome too.

All the hottest grandpas are on mommy boards on a Sunday afternoon. LOL you don’t seem defensive at all.

What? I think all the men who have posted here have been late 40s or early 50s. I don't know any men that age who are grandpas.

Just going by the fact that he’s old enough to date women 25 years younger than him, who are presumably legal aged, and he sounds like a dolt, took me to grandpa places.

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I think I'm the guy who sounds like a dolt. I'm not a grandfather. I take women to nice restaurants, casual restaurants, theater, live music (rock, pop, classical), parks, ballgames, museums, etc. We also sometimes cook together at home. Sometimes we will go away for a weekend. It's pretty much the same whether the woman is 34 or 63, except different women like different types of food and music. If she's a raver or a mountain climber, we probably aren't a good match.

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Anonymous wrote: I think I'm the guy who sounds like a dolt. I'm not a grandfather. I take women to nice restaurants, casual restaurants, theater, live music (rock, pop, classical), parks, ballgames, museums, etc. We also sometimes cook together at home. Sometimes we will go away for a weekend. It's pretty much the same whether the woman is 34 or 63, except different women like different types of food and music. If she's a raver or a mountain climber, we probably aren't a good match.

How old are you and what’s the youngest you’ve dated?

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I tend to date guys who are recently divorced- It's just the age group I'm in. It's hard because they're never emotionally healthy enough to date, but they like dating me because I have a good social life they can join, and because I like sex. Many divorced couples had a dead bedroom for years, so the idea of regular sex is pretty exciting for them. I'm 53 and my boyfriends are typically mid to late 40's.

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This post is making me feel better! First relationship post-divorce, so much in common, and he is huge, but oh my does he not know what he's doing. 50 and comes at me with adolescent French kissing and pawing, yikes. Such a sweet guy though, we'll work at it.

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Anonymous wrote:What is your sex life like while dating after becoming divorced? And how old are you?

Why do you want to know? Why ask randos who probably are lying and making up things?

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Anonymous wrote:This post is making me feel better! First relationship post-divorce, so much in common, and he is huge, but oh my does he not know what he's doing. 50 and comes at me with adolescent French kissing and pawing, yikes. Such a sweet guy though, we'll work at it.

Just teach him! That is the most fun, if he is willing to learn!

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Anonymous wrote:This post is making me feel better! First relationship post-divorce, so much in common, and he is huge, but oh my does he not know what he's doing. 50 and comes at me with adolescent French kissing and pawing, yikes. Such a sweet guy though, we'll work at it.

Just teach him! That is the most fun, if he is willing to learn!

Ugh, I would not be able to cope with teaching a 50 year old how to kiss let alone more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This post is making me feel better! First relationship post-divorce, so much in common, and he is huge, but oh my does he not know what he's doing. 50 and comes at me with adolescent French kissing and pawing, yikes. Such a sweet guy though, we'll work at it.

What makes it adolescent as opposed to mature French kissing? And what makes it pawing as opposed to, say, caressing? Is he actually unskilled or are you just very particular?

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Anonymous wrote: I think I'm the guy who sounds like a dolt. I'm not a grandfather. I take women to nice restaurants, casual restaurants, theater, live music (rock, pop, classical), parks, ballgames, museums, etc. We also sometimes cook together at home. Sometimes we will go away for a weekend. It's pretty much the same whether the woman is 34 or 63, except different women like different types of food and music. If she's a raver or a mountain climber, we probably aren't a good match.

How old are you and what’s the youngest you’ve dated?

Now I'm in my late 50s. I've been divorced for a while. I've gone on some first dates with women in their 20s but they weren't much fun for anybody. I've been in actual relationships with women in their mid 30s, and one of those lasted for over a year. Women in their 40s seem more compatible emotionally and sexually. Women in their 50s have been really great too. I've been in some relationships with women older than me. The oldest was 63 and she was attractive and sexual but also avoidant.

Physical attraction and emotional compatibility both matter to me. I'm not looking for a new wife but I'm not a one night stand guy either.

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Anonymous wrote:First year was insane (every other week when the kids were with their mom). Howard student, Wash Post Reporter, DOJ attorney, too many lawyers to count, hood chicks, NSA analyst.

