Getting over affair where terrible things were said about you

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you write about this over and over and over again, and I recognize your posts and story every time. Jeff even wrote about you being a lost soul. Why do you do this to yourself?

DP. Even if that's the case, maybe having a bit of sympathy would be wise? if she's making the same post repeatedly she's probably attempting to process things and make a wise choice, and still somewhat traumatized by what happens. Try some empathy- your life will improve, I promise.

These are both OP. At some point, womem need to take responsibility for their own happiness. You cannot tether yourself to someone who abused you horrifically and expect things to not haunt you. I am honestly sick of women doing this to themselves.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/105/1176795.page#26549738

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1138007.page

What's your point? And what about asking for advice from other women suggests OP is not "taking responsibility for their own happiness"? Sounds like OP is doing exactly that and trying to get her thoughts together regarding a massive betrayal and potential life change (divorce)

Again, please work on your own empathy. You being triggered by "women doing this to themselves" shouldnt be OP's problem.

You say "again" as if anyone didn't hear you the first time and as we have a responsibility to do a darn thing you say? We don't. You demand "show empathy" is coming from a place of arrogance and contempt anyway--you just want us to agree with your perspective and you obscure the nature of your opinion by calling it empathetic. No, it is just what you think and want.

You can do whatever you want, engage in whatever hostile and antisocial behavior you want, and yes, get called out. Are you embarrassed and angry now because you realize what an a-hole you sound like?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You will never move forward until you are able to forgive

I think they fabricate lies to make the spouse the villain and it helps justify what they are doing

This was my thought. He may even have tried to convince himself in order to “justify” to himself what he was doing. But for me it might depend on what exactly he was saying.

OP, do you think he could chest again? Have you both gotten to the root of the problem that led to the affair?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you write about this over and over and over again, and I recognize your posts and story every time. Jeff even wrote about you being a lost soul. Why do you do this to yourself?

DP. Even if that's the case, maybe having a bit of sympathy would be wise? if she's making the same post repeatedly she's probably attempting to process things and make a wise choice, and still somewhat traumatized by what happens. Try some empathy- your life will improve, I promise.

These are both OP. At some point, womem need to take responsibility for their own happiness. You cannot tether yourself to someone who abused you horrifically and expect things to not haunt you. I am honestly sick of women doing this to themselves.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/105/1176795.page#26549738

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1138007.page

What's your point? And what about asking for advice from other women suggests OP is not "taking responsibility for their own happiness"? Sounds like OP is doing exactly that and trying to get her thoughts together regarding a massive betrayal and potential life change (divorce)

Again, please work on your own empathy. You being triggered by "women doing this to themselves" shouldnt be OP's problem.

DP. I don’t think it’s particularly supportive, kind, or good for the universe to provide OP advice on how she can stay in situation that is clearly awful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you write about this over and over and over again, and I recognize your posts and story every time. Jeff even wrote about you being a lost soul. Why do you do this to yourself?

DP. Even if that's the case, maybe having a bit of sympathy would be wise? if she's making the same post repeatedly she's probably attempting to process things and make a wise choice, and still somewhat traumatized by what happens. Try some empathy- your life will improve, I promise.

These are both OP. At some point, womem need to take responsibility for their own happiness. You cannot tether yourself to someone who abused you horrifically and expect things to not haunt you. I am honestly sick of women doing this to themselves.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/105/1176795.page#26549738

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1138007.page

What's your point? And what about asking for advice from other women suggests OP is not "taking responsibility for their own happiness"? Sounds like OP is doing exactly that and trying to get her thoughts together regarding a massive betrayal and potential life change (divorce)

Again, please work on your own empathy. You being triggered by "women doing this to themselves" shouldnt be OP's problem.

DP. I don’t think it’s particularly supportive, kind, or good for the universe to provide OP advice on how she can stay in situation that is clearly awful.

I definitely dont think OP should, and in fact advised her to leave. But shaming her for "making another post" when OP is clearly attempting to get some clarity and thinking through her situation is really quite cruel and unhelpful. And yes, lacking in empathy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you write about this over and over and over again, and I recognize your posts and story every time. Jeff even wrote about you being a lost soul. Why do you do this to yourself?

DP. Even if that's the case, maybe having a bit of sympathy would be wise? if she's making the same post repeatedly she's probably attempting to process things and make a wise choice, and still somewhat traumatized by what happens. Try some empathy- your life will improve, I promise.

