Divorced dating sex life

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Post divorce your sex life should be non existent. you should be looking for someone you want to get married to. You should have sex once you are married.

This is either fake or crazy. No way.

Not crazy for people with morals

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm male in my late 50s. Overall I've had some of the best sex of my life since my marriage broke up. I was already over 50 when that happened.

My ex wife and I had an emotional connection in the early days that made sex incredible a few times, usually after we had a big argument. She wasn't so great in bed in terms of skills, but I loved her very much and that made a difference. I'd still say the very best sexual experiences of my life were with her, but she lost all interest in me after we had kids. We had a sexless marriage by the end.

I've had sex with over a dozen women since my wife and I divorced. I had a few flings and several relationships. Different women were great in different ways. One woman was a genius who instinctively understood my body and always had a sense of exactly what to do and when to do it. A few women were extremely passionate and expressive, without being fake at all, which was very memorable and made me feel good about myself. One woman and I had an amazing connection emotionally and she also was a delicious kisser. A few liked to take off their clothes in front of the window, and one did that on the balcony, which was unbelievably hot. A couple of women really knew how to use their mouths in a way that was very arousing and pleasing (unlike most women, who can't do it in a way that's enjoyable for me even when they are willing). One woman liked to wrap herself around me after we finished so we could sleep in each other's arms, which was a very romantic and emotionally satisfying way to end the evening.

I was really consistent at pleasing some women and couldn't seem to give some of them what they wanted at all. Some said I was like a mind reader and some became very frustrated with me because they didn't like what I was doing. Having over a dozen partners helped me realize that partner compatibility issues are real. It's not all about whether he or she is "good" in bed or "not good" in bed.

None of my relationships lasted more than about a year but, yes, middle aged people can have satisfying sex lives after divorce.

My first post-divorce relationship in the DMV was with a woman who liked to do the same. I had a large glass window facing directly into another apartment building. She’d strip, place her hands up against the glass window, and ask me to penetrate her there. She was great in bed.

How old are you / her?

Mid-50s for both.

[Anonymous]

Loving it. Woman 55

[Anonymous]

None for years. I don’t do apps or make any effort whatsoever. Never.

Married men constantly hit on me. So do much younger men. Pass on both.

Alone is fine!

Female, professional, mid forties.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dating multiple partners makes building trust very hard, but some of the most intense and sincere relationships I've had post divorce were not exclusive. A lot of people can form a really strong emotional connection even though they have trouble with commitment. The lack of commitment may actually make it easier to form the emotional connection for some people. Other people just feel nervous, cold, or angry when the relationship isn't exclusive. A lot of DCUM people think that's nuts, or a lie, but it's true for some people. Obviously the people like that aren't usually a good match for the people who need commitment to be comfortable, sexual, etc.

As a woman, I found the same. But I can't continue having sex with a man after maybe 3 nights together. When it gets too intense and we "progress" through more intense play, the issue of removing protection and liquids exchange would come up. I just feel frozen and disgusted, can't progress with relationship if I think he might be having unprotected anal with someone when I give him BJ etc. I dumped several men when it got to this stage just stopped seeing them leaving them puzzled as to why. I would never request exclusivity a man should offer that. All I can say I'm no longer comfortable thats all

How do you address this issue sleeping with multiple women?

I find the immediate PP's comment really sad. I literally have always used condoms during sex, even in serious relationships, because both for birth control and for STD protection. If some dude is pressuring you not to use condoms during PIV or oral or anal, he's a jerk and he's probably rife with STDs. My MO is that a guy gets tested and shows me the testing, we agree to exclusivity, and then we still continue to use condoms. I'm not putting my health at risk for a man I'm dating. I've never had a guy break up with me for this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm male in my late 50s. Overall I've had some of the best sex of my life since my marriage broke up. I was already over 50 when that happened.

My ex wife and I had an emotional connection in the early days that made sex incredible a few times, usually after we had a big argument. She wasn't so great in bed in terms of skills, but I loved her very much and that made a difference. I'd still say the very best sexual experiences of my life were with her, but she lost all interest in me after we had kids. We had a sexless marriage by the end.

