Why All The Striver Hate?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Truth to both sides here.

On one hand, hard work and ambition should be applauded. Unfortunately, there’s definitely a classist/envious group of people that hate seeing others succeed.

On the other hand, some “strivers” and their parents take it to unhealthy and unpleasant extremes (as a PP mentioned). So there’s a subset of strivers and their families that merit criticism.

Truth on both sides here.

#1 description isn’t a striver

If it’s health it’s not a “striver”

[Anonymous]

Are these schools striver schools?
Johns Hopkins
Rice
Stern
Cornell.

[Anonymous]

That's also not how my kids use it - "striver" is not just high achieving, but high achieving at the expense of others. It's intend to convey that the culture/person is opportunistic, fake, cutthroat, and status-oriented to the exclusion of other values. Examples of "striver" behavior include befriending or dating people because they or their parents can hook you up with internships, clubs, or influential people. This is why kids are so cagey about where they are applying to college - at certain high schools, other students will call college admissions offices and spread disinformation about others in an effort to sabotage.

[Anonymous]

It would appear that people have decided striver = machiavellian.

I guess the latter is too clumsy to write out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The people spewing the striver stuff are classist. Ignore them.

We live in a wealthy neighborhood and there definitely is a subset of snobby adult rich children who are very average/below average. I am sure these are the type of people who look down on people they call strivers. These rich adult kids are average looks, average academics, average everything and then marry someone just like them and then have average kids with rich grandparents who pay for their private schools. We are surrounded by these type of people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The people spewing the striver stuff are classist. Ignore them.

They are afraid of the competition. Hard-working poors are a threat to their status.

This is incorrect with 100% certainty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That's also not how my kids use it - "striver" is not just high achieving, but high achieving at the expense of others. It's intend to convey that the culture/person is opportunistic, fake, cutthroat, and status-oriented to the exclusion of other values. Examples of "striver" behavior include befriending or dating people because they or their parents can hook you up with internships, clubs, or influential people. This is why kids are so cagey about where they are applying to college - at certain high schools, other students will call college admissions offices and spread disinformation about others in an effort to sabotage.

I am pretty sure you don’t understand the term. The one you described is psychopath, not a striver.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The people spewing the striver stuff are classist. Ignore them.

We live in a wealthy neighborhood and there definitely is a subset of snobby adult rich children who are very average/below average. I am sure these are the type of people who look down on people they call strivers. These rich adult kids are average looks, average academics, average everything and then marry someone just like them and then have average kids with rich grandparents who pay for their private schools. We are surrounded by these type of people.

Yes, the people around you have been calling you names.

[Anonymous]

Wait, white people are not strivers. It is mainly used for asian gunners. That have immigrant parents that think only USNWR top 20 will do for college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The people spewing the striver stuff are classist. Ignore them.

We live in a wealthy neighborhood and there definitely is a subset of snobby adult rich children who are very average/below average. I am sure these are the type of people who look down on people they call strivers. These rich adult kids are average looks, average academics, average everything and then marry someone just like them and then have average kids with rich grandparents who pay for their private schools. We are surrounded by these type of people.

They will be the future peasants as Darwinian pull continues unabated
( 1980- 2020 ) era has come to end …

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That's also not how my kids use it - "striver" is not just high achieving, but high achieving at the expense of others. It's intend to convey that the culture/person is opportunistic, fake, cutthroat, and status-oriented to the exclusion of other values. Examples of "striver" behavior include befriending or dating people because they or their parents can hook you up with internships, clubs, or influential people. This is why kids are so cagey about where they are applying to college - at certain high schools, other students will call college admissions offices and spread disinformation about others in an effort to sabotage.

I am pretty sure you don’t understand the term. The one you described is psychopath, not a striver.

DP.

I’m pretty sure that you don’t understand that words can have different connotations to different people.

See, eg, “Zionist”.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The people spewing the striver stuff are classist. Ignore them.

We live in a wealthy neighborhood and there definitely is a subset of snobby adult rich children who are very average/below average. I am sure these are the type of people who look down on people they call strivers. These rich adult kids are average looks, average academics, average everything and then marry someone just like them and then have average kids with rich grandparents who pay for their private schools. We are surrounded by these type of people.

They will be the future peasants as Darwinian pull continues unabated
( 1980- 2020 ) era has come to end …

I have a few friends who married into these families. The adult rich sons are basically given allowances. The rich grandmother has to die for the rich son’s dad to inherit and they likely won’t get real money until their parents die too. They act snobby, but they are controlled by their parents and grandparents even though they are adults themselves with children. Seems like an awful way to live.

[Anonymous]

They are lazy average to below average dumb people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are these schools striver schools?
Johns Hopkins
Rice
Stern
Cornell.

and rest of all the elite/semi-elite schools.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait, white people are not strivers. It is mainly used for asian gunners. That have immigrant parents that think only USNWR top 20 will do for college.

yes, this is how the word is defined on dcum - Asian immigrants who want to go to top schools, and get high paying jobs. How dare they strive for that.

White people who do the same aren't strivey. No. They are allowed to do this without being labeled because.... they are white, and white people should be the ones who control the wealth and status in this country as they always have. They look down on others who strive to reach the upper echelons.

Rich white people who send their kids to T10 aren't strivey. No. They were just born into it.

Asian immigrants who send their kids to T10 are strivey. They are obvious try hards. /s