Why All The Striver Hate?

[Anonymous]

So, now striver is a racist term. But a type of racism openly allowed on dcum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait, white people are not strivers. It is mainly used for asian gunners. That have immigrant parents that think only USNWR top 20 will do for college.

yes, this is how the word is defined on dcum - Asian immigrants who want to go to top schools, and get high paying jobs. How dare they strive for that.

White people who do the same aren't strivey. No. They are allowed to do this without being labeled because.... they are white, and white people should be the ones who control the wealth and status in this country as they always have. They look down on others who strive to reach the upper echelons.

Rich white people who send their kids to T10 aren't strivey. No. They were just born into it.

Asian immigrants who send their kids to T10 are strivey. They are obvious try hards. /s

So bitter, so wrong.

100% of the kids that my daughter and her friends view as “strivers” are white.

And my daughter is URM and most of her friends are of Indian or Vietnamese heritage.

[Anonymous]

High achievers with a scarcity mindset are strivers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, now striver is a racist term. But a type of racism openly allowed on dcum.

It's white people talking about other white people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The posts on this forum deride many colleges and the kids/families associated for being “striver” in vibe/character. While some of it is true (my kid is at a “striver” U), there’s a reason for that. When you’re the first generation (or person) in your family or community to aspire to a certain band of selective colleges, you’re less likely to have a social circle filled with LAC grads who majored in the humanities. (And no swipe at LAC’s- I attended one and majored in the humanities). I guess I’m seeing it from both sides of the fence…

Because in the US you're taught everyone can succeed if they work hard. Then you dare upset the economic caste system and you're told your not welcome. People want to protect their standing and how dare you come along and threaten it?

[Anonymous]

lol "striver" is not race coded at all; that's dumb

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait, white people are not strivers. It is mainly used for asian gunners. That have immigrant parents that think only USNWR top 20 will do for college.

yes, this is how the word is defined on dcum - Asian immigrants who want to go to top schools, and get high paying jobs. How dare they strive for that.

White people who do the same aren't strivey. No. They are allowed to do this without being labeled because.... they are white, and white people should be the ones who control the wealth and status in this country as they always have. They look down on others who strive to reach the upper echelons.

Rich white people who send their kids to T10 aren't strivey. No. They were just born into it.

Asian immigrants who send their kids to T10 are strivey. They are obvious try hards. /s

So bitter, so wrong.

100% of the kids that my daughter and her friends view as “strivers” are white.

And my daughter is URM and most of her friends are of Indian or Vietnamese heritage.

Learn to read. I said "on dcum". Are your kids and their friends posting a lot on dcum? I don't think so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:lol "striver" is not race coded at all; that's dumb

Please.. on dcum, it's usually used for tiger moms, and on dcum, most people associate tiger moms with Asian immigrant parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe because people who approach everything as a competition are exhausting?

If this is the case how is Emory striver. The environment is collaborative. The truth is the striver comments have everything to do with race. Too many wealthy Asains (and Blacks). I seen the same sentiment with Johns Hopkins.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait, white people are not strivers. It is mainly used for asian gunners. That have immigrant parents that think only USNWR top 20 will do for college.

yes, this is how the word is defined on dcum - Asian immigrants who want to go to top schools, and get high paying jobs. How dare they strive for that.

White people who do the same aren't strivey. No. They are allowed to do this without being labeled because.... they are white, and white people should be the ones who control the wealth and status in this country as they always have. They look down on others who strive to reach the upper echelons.

Rich white people who send their kids to T10 aren't strivey. No. They were just born into it.

Asian immigrants who send their kids to T10 are strivey. They are obvious try hards. /s

So bitter, so wrong.

100% of the kids that my daughter and her friends view as “strivers” are white.

And my daughter is URM and most of her friends are of Indian or Vietnamese heritage.

Also, I'm not bitter because I'm not strivey, neither are my kids, and neither are my parents, who are immigrants.

My parents wanted a comfortable middle class life.

I wanted a comfortable UMC life, which I achieved by hard work and going to a regional B rated state school

My kids want the life we have - UMC and comfortable. They are going to large public state flagship.

But, I don't begrudge people for wanting to strive for T10. Rich, well connected people do it all the time, and no one labels them. Why label immigrants who have the same goals? Typically, the word is used against immigrants who are not white.

So, yes, it is classism and racism.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe because people who approach everything as a competition are exhausting?

If this is the case how is Emory striver. The environment is collaborative. The truth is the striver comments have everything to do with race. Too many wealthy Asains (and Blacks). I seen the same sentiment with Johns Hopkins.

Hopkins used to have the reputation of being brutally competitive, has that changed?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait, white people are not strivers. It is mainly used for asian gunners. That have immigrant parents that think only USNWR top 20 will do for college.

yes, this is how the word is defined on dcum - Asian immigrants who want to go to top schools, and get high paying jobs. How dare they strive for that.

White people who do the same aren't strivey. No. They are allowed to do this without being labeled because.... they are white, and white people should be the ones who control the wealth and status in this country as they always have. They look down on others who strive to reach the upper echelons.

Rich white people who send their kids to T10 aren't strivey. No. They were just born into it.

Asian immigrants who send their kids to T10 are strivey. They are obvious try hards. /s

So bitter, so wrong.

100% of the kids that my daughter and her friends view as “strivers” are white.

