Divorced dating sex life

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Anonymous wrote:xH is still the best in bed I’ve ever slept with, but he had almost zero interest in sex. So I’ve gone from a 10 every 1-2 months to a 5-8 whenever I want.

I know eventually I’ll find another 10 so just gotta keep test driving new men.

What made xH a 10? Seems like finding someone good shouldn’t be too hard.

Intense physical chemistry plus he did a lot of little things that I loved. I can find good, which is fine, but it’s not as good. And it’s things that are difficult to explain - like how do you explain to a man you want him to look at you a certain way or take off your thong in a very specific way? I’ve tried sending videos with examples of what I want but men rarely follow through.

It’s not BAD sex, but it’s not the level I really want.

Why did you divorce then?

He had almost zero interest in sex with me, tried to cheat on me for years, ADHD, depressed, did nothing at home, spent a bunch of money and racked up debt without me knowing, got angry at me for asking him to do basic things like clean, wanted nothing to do with our family so weekends were me taking the kids out so he could have “alone time” which was really him going out with our neighbor, drug addiction….the list goes on and on.

Zero regrets. I’ll still take my peace and good-not-great sex whenever I want it over a chaotic home with hot sex 4-5 times a year. But, still, sigh. I just want someone to toss me around and call me a good girl.

Can you still see him occasionally just for sex?

Ew no, god knows what STDs he’s accumulated.

How old are you? Do you date multiple men? Or you just look solely for sex?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:xH is still the best in bed I’ve ever slept with, but he had almost zero interest in sex. So I’ve gone from a 10 every 1-2 months to a 5-8 whenever I want.

I know eventually I’ll find another 10 so just gotta keep test driving new men.

What made xH a 10? Seems like finding someone good shouldn’t be too hard.

Intense physical chemistry plus he did a lot of little things that I loved. I can find good, which is fine, but it’s not as good. And it’s things that are difficult to explain - like how do you explain to a man you want him to look at you a certain way or take off your thong in a very specific way? I’ve tried sending videos with examples of what I want but men rarely follow through.

It’s not BAD sex, but it’s not the level I really want.

Why did you divorce then?

He had almost zero interest in sex with me, tried to cheat on me for years, ADHD, depressed, did nothing at home, spent a bunch of money and racked up debt without me knowing, got angry at me for asking him to do basic things like clean, wanted nothing to do with our family so weekends were me taking the kids out so he could have “alone time” which was really him going out with our neighbor, drug addiction….the list goes on and on.

Zero regrets. I’ll still take my peace and good-not-great sex whenever I want it over a chaotic home with hot sex 4-5 times a year. But, still, sigh. I just want someone to toss me around and call me a good girl.

Can you still see him occasionally just for sex?

Ew no, god knows what STDs he’s accumulated.

Or her, for that matter. No one said you couldn’t practice safely.

[Anonymous]

Post divorce your sex life should be non existent. you should be looking for someone you want to get married to. You should have sex once you are married.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:xH is still the best in bed I’ve ever slept with, but he had almost zero interest in sex. So I’ve gone from a 10 every 1-2 months to a 5-8 whenever I want.

I know eventually I’ll find another 10 so just gotta keep test driving new men.

What made xH a 10? Seems like finding someone good shouldn’t be too hard.

Intense physical chemistry plus he did a lot of little things that I loved. I can find good, which is fine, but it’s not as good. And it’s things that are difficult to explain - like how do you explain to a man you want him to look at you a certain way or take off your thong in a very specific way? I’ve tried sending videos with examples of what I want but men rarely follow through.

It’s not BAD sex, but it’s not the level I really want.

Why did you divorce then?

He had almost zero interest in sex with me, tried to cheat on me for years, ADHD, depressed, did nothing at home, spent a bunch of money and racked up debt without me knowing, got angry at me for asking him to do basic things like clean, wanted nothing to do with our family so weekends were me taking the kids out so he could have “alone time” which was really him going out with our neighbor, drug addiction….the list goes on and on.

Zero regrets. I’ll still take my peace and good-not-great sex whenever I want it over a chaotic home with hot sex 4-5 times a year. But, still, sigh. I just want someone to toss me around and call me a good girl.

Can you still see him occasionally just for sex?

When I caught him trying to cheat, it killed all interest I have in him. Sure, he may be good in bed, but I still need an emotional connection and feeling of safety.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Post divorce your sex life should be non existent. you should be looking for someone you want to get married to. You should have sex once you are married.

Nah, I’ll never get remarried. Too much drama. I like sleeping with someone, then waking up to my peaceful house with no one else in it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Post divorce your sex life should be non existent. you should be looking for someone you want to get married to. You should have sex once you are married.

This is either fake or crazy. No way.

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Anonymous wrote:Post divorce your sex life should be non existent. you should be looking for someone you want to get married to. You should have sex once you are married.

You just said should 3 times. What for? Nobody here has to listen to you.

[Anonymous]

First year was insane (every other week when the kids were with their mom). Howard student, Wash Post Reporter, DOJ attorney, too many lawyers to count, hood chicks, NSA analyst.

Washington is a great city for single men.

[Anonymous]

"could mouth f..k me while fingering at the same time, legs on his shoulders"

Every woman I've been with in my 40s was very into both of these. It's great.

