Why All The Striver Hate?
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Anonymous
| The posts on this forum deride many colleges and the kids/families associated for being “striver” in vibe/character. While some of it is true (my kid is at a “striver” U), there’s a reason for that. When you’re the first generation (or person) in your family or community to aspire to a certain band of selective colleges, you’re less likely to have a social circle filled with LAC grads who majored in the humanities. (And no swipe at LAC’s- I attended one and majored in the humanities). I guess I’m seeing it from both sides of the fence… |
Anonymous
| The people spewing the striver stuff are classist. Ignore them. |
Anonymous
They are afraid of the competition. Hard-working poors are a threat to their status. |
Anonymous
Maybe afraid, maybe just find it unpleasant and unnecessary. The kids who are always demanding to know what you got on X test, or on the SATs, or on the AP tests annoy the hell out of one of my kids. He always does great and he doesn’t care how the other kids do. |
Anonymous
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Truth to both sides here.
On one hand, hard work and ambition should be applauded. Unfortunately, there’s definitely a classist/envious group of people that hate seeing others succeed. On the other hand, some “strivers” and their parents take it to unhealthy and unpleasant extremes (as a PP mentioned). So there’s a subset of strivers and their families that merit criticism. Truth on both sides here. |
Anonymous
| Maybe because people who approach everything as a competition are exhausting? |
Anonymous
| This forum is mostly made up of strivers in denial, so their disdain is actually quite ironic |
Anonymous
Omfg yes why why why just brag to your parents, your dog or with a higher power. Leave your peers alone. |
Anonymous
| Strivers is code for URM, immigrant or FGLI. That is why UMC use the word. It is more polite. |
Anonymous
| Can someone provide a list of striver schools? I am always confused. |
Anonymous
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The word has been co-opted to be a negative thing even though the most successful people struggle with how to make sure their own children exhibit a "striver" mentality.
On DCUM, ambitious is somehow different and more laudable than striver...while in the real world, they are one and the same. |
Anonymous
What??? Not the way my teens use it. And at that there very diverse high school it is used much more to describe the white, high SES kids. It just means the kid who stress over the top about having the perfect grades, most extracurriculars, best recs, high test scores and spend all of high school focusing on that so that they get into that elite college. None of my kids wanted to go to a school full of stressed out people like that! |
Anonymous
No. I think DCUM uses it for offspring of tech immigrants and Asian kids (two overlaps quite a bit), often associated with high stats. Not for URM and FGLI, they have other codes for them. |
Anonymous
This |
Anonymous
According to your definition, every ivy is a striver school? |