I've had sex with over a dozen women since my wife and I divorced. I had a few flings and several relationships. Different women were great in different ways. One woman was a genius who instinctively understood my body and always had a sense of exactly what to do and when to do it. A few women were extremely passionate and expressive, without being fake at all, which was very memorable and made me feel good about myself. One woman and I had an amazing connection emotionally and she also was a delicious kisser. A few liked to take off their clothes in front of the window, and one did that on the balcony, which was unbelievably hot. A couple of women really knew how to use their mouths in a way that was very arousing and pleasing (unlike most women, who can't do it in a way that's enjoyable for me even when they are willing). One woman liked to wrap herself around me after we finished so we could sleep in each other's arms, which was a very romantic and emotionally satisfying way to end the evening.

I was really consistent at pleasing some women and couldn't seem to give some of them what they wanted at all. Some said I was like a mind reader and some became very frustrated with me because they didn't like what I was doing. Having over a dozen partners helped me realize that partner compatibility issues are real. It's not all about whether he or she is "good" in bed or "not good" in bed.

None of my relationships lasted more than about a year but, yes, middle aged people can have satisfying sex lives after divorce.

My first post-divorce relationship in the DMV was with a woman who liked to do the same. I had a large glass window facing directly into another apartment building. She’d strip, place her hands up against the glass window, and ask me to penetrate her there. She was great in bed.

How old are you / her?

Mid-50s for both.

Should have stayed with her!

[Anonymous]

One thing about exhibitionists is that there's no way to predict who is going to be one. I've slept with at least a half dozen women who love to undress or have sex with lights on and the shades up, or who like to keep the shades down but the window open so people can hear the yelling and groaning, or who like to do stuff in public places like cars or offices. I'm talking lawyer, risk manager, tech company project manager, business school professor, doctor, etc. I'm not an exhibitionist when I'm alone, but this kind of thing can be awesome.

[Anonymous]

And like the other poster, I'm in my 50s and so are some of the women.

[Anonymous]

I dated a divorced medical doctor in MoCo in her 50s who enjoyed wearing short skirts and going out pantyless. Quite the exhibitionist. She’d do most anything. She’s since moved out of the area, unfortunately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I dated a divorced medical doctor in MoCo in her 50s who enjoyed wearing short skirts and going out pantyless. Quite the exhibitionist. She’d do most anything. She’s since moved out of the area, unfortunately.

You’ve gotta let the rest of us know where to find women like this.

[Anonymous]

"You’ve gotta let the rest of us know where to find women like this."

That's the problem! Nobody is going to provide info about this on their eHarmony profile. You have to be willing to explore a relationship with an "old" woman who is 50+, which is apparently something that men who themselves are 50 find repulsive. And her body won't be that of a 25-year-old. She might have some sagging skin around her jawline, heaven forbid!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"You’ve gotta let the rest of us know where to find women like this."

That's the problem! Nobody is going to provide info about this on their eHarmony profile. You have to be willing to explore a relationship with an "old" woman who is 50+, which is apparently something that men who themselves are 50 find repulsive. And her body won't be that of a 25-year-old. She might have some sagging skin around her jawline, heaven forbid!

PP. This is correct.

[Anonymous]

I'm a divorced male age 58 and my sex life has been quite an adventure. I'll keep it simple but the biggest surprise was a woman who was 70-ish who came on to me while we were both at a golf school. She definitely looked younger and she had the sexual energy of someone half her age. I'm not sure anything was off limits and she wore me out as she definitely was not one and done. I think her sexual history was likely quite different from mine!

[Anonymous]

This thread is so sad

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:None for years. I don’t do apps or make any effort whatsoever. Never.

Married men constantly hit on me. So do much younger men. Pass on both.

Alone is fine!

Female, professional, mid forties.

Early 50s professional female. Alone is definitely fine.

Cue the "because you don't have a choice" responses.