[Anonymous]

I'm male in my late 50s. Overall I've had some of the best sex of my life since my marriage broke up. I was already over 50 when that happened.

My ex wife and I had an emotional connection in the early days that made sex incredible a few times, usually after we had a big argument. She wasn't so great in bed in terms of skills, but I loved her very much and that made a difference. I'd still say the very best sexual experiences of my life were with her, but she lost all interest in me after we had kids. We had a sexless marriage by the end.

I've had sex with over a dozen women since my wife and I divorced. I had a few flings and several relationships. Different women were great in different ways. One woman was a genius who instinctively understood my body and always had a sense of exactly what to do and when to do it. A few women were extremely passionate and expressive, without being fake at all, which was very memorable and made me feel good about myself. One woman and I had an amazing connection emotionally and she also was a delicious kisser. A few liked to take off their clothes in front of the window, and one did that on the balcony, which was unbelievably hot. A couple of women really knew how to use their mouths in a way that was very arousing and pleasing (unlike most women, who can't do it in a way that's enjoyable for me even when they are willing). One woman liked to wrap herself around me after we finished so we could sleep in each other's arms, which was a very romantic and emotionally satisfying way to end the evening.

I was really consistent at pleasing some women and couldn't seem to give some of them what they wanted at all. Some said I was like a mind reader and some became very frustrated with me because they didn't like what I was doing. Having over a dozen partners helped me realize that partner compatibility issues are real. It's not all about whether he or she is "good" in bed or "not good" in bed.

None of my relationships lasted more than about a year but, yes, middle aged people can have satisfying sex lives after divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"could mouth f..k me while fingering at the same time, legs on his shoulders"

Every woman I've been with in my 40s was very into both of these. It's great.

Nah, you are a liar. Almost no man can do this well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm male in my late 50s. Overall I've had some of the best sex of my life since my marriage broke up. I was already over 50 when that happened.

My ex wife and I had an emotional connection in the early days that made sex incredible a few times, usually after we had a big argument. She wasn't so great in bed in terms of skills, but I loved her very much and that made a difference. I'd still say the very best sexual experiences of my life were with her, but she lost all interest in me after we had kids. We had a sexless marriage by the end.

I've had sex with over a dozen women since my wife and I divorced. I had a few flings and several relationships. Different women were great in different ways. One woman was a genius who instinctively understood my body and always had a sense of exactly what to do and when to do it. A few women were extremely passionate and expressive, without being fake at all, which was very memorable and made me feel good about myself. One woman and I had an amazing connection emotionally and she also was a delicious kisser. A few liked to take off their clothes in front of the window, and one did that on the balcony, which was unbelievably hot. A couple of women really knew how to use their mouths in a way that was very arousing and pleasing (unlike most women, who can't do it in a way that's enjoyable for me even when they are willing). One woman liked to wrap herself around me after we finished so we could sleep in each other's arms, which was a very romantic and emotionally satisfying way to end the evening.

I was really consistent at pleasing some women and couldn't seem to give some of them what they wanted at all. Some said I was like a mind reader and some became very frustrated with me because they didn't like what I was doing. Having over a dozen partners helped me realize that partner compatibility issues are real. It's not all about whether he or she is "good" in bed or "not good" in bed.

None of my relationships lasted more than about a year but, yes, middle aged people can have satisfying sex lives after divorce.

As a woman, I'm still puzzled how my exH was my second partner and he gave me the best sex of my life. Yet, 3 years post divorce and a dozen of partners through, nobody can match that.

Did I just luck out in that area in my 20s with exH, or when you are young, your ability to learn your partner sexually is just so much higher that it sticks for life?
Or the reason for worse sex quality post divorce is overall short duration of all the relationships? Everyone is dating multiple people, partners don't concentrate or get too invested into a specific person, don't stay together long enough to develop a strong sexual connection.

What is the reason?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:"could mouth f..k me while fingering at the same time, legs on his shoulders"

Every woman I've been with in my 40s was very into both of these. It's great.

Nah, you are a liar. Almost no man can do this well.

Well maybe none of them would give me an A+ but they sure wanted to do it all the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"could mouth f..k me while fingering at the same time, legs on his shoulders"

Every woman I've been with in my 40s was very into both of these. It's great.

Nah, you are a liar. Almost no man can do this well.

Well maybe none of them would give me an A+ but they sure wanted to do it all the time.

Don't believe that either. Men I dated never heard of that position (mouth f..k and fingering at the same time), and they had dozens of female partners. Women are very conservative in dmv area. Men complained at not ever getting a BJ from their long term GFs (which matches this forum).

So yeah, you are making up stuff about dozens of women all knowledgable and wanting these rare positions that are not even shown as often in common porn

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"could mouth f..k me while fingering at the same time, legs on his shoulders"

Every woman I've been with in my 40s was very into both of these. It's great.

Nah, you are a liar. Almost no man can do this well.

Well maybe none of them would give me an A+ but they sure wanted to do it all the time.

Don't believe that either. Men I dated never heard of that position (mouth f..k and fingering at the same time), and they had dozens of female partners. Women are very conservative in dmv area. Men complained at not ever getting a BJ from their long term GFs (which matches this forum).

So yeah, you are making up stuff about dozens of women all knowledgable and wanting these rare positions that are not even shown as often in common porn

Dozens? It’s three women.

Why are you making up things about me?