And my daughter is URM and most of her friends are of Indian or Vietnamese heritage.

Also, I'm not bitter because I'm not strivey, neither are my kids, and neither are my parents, who are immigrants.

My parents wanted a comfortable middle class life.

I wanted a comfortable UMC life, which I achieved by hard work and going to a regional B rated state school

My kids want the life we have - UMC and comfortable. They are going to large public state flagship.

But, I don't begrudge people for wanting to strive for T10. Rich, well connected people do it all the time, and no one labels them. Why label immigrants who have the same goals? Typically, the word is used against immigrants who are not white.

So, yes, it is classism and racism.

You don't know enough strivers to understand it's not about race.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait, white people are not strivers. It is mainly used for asian gunners. That have immigrant parents that think only USNWR top 20 will do for college.

yes, this is how the word is defined on dcum - Asian immigrants who want to go to top schools, and get high paying jobs. How dare they strive for that.

White people who do the same aren't strivey. No. They are allowed to do this without being labeled because.... they are white, and white people should be the ones who control the wealth and status in this country as they always have. They look down on others who strive to reach the upper echelons.

Rich white people who send their kids to T10 aren't strivey. No. They were just born into it.

Asian immigrants who send their kids to T10 are strivey. They are obvious try hards. /s

So bitter, so wrong.

100% of the kids that my daughter and her friends view as “strivers” are white.

And my daughter is URM and most of her friends are of Indian or Vietnamese heritage.

Also, I'm not bitter because I'm not strivey, neither are my kids, and neither are my parents, who are immigrants.

My parents wanted a comfortable middle class life.

I wanted a comfortable UMC life, which I achieved by hard work and going to a regional B rated state school

My kids want the life we have - UMC and comfortable. They are going to large public state flagship.

But, I don't begrudge people for wanting to strive for T10. Rich, well connected people do it all the time, and no one labels them. Why label immigrants who have the same goals? Typically, the word is used against immigrants who are not white.

So, yes, it is classism and racism.

You don't know enough strivers to understand it's not about race.

oh, so then it's about class.

How do you think most people in the upper class go to where they are? Because most were strivey.

What makes one strivey, then?

If a LMC parent wants their kid to go to a T10 to be able to become UMC is that strivey? Most on DCUM think it's great to uplift LMC to UMC.

But if an UMC immigrant parent wants their kids to strive for a T10, that is strivey (negative connotation) because why? They are being uppity to try to get more?

If a rich person wants their kids to go to a T10 and uses family money or legacy, that's just normal, and "keeping it in the family", and "it creates a tight knit community feel in the college", ie, we don't want outside strivers.

Given that most Asian immigrants have no connections, family money, legacy in T10, how else are they supposed to help their kids get into a T10? Oh, they shouldn't.. they are being strivey, right?

Seems a bit racist to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait, white people are not strivers. It is mainly used for asian gunners. That have immigrant parents that think only USNWR top 20 will do for college.

yes, this is how the word is defined on dcum - Asian immigrants who want to go to top schools, and get high paying jobs. How dare they strive for that.

White people who do the same aren't strivey. No. They are allowed to do this without being labeled because.... they are white, and white people should be the ones who control the wealth and status in this country as they always have. They look down on others who strive to reach the upper echelons.

Rich white people who send their kids to T10 aren't strivey. No. They were just born into it.

Asian immigrants who send their kids to T10 are strivey. They are obvious try hards. /s

So bitter, so wrong.

100% of the kids that my daughter and her friends view as “strivers” are white.

And my daughter is URM and most of her friends are of Indian or Vietnamese heritage.

Learn to read. I said "on dcum". Are your kids and their friends posting a lot on dcum? I don't think so.

Wow. Incredibly bitter.

You think my kid and her friends are the only ones who use the term this way, despite the dozen or so posts on this thread (on DCUM!) saying the same thing?

Chill out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait, white people are not strivers. It is mainly used for asian gunners. That have immigrant parents that think only USNWR top 20 will do for college.

yes, this is how the word is defined on dcum - Asian immigrants who want to go to top schools, and get high paying jobs. How dare they strive for that.

White people who do the same aren't strivey. No. They are allowed to do this without being labeled because.... they are white, and white people should be the ones who control the wealth and status in this country as they always have. They look down on others who strive to reach the upper echelons.

Rich white people who send their kids to T10 aren't strivey. No. They were just born into it.

Asian immigrants who send their kids to T10 are strivey. They are obvious try hards. /s

So bitter, so wrong.

100% of the kids that my daughter and her friends view as “strivers” are white.

And my daughter is URM and most of her friends are of Indian or Vietnamese heritage.

Also, I'm not bitter because I'm not strivey, neither are my kids, and neither are my parents, who are immigrants.

My parents wanted a comfortable middle class life.

I wanted a comfortable UMC life, which I achieved by hard work and going to a regional B rated state school

My kids want the life we have - UMC and comfortable. They are going to large public state flagship.

But, I don't begrudge people for wanting to strive for T10. Rich, well connected people do it all the time, and no one labels them. Why label immigrants who have the same goals? Typically, the word is used against immigrants who are not white.

So, yes, it is classism and racism.

My experience is totally different.

I hear the term most often wrt to conduct, irrespective of race, class or ethnicity.

Every poster on this board who asks about college prestige (is Columbia more prestigious than U Chicago???) is for sure a striver.