These are both OP. At some point, womem need to take responsibility for their own happiness. You cannot tether yourself to someone who abused you horrifically and expect things to not haunt you. I am honestly sick of women doing this to themselves.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/105/1176795.page#26549738

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1138007.page

What's your point? And what about asking for advice from other women suggests OP is not "taking responsibility for their own happiness"? Sounds like OP is doing exactly that and trying to get her thoughts together regarding a massive betrayal and potential life change (divorce)

Again, please work on your own empathy. You being triggered by "women doing this to themselves" shouldnt be OP's problem.

DP. I don’t think it’s particularly supportive, kind, or good for the universe to provide OP advice on how she can stay in situation that is clearly awful.

I definitely dont think OP should, and in fact advised her to leave. But shaming her for "making another post" when OP is clearly attempting to get some clarity and thinking through her situation is really quite cruel and unhelpful. And yes, lacking in empathy.

I don’t know at all that she’s attempting to get some clarity and thinking through her situation. Seems just as likely she had a bad couple days with her DH or her memories and needs a quick dopamine hit from the internet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you write about this over and over and over again, and I recognize your posts and story every time. Jeff even wrote about you being a lost soul. Why do you do this to yourself?

DP. Even if that's the case, maybe having a bit of sympathy would be wise? if she's making the same post repeatedly she's probably attempting to process things and make a wise choice, and still somewhat traumatized by what happens. Try some empathy- your life will improve, I promise.

These are both OP. At some point, womem need to take responsibility for their own happiness. You cannot tether yourself to someone who abused you horrifically and expect things to not haunt you. I am honestly sick of women doing this to themselves.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/105/1176795.page#26549738

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1138007.page

What's your point? And what about asking for advice from other women suggests OP is not "taking responsibility for their own happiness"? Sounds like OP is doing exactly that and trying to get her thoughts together regarding a massive betrayal and potential life change (divorce)

Again, please work on your own empathy. You being triggered by "women doing this to themselves" shouldnt be OP's problem.

DP. I don’t think it’s particularly supportive, kind, or good for the universe to provide OP advice on how she can stay in situation that is clearly awful.

I definitely dont think OP should, and in fact advised her to leave. But shaming her for "making another post" when OP is clearly attempting to get some clarity and thinking through her situation is really quite cruel and unhelpful. And yes, lacking in empathy.

I don’t know at all that she’s attempting to get some clarity and thinking through her situation. Seems just as likely she had a bad couple days with her DH or her memories and needs a quick dopamine hit from the internet.

That seems like a deeply uncharitable and harsh interpretation of OP's post. You may try to unpack why you have such a hostile reaction to a woman seeking advice on an advice forum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you write about this over and over and over again, and I recognize your posts and story every time. Jeff even wrote about you being a lost soul. Why do you do this to yourself?

DP. Even if that's the case, maybe having a bit of sympathy would be wise? if she's making the same post repeatedly she's probably attempting to process things and make a wise choice, and still somewhat traumatized by what happens. Try some empathy- your life will improve, I promise.

These are both OP. At some point, womem need to take responsibility for their own happiness. You cannot tether yourself to someone who abused you horrifically and expect things to not haunt you. I am honestly sick of women doing this to themselves.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/105/1176795.page#26549738

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1138007.page

What's your point? And what about asking for advice from other women suggests OP is not "taking responsibility for their own happiness"? Sounds like OP is doing exactly that and trying to get her thoughts together regarding a massive betrayal and potential life change (divorce)

Again, please work on your own empathy. You being triggered by "women doing this to themselves" shouldnt be OP's problem.

You say "again" as if anyone didn't hear you the first time and as we have a responsibility to do a darn thing you say? We don't. You demand "show empathy" is coming from a place of arrogance and contempt anyway--you just want us to agree with your perspective and you obscure the nature of your opinion by calling it empathetic. No, it is just what you think and want.

You can do whatever you want, engage in whatever hostile and antisocial behavior you want, and yes, get called out. Are you embarrassed and angry now because you realize what an a-hole you sound like?

What do you think? Do you think this post changed my perspective of myself?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you write about this over and over and over again, and I recognize your posts and story every time. Jeff even wrote about you being a lost soul. Why do you do this to yourself?

DP. Even if that's the case, maybe having a bit of sympathy would be wise? if she's making the same post repeatedly she's probably attempting to process things and make a wise choice, and still somewhat traumatized by what happens. Try some empathy- your life will improve, I promise.