Washington is a great city for single men.

Heh their titles mean nothing. They can still carry diseases. You're a doorknob basically.

[Anonymous]

I think women have similar experiences to men, except some of them take a little longer to get started with the wild post-divorce dating and some of them are ready to settle down more quickly. Most of the divorced women I know ended up having some experiences with men who weren't really their type when they were dating before marriage. Younger. Older. Very educated. Barely educated. Richer. Poorer. Darker. Lighter. Foreign. Domestic. Whatever. Lots of divorced women are doing some experimenting too. For women, settling down again can be hard but experimenting is usually easy.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm male in my late 50s. Overall I've had some of the best sex of my life since my marriage broke up. I was already over 50 when that happened.

My ex wife and I had an emotional connection in the early days that made sex incredible a few times, usually after we had a big argument. She wasn't so great in bed in terms of skills, but I loved her very much and that made a difference. I'd still say the very best sexual experiences of my life were with her, but she lost all interest in me after we had kids. We had a sexless marriage by the end.

I've had sex with over a dozen women since my wife and I divorced. I had a few flings and several relationships. Different women were great in different ways. One woman was a genius who instinctively understood my body and always had a sense of exactly what to do and when to do it. A few women were extremely passionate and expressive, without being fake at all, which was very memorable and made me feel good about myself. One woman and I had an amazing connection emotionally and she also was a delicious kisser. A few liked to take off their clothes in front of the window, and one did that on the balcony, which was unbelievably hot. A couple of women really knew how to use their mouths in a way that was very arousing and pleasing (unlike most women, who can't do it in a way that's enjoyable for me even when they are willing). One woman liked to wrap herself around me after we finished so we could sleep in each other's arms, which was a very romantic and emotionally satisfying way to end the evening.

I was really consistent at pleasing some women and couldn't seem to give some of them what they wanted at all. Some said I was like a mind reader and some became very frustrated with me because they didn't like what I was doing. Having over a dozen partners helped me realize that partner compatibility issues are real. It's not all about whether he or she is "good" in bed or "not good" in bed.

None of my relationships lasted more than about a year but, yes, middle aged people can have satisfying sex lives after divorce.

My first post-divorce relationship in the DMV was with a woman who liked to do the same. I had a large glass window facing directly into another apartment building. She’d strip, place her hands up against the glass window, and ask me to penetrate her there. She was great in bed.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm male in my late 50s. Overall I've had some of the best sex of my life since my marriage broke up. I was already over 50 when that happened.

My ex wife and I had an emotional connection in the early days that made sex incredible a few times, usually after we had a big argument. She wasn't so great in bed in terms of skills, but I loved her very much and that made a difference. I'd still say the very best sexual experiences of my life were with her, but she lost all interest in me after we had kids. We had a sexless marriage by the end.

I've had sex with over a dozen women since my wife and I divorced. I had a few flings and several relationships. Different women were great in different ways. One woman was a genius who instinctively understood my body and always had a sense of exactly what to do and when to do it. A few women were extremely passionate and expressive, without being fake at all, which was very memorable and made me feel good about myself. One woman and I had an amazing connection emotionally and she also was a delicious kisser. A few liked to take off their clothes in front of the window, and one did that on the balcony, which was unbelievably hot. A couple of women really knew how to use their mouths in a way that was very arousing and pleasing (unlike most women, who can't do it in a way that's enjoyable for me even when they are willing). One woman liked to wrap herself around me after we finished so we could sleep in each other's arms, which was a very romantic and emotionally satisfying way to end the evening.

I was really consistent at pleasing some women and couldn't seem to give some of them what they wanted at all. Some said I was like a mind reader and some became very frustrated with me because they didn't like what I was doing. Having over a dozen partners helped me realize that partner compatibility issues are real. It's not all about whether he or she is "good" in bed or "not good" in bed.

None of my relationships lasted more than about a year but, yes, middle aged people can have satisfying sex lives after divorce.

My first post-divorce relationship in the DMV was with a woman who liked to do the same. I had a large glass window facing directly into another apartment building. She’d strip, place her hands up against the glass window, and ask me to penetrate her there. She was great in bed.

How old are you / her?