Returned Home with Some Disturbing Stories

[Anonymous]

Stop sending her to this camp because next year she will be the one who gets bullied. Bully girl groups always eat their own. And don't let her have a phone. The last thing you want is to get sued because your trash daughter cyberbullies a classmate in the future or something. Honestly, it's not looking good for her future if it is this bad already.

[Anonymous]

I would offer the family of the bullied girl to pay for group counseling so your own daughter can get it off her chest and the bullied girl can get the apologies. Offer to pay for whatever the therapist decides the victim needs before and after the apology therapy session.

[Anonymous]

Have you considered homeschool until she matures enough to be around peers without wishing death upon them?

[Anonymous]

OP if I were you I would be extremely upset with the camp director for not telling you about this.

They let a child be bullied to the point that she had to leave early and then swept it all under the rug, thinking “problem solved.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell your daughter to befriend a quiet girl at school and invite her out to do something.

This will help empower her a bit.

Quiet kids don't need pity or community service friendships.

I’d rather my kid have no friends than ones who are mean.

[Anonymous]

What camp OP? Want to never send my children there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would offer the family of the bullied girl to pay for group counseling so your own daughter can get it off her chest and the bullied girl can get the apologies. Offer to pay for whatever the therapist decides the victim needs before and after the apology therapy session.

This is a ridiculous suggestion. How do you know the other child even lives in the same area?

And don’t dump this on “therapy.” OP and her DH have a responsibility as parents to handle their daughter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would offer the family of the bullied girl to pay for group counseling so your own daughter can get it off her chest and the bullied girl can get the apologies. Offer to pay for whatever the therapist decides the victim needs before and after the apology therapy session.

This is a ridiculous suggestion. How do you know the other child even lives in the same area?

And don’t dump this on “therapy.” OP and her DH have a responsibility as parents to handle their daughter.

Geography is not a limiting factor to what I’m suggesting.
Both girls need support. The victim and the one wracked with guilt. I don’t think parental “handling”, by which I’m guessing you mean punishment, is any more useful to the remorseful than being sent home was to the victim. Now the other bullies who went home carefree without regrets or remorse probably do need some handling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would offer the family of the bullied girl to pay for group counseling so your own daughter can get it off her chest and the bullied girl can get the apologies. Offer to pay for whatever the therapist decides the victim needs before and after the apology therapy session.

This is a ridiculous suggestion. How do you know the other child even lives in the same area?

And don’t dump this on “therapy.” OP and her DH have a responsibility as parents to handle their daughter.

Geography is not a limiting factor to what I’m suggesting.
Both girls need support. The victim and the one wracked with guilt. I don’t think parental “handling”, by which I’m guessing you mean punishment, is any more useful to the remorseful than being sent home was to the victim. Now the other bullies who went home carefree without regrets or remorse probably do need some handling.

OPs daughter is remorseful she got caught. She still needs handled better than whatever was going on to get her to this place to start with.

And leave the victim out of your remorse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would offer the family of the bullied girl to pay for group counseling so your own daughter can get it off her chest and the bullied girl can get the apologies. Offer to pay for whatever the therapist decides the victim needs before and after the apology therapy session.

This is a ridiculous suggestion. How do you know the other child even lives in the same area?

And don’t dump this on “therapy.” OP and her DH have a responsibility as parents to handle their daughter.

Geography is not a limiting factor to what I’m suggesting.
Both girls need support. The victim and the one wracked with guilt. I don’t think parental “handling”, by which I’m guessing you mean punishment, is any more useful to the remorseful than being sent home was to the victim. Now the other bullies who went home carefree without regrets or remorse probably do need some handling.

The one “wracked with guilt,” aka OPs daughter, needs a swift kick to the backside, among other things. She does not need “therapy.” She needs her parents to deal with her so that this never happens again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP if I were you I would be extremely upset with the camp director for not telling you about this.

They let a child be bullied to the point that she had to leave early and then swept it all under the rug, thinking “problem solved.”

Yes, this is problematic. Did the victim and her family not tell the school the details? Sometimes that happens.

Your child's friends are also problematic. I would impress upon her that her friends are a reflection of her choices and morals, and that if they misbehave, she needs to speak up, and if they persist, she should choose other friends.

Please double check all of the information she's telling you before contacting the victim's family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stop sending her to this camp because next year she will be the one who gets bullied. Bully girl groups always eat their own. And don't let her have a phone. The last thing you want is to get sued because your trash daughter cyberbullies a classmate in the future or something. Honestly, it's not looking good for her future if it is this bad already.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At a minimum…your daughter and her friends bullied a girl to the point that the girl left camp and the camp orchestrated a cover up. I don’t see how your daughter can ever go back there—no only because the camp is complicit in the bulling, but also because your daughter could easily be the victim next time.

Also—your daughter needs counseling and to be cut of from her “friends.” Assume that what actually happened and her role in it is far far far worse that what she’s admitting to you. You should be horrified and act accordingly to get her straightened out.

OP's kid does not need "counseling"

They need to be punished ie no camp.

They need to do volunteer work to help others.

They need better parents because this is not a one off. OP's kid went to camp as a bully and badly behaved. This is not a baby this kid is old enough to know better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Also, if you find out more hold them accountable. The Calleva counselors were bullying my son thus sanctioning fellow campers to pile on, and the director was lukewarm about it. The facts were very disturbing and this isn’t a quiet kid. I held the director’s feet to the fire and demanded answers and accountability.

Hold who accountable? OP’s kid was the bully.

I understand that, but she’s willing to find out. She should ask DD and call the camp director for answers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At a minimum…your daughter and her friends bullied a girl to the point that the girl left camp and the camp orchestrated a cover up. I don’t see how your daughter can ever go back there—no only because the camp is complicit in the bulling, but also because your daughter could easily be the victim next time.

Also—your daughter needs counseling and to be cut of from her “friends.” Assume that what actually happened and her role in it is far far far worse that what she’s admitting to you. You should be horrified and act accordingly to get her straightened out.

OP's kid does not need "counseling"

They need to be punished ie no camp.

They need to do volunteer work to help others.

They need better parents because this is not a one off. OP's kid went to camp as a bully and badly behaved. This is not a baby this kid is old enough to know better.

+1. The way some of you abdicate your parental responsibilities by pushing “therapy” is frightening.