These are both OP. At some point, womem need to take responsibility for their own happiness. You cannot tether yourself to someone who abused you horrifically and expect things to not haunt you. I am honestly sick of women doing this to themselves.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/105/1176795.page#26549738

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1138007.page

What's your point? And what about asking for advice from other women suggests OP is not "taking responsibility for their own happiness"? Sounds like OP is doing exactly that and trying to get her thoughts together regarding a massive betrayal and potential life change (divorce)

Again, please work on your own empathy. You being triggered by "women doing this to themselves" shouldnt be OP's problem.

DP. I don’t think it’s particularly supportive, kind, or good for the universe to provide OP advice on how she can stay in situation that is clearly awful.

I definitely dont think OP should, and in fact advised her to leave. But shaming her for "making another post" when OP is clearly attempting to get some clarity and thinking through her situation is really quite cruel and unhelpful. And yes, lacking in empathy.

I don’t know at all that she’s attempting to get some clarity and thinking through her situation. Seems just as likely she had a bad couple days with her DH or her memories and needs a quick dopamine hit from the internet.

That seems like a deeply uncharitable and harsh interpretation of OP's post. You may try to unpack why you have such a hostile reaction to a woman seeking advice on an advice forum.

No.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you write about this over and over and over again, and I recognize your posts and story every time. Jeff even wrote about you being a lost soul. Why do you do this to yourself?

DP. Even if that's the case, maybe having a bit of sympathy would be wise? if she's making the same post repeatedly she's probably attempting to process things and make a wise choice, and still somewhat traumatized by what happens. Try some empathy- your life will improve, I promise.

These are both OP. At some point, womem need to take responsibility for their own happiness. You cannot tether yourself to someone who abused you horrifically and expect things to not haunt you. I am honestly sick of women doing this to themselves.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/105/1176795.page#26549738

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1138007.page

What's your point? And what about asking for advice from other women suggests OP is not "taking responsibility for their own happiness"? Sounds like OP is doing exactly that and trying to get her thoughts together regarding a massive betrayal and potential life change (divorce)

Again, please work on your own empathy. You being triggered by "women doing this to themselves" shouldnt be OP's problem.

You say "again" as if anyone didn't hear you the first time and as we have a responsibility to do a darn thing you say? We don't. You demand "show empathy" is coming from a place of arrogance and contempt anyway--you just want us to agree with your perspective and you obscure the nature of your opinion by calling it empathetic. No, it is just what you think and want.

You can do whatever you want, engage in whatever hostile and antisocial behavior you want, and yes, get called out. Are you embarrassed and angry now because you realize what an a-hole you sound like?

What do you think? Do you think this post changed my perspective of myself?

I think so, and I think that's why you're so upset, because you realize you sound like a really bad person and that conjures up shame and anger in you. Hence the hostility.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you write about this over and over and over again, and I recognize your posts and story every time. Jeff even wrote about you being a lost soul. Why do you do this to yourself?

DP. Even if that's the case, maybe having a bit of sympathy would be wise? if she's making the same post repeatedly she's probably attempting to process things and make a wise choice, and still somewhat traumatized by what happens. Try some empathy- your life will improve, I promise.

These are both OP. At some point, womem need to take responsibility for their own happiness. You cannot tether yourself to someone who abused you horrifically and expect things to not haunt you. I am honestly sick of women doing this to themselves.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/105/1176795.page#26549738

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1138007.page

What's your point? And what about asking for advice from other women suggests OP is not "taking responsibility for their own happiness"? Sounds like OP is doing exactly that and trying to get her thoughts together regarding a massive betrayal and potential life change (divorce)

Again, please work on your own empathy. You being triggered by "women doing this to themselves" shouldnt be OP's problem.

DP. I don’t think it’s particularly supportive, kind, or good for the universe to provide OP advice on how she can stay in situation that is clearly awful.

I definitely dont think OP should, and in fact advised her to leave. But shaming her for "making another post" when OP is clearly attempting to get some clarity and thinking through her situation is really quite cruel and unhelpful. And yes, lacking in empathy.

I don’t know at all that she’s attempting to get some clarity and thinking through her situation. Seems just as likely she had a bad couple days with her DH or her memories and needs a quick dopamine hit from the internet.

That seems like a deeply uncharitable and harsh interpretation of OP's post. You may try to unpack why you have such a hostile reaction to a woman seeking advice on an advice forum.

No.

