Menage melange for the man of age. |
The fear coming off of the wives posting on this thread is palpable, lol. Probably SAHMs terrified of losing their meal ticket. |
+1000 He wants OP to keep doing the wife stuff that makes his life easier and doesn't want to blow things up because of his kids, but he'll continue to chase younger APs and be smart enough not to end up on a "video melange" again, lol. |
+1 if they were together she wouldn’t make a post about it. She did it to trigger a response from you. Just ignore her. |
OP you seem deeply in denial. |
what would you say? to who would you say it? |
I would raise this with my DH in counseling & I think it's on him to help mitigate the emotional impact on you of this happening. All the people saying to just move on & pretend you didn't see it - that's not something I would do if I were in marriage counseling with my DH over his affair. Either you two are in this together, fighting for you marriage, and you can speak candidly about the tough stuff you are going through, or not. |
Make an OnlyFans and send your husband videos of you having sex with other men. Only fair you get to have some fun too. |
Speaking of, back when AM was in the news years ago it was reported that only a few zip codes in the entire country had no members. Think about that and let it sink in…only a few areas in the country had no members. Someone who worked for the site stated that the most of the women who joined were not married. Just further proof that all men are cheaters. |
This affair just happened (2023 ended 6 days ago) and you're already in a good place? |
That or fock his brother, friend or coworker. |
That’s a bit misleading. Back then women didn’t have to “sign up”. They also didn’t have to pay to use the site which is why no women were implicated. There are tons of women users. Anecdotally, the two divorced I know of- the wives were AM users having affairs. |
And what does that say about the single women that joined to bang married men (and find themselves a husband). Not exactly a great look for them either, especially given the glut of OLD services available. |
OP - I’m rooting for you b/c you’ve been very honest w/your thoughts/feelings. And you come back to answer questions. And I get why you might come here b/c you can’t confide 100% with your family/friends. Your experience is unique on this board b/c you have financial independence and are (or are about to be) an empty nester. You don’t HAVE to stay in this marriage. Yet you say you are doing so b/c you still love DH and want to work on your marriage. Which is why I’m rooting for you b/c it’s a decent thing to want to do.
HOWEVER, there is this undercurrent in your posts that leads me to get the sense you are staying/working on the marriage for a different reason. It seems you may be staying b/c you don’t want the OW to end up with your DH. This concerns me b/c the OW who’s social media you are still somehow looking at is not going to be the NEXT OW. Your DH is reeling from the discovery of his affair right now and trying to atone with you and his kids. He’s not going to get back w/the OW. He’s a wounded, humiliated man and you are holding all the cards.How long will he be able to play that role? And do you really want to play the role you’ve now been cast in? Your lives are about to change w/your kids leaving home. It sounds like you could have a great co-parenting life ahead as exes. Stop focusing on the OW. It’s distracting you from figuring out what YOU want/deserve. |
The height of evil to cheat and pretend to reconcile in order to hide money. Courts don’t look fondly at that so I hope your friends husband was caught. |