Suit yourself, and continue alienating yourself and making yourself look bad. Your karma/life experiences will be your reward.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you write about this over and over and over again, and I recognize your posts and story every time. Jeff even wrote about you being a lost soul. Why do you do this to yourself?

DP. Even if that's the case, maybe having a bit of sympathy would be wise? if she's making the same post repeatedly she's probably attempting to process things and make a wise choice, and still somewhat traumatized by what happens. Try some empathy- your life will improve, I promise.

These are both OP. At some point, womem need to take responsibility for their own happiness. You cannot tether yourself to someone who abused you horrifically and expect things to not haunt you. I am honestly sick of women doing this to themselves.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/105/1176795.page#26549738

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1138007.page

What's your point? And what about asking for advice from other women suggests OP is not "taking responsibility for their own happiness"? Sounds like OP is doing exactly that and trying to get her thoughts together regarding a massive betrayal and potential life change (divorce)

Again, please work on your own empathy. You being triggered by "women doing this to themselves" shouldnt be OP's problem.

You say "again" as if anyone didn't hear you the first time and as we have a responsibility to do a darn thing you say? We don't. You demand "show empathy" is coming from a place of arrogance and contempt anyway--you just want us to agree with your perspective and you obscure the nature of your opinion by calling it empathetic. No, it is just what you think and want.

You can do whatever you want, engage in whatever hostile and antisocial behavior you want, and yes, get called out. Are you embarrassed and angry now because you realize what an a-hole you sound like?

What do you think? Do you think this post changed my perspective of myself?

I think so, and I think that's why you're so upset, because you realize you sound like a really bad person and that conjures up shame and anger in you. Hence the hostility.

No.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you write about this over and over and over again, and I recognize your posts and story every time. Jeff even wrote about you being a lost soul. Why do you do this to yourself?

DP. Even if that's the case, maybe having a bit of sympathy would be wise? if she's making the same post repeatedly she's probably attempting to process things and make a wise choice, and still somewhat traumatized by what happens. Try some empathy- your life will improve, I promise.

These are both OP. At some point, womem need to take responsibility for their own happiness. You cannot tether yourself to someone who abused you horrifically and expect things to not haunt you. I am honestly sick of women doing this to themselves.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/105/1176795.page#26549738

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1138007.page

What's your point? And what about asking for advice from other women suggests OP is not "taking responsibility for their own happiness"? Sounds like OP is doing exactly that and trying to get her thoughts together regarding a massive betrayal and potential life change (divorce)

Again, please work on your own empathy. You being triggered by "women doing this to themselves" shouldnt be OP's problem.

DP. I don’t think it’s particularly supportive, kind, or good for the universe to provide OP advice on how she can stay in situation that is clearly awful.

I definitely dont think OP should, and in fact advised her to leave. But shaming her for "making another post" when OP is clearly attempting to get some clarity and thinking through her situation is really quite cruel and unhelpful. And yes, lacking in empathy.

I don’t know at all that she’s attempting to get some clarity and thinking through her situation. Seems just as likely she had a bad couple days with her DH or her memories and needs a quick dopamine hit from the internet.

That seems like a deeply uncharitable and harsh interpretation of OP's post. You may try to unpack why you have such a hostile reaction to a woman seeking advice on an advice forum.

If you think my post was “deeply uncharitable and harsh,” I’d suggest you stop reading DCUM, otherwise you are in for a rude awakening.

As my “hostile” reaction, nothing about my post was “hostile.” You might want to unpack why you would hang out here if you are so fragile.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you write about this over and over and over again, and I recognize your posts and story every time. Jeff even wrote about you being a lost soul. Why do you do this to yourself?

DP. Even if that's the case, maybe having a bit of sympathy would be wise? if she's making the same post repeatedly she's probably attempting to process things and make a wise choice, and still somewhat traumatized by what happens. Try some empathy- your life will improve, I promise.

These are both OP. At some point, womem need to take responsibility for their own happiness. You cannot tether yourself to someone who abused you horrifically and expect things to not haunt you. I am honestly sick of women doing this to themselves.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/105/1176795.page#26549738

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1138007.page

What's your point? And what about asking for advice from other women suggests OP is not "taking responsibility for their own happiness"? Sounds like OP is doing exactly that and trying to get her thoughts together regarding a massive betrayal and potential life change (divorce)

Again, please work on your own empathy. You being triggered by "women doing this to themselves" shouldnt be OP's problem.

DP. I don’t think it’s particularly supportive, kind, or good for the universe to provide OP advice on how she can stay in situation that is clearly awful.

I definitely dont think OP should, and in fact advised her to leave. But shaming her for "making another post" when OP is clearly attempting to get some clarity and thinking through her situation is really quite cruel and unhelpful. And yes, lacking in empathy.

I don’t know at all that she’s attempting to get some clarity and thinking through her situation. Seems just as likely she had a bad couple days with her DH or her memories and needs a quick dopamine hit from the internet.

That seems like a deeply uncharitable and harsh interpretation of OP's post. You may try to unpack why you have such a hostile reaction to a woman seeking advice on an advice forum.

No.

Suit yourself, and continue alienating yourself and making yourself look bad. Your karma/life experiences will be your reward.

Inaccurate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you write about this over and over and over again, and I recognize your posts and story every time. Jeff even wrote about you being a lost soul. Why do you do this to yourself?

DP. Even if that's the case, maybe having a bit of sympathy would be wise? if she's making the same post repeatedly she's probably attempting to process things and make a wise choice, and still somewhat traumatized by what happens. Try some empathy- your life will improve, I promise.

These are both OP. At some point, womem need to take responsibility for their own happiness. You cannot tether yourself to someone who abused you horrifically and expect things to not haunt you. I am honestly sick of women doing this to themselves.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/105/1176795.page#26549738

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1138007.page

What's your point? And what about asking for advice from other women suggests OP is not "taking responsibility for their own happiness"? Sounds like OP is doing exactly that and trying to get her thoughts together regarding a massive betrayal and potential life change (divorce)

Again, please work on your own empathy. You being triggered by "women doing this to themselves" shouldnt be OP's problem.

DP. I don’t think it’s particularly supportive, kind, or good for the universe to provide OP advice on how she can stay in situation that is clearly awful.

I definitely dont think OP should, and in fact advised her to leave. But shaming her for "making another post" when OP is clearly attempting to get some clarity and thinking through her situation is really quite cruel and unhelpful. And yes, lacking in empathy.

I don’t know at all that she’s attempting to get some clarity and thinking through her situation. Seems just as likely she had a bad couple days with her DH or her memories and needs a quick dopamine hit from the internet.

That seems like a deeply uncharitable and harsh interpretation of OP's post. You may try to unpack why you have such a hostile reaction to a woman seeking advice on an advice forum.

No.

Suit yourself, and continue alienating yourself and making yourself look bad. Your karma/life experiences will be your reward.

Are you OP? I can’t imagine anyone else having such a strong reaction.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you write about this over and over and over again, and I recognize your posts and story every time. Jeff even wrote about you being a lost soul. Why do you do this to yourself?

DP. Even if that's the case, maybe having a bit of sympathy would be wise? if she's making the same post repeatedly she's probably attempting to process things and make a wise choice, and still somewhat traumatized by what happens. Try some empathy- your life will improve, I promise.

These are both OP. At some point, womem need to take responsibility for their own happiness. You cannot tether yourself to someone who abused you horrifically and expect things to not haunt you. I am honestly sick of women doing this to themselves.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/105/1176795.page#26549738

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1138007.page

What's your point? And what about asking for advice from other women suggests OP is not "taking responsibility for their own happiness"? Sounds like OP is doing exactly that and trying to get her thoughts together regarding a massive betrayal and potential life change (divorce)

Again, please work on your own empathy. You being triggered by "women doing this to themselves" shouldnt be OP's problem.

DP. I don’t think it’s particularly supportive, kind, or good for the universe to provide OP advice on how she can stay in situation that is clearly awful.

I definitely dont think OP should, and in fact advised her to leave. But shaming her for "making another post" when OP is clearly attempting to get some clarity and thinking through her situation is really quite cruel and unhelpful. And yes, lacking in empathy.

I don’t know at all that she’s attempting to get some clarity and thinking through her situation. Seems just as likely she had a bad couple days with her DH or her memories and needs a quick dopamine hit from the internet.

That seems like a deeply uncharitable and harsh interpretation of OP's post. You may try to unpack why you have such a hostile reaction to a woman seeking advice on an advice forum.

If you think my post was “deeply uncharitable and harsh,” I’d suggest you stop reading DCUM, otherwise you are in for a rude awakening.

As my “hostile” reaction, nothing about my post was “hostile.” You might want to unpack why you would hang out here if you are so fragile.

Nope.