How to date a fitness woman?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Early 30s guy here dating a early-mid 20s girl. She’s great. Beautiful, interesting smart etc. but she’s more the “alternative” type. Vapes, weed, etc.

I on the other hand don’t do those things and work out daily/run/yoga. It’s easy to be hot at 24….but without discipline/a regimen, not so much at 35…so I am concerned about her future.

I’ve tried to go on dates with more “fitness/wellness” types - you know, the Pilates/yoga/run club (some combo of that daily) , more basic….but seem to get no interest from that crowd.

My assumption is while I am fit I’m not fit enough for them or I’m not rich enough for that crowd.

Thoughts?

Running and yoga don't build muscle mass. You need to include resistance training in your regimen. I'd skip the yoga entirely actually.

I wouldn't be concerned about your girlfriend's future, I'd be concerned about her present. Why are you dating someone who vapes and does lots of weed which is clearly incompatible with your own lifestyle choices?

Dating is kind of a crapshoot. As uncomfortable as it may seem, if you are looking for a serious and potential life partner, you can't keep wasting time with people who you clearly know are incompatible with you. That can be for any reason, doesn't have to be just physical or lifestyle things.

I'm guessing by now in your early to mid 30's, you probably have a pattern of getting into relationships with people who are incompatible for one reason or another, and maintaining them for too long because that seems preferable to possibly being alone.

You need to decide what you actually want in life and in a relationship and figure out how to get that. That will require making some compromises. If you are interested in super fit gym girls, dropping the yoga and starting to do serious resistance training like machines or free weights or at least very persistent body weight exercises is a no brainer. So dropping the yoga is a fairly easy compromise. You're probably doing the yoga because you think it makes you more "woke" and more progressive and hence more attractive to heterosexual women.

False it does not. Women are repelled by men who do yoga, assuming the only reason you're in the yoga class is to creep on the women. It also doesn't build muscle mass which you probably desparately need based on your comments suggesting that you aren't in the best of shape. (If so it's not because your 35, it's because you don't work out the right way. DROP. THE. YOGA.)

Figure out who you are as a person, what you want in a serious partner, and make the sacrifices you will need to make to try to make yourself as desirable as possible to a person you find desirable. Please note--while physical attraction is a must, a long-lasting relationship requires a lot more intangibles. For example--what kind of person, man or woman, spends a lot of time doing weed and vaping? A LOSER who is probably lacking in direction and motivation and is going pretty much nowhere in their lives. (Which may be why she is satisfied to be with you currently. Sorry it's true though right?)

You can't control who likes you, so no guarantee that some imaginary super fit girl will be interested in you. Get yourself into better shape and see what happens.

As to your current gf, be honest with her--tell her the truth, you don't feel comfortable being in a relationship with someone who excessively uses weed or vapes. You want to get serious (but maybe not with her?) but not if she's going to use weed and vape all the time. Most likely she will tell you to eff off. But maybe not. Maybe NO ONE has EVER told her to her face that she does too much weed and vapes too much. Why don't you try it, see what the response is. At a minimum you need to practice activities which will grow hair on your testicles. You have to ask for what you want in a relationship or you will have no prayer of ever getting it.

Also, NO YOGA.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Early 30s guy here dating a early-mid 20s girl. She’s great. Beautiful, interesting smart etc. but she’s more the “alternative” type. Vapes, weed, etc.

I on the other hand don’t do those things and work out daily/run/yoga. It’s easy to be hot at 24….but without discipline/a regimen, not so much at 35…so I am concerned about her future.

I’ve tried to go on dates with more “fitness/wellness” types - you know, the Pilates/yoga/run club (some combo of that daily) , more basic….but seem to get no interest from that crowd.

My assumption is while I am fit I’m not fit enough for them or I’m not rich enough for that crowd.

Thoughts?

Running and yoga don't build muscle mass. You need to include resistance training in your regimen. I'd skip the yoga entirely actually.

I wouldn't be concerned about your girlfriend's future, I'd be concerned about her present. Why are you dating someone who vapes and does lots of weed which is clearly incompatible with your own lifestyle choices?

Dating is kind of a crapshoot. As uncomfortable as it may seem, if you are looking for a serious and potential life partner, you can't keep wasting time with people who you clearly know are incompatible with you. That can be for any reason, doesn't have to be just physical or lifestyle things.

I'm guessing by now in your early to mid 30's, you probably have a pattern of getting into relationships with people who are incompatible for one reason or another, and maintaining them for too long because that seems preferable to possibly being alone.

You need to decide what you actually want in life and in a relationship and figure out how to get that. That will require making some compromises. If you are interested in super fit gym girls, dropping the yoga and starting to do serious resistance training like machines or free weights or at least very persistent body weight exercises is a no brainer. So dropping the yoga is a fairly easy compromise. You're probably doing the yoga because you think it makes you more "woke" and more progressive and hence more attractive to heterosexual women.

False it does not. Women are repelled by men who do yoga, assuming the only reason you're in the yoga class is to creep on the women. It also doesn't build muscle mass which you probably desparately need based on your comments suggesting that you aren't in the best of shape. (If so it's not because your 35, it's because you don't work out the right way. DROP. THE. YOGA.)

Figure out who you are as a person, what you want in a serious partner, and make the sacrifices you will need to make to try to make yourself as desirable as possible to a person you find desirable. Please note--while physical attraction is a must, a long-lasting relationship requires a lot more intangibles. For example--what kind of person, man or woman, spends a lot of time doing weed and vaping? A LOSER who is probably lacking in direction and motivation and is going pretty much nowhere in their lives. (Which may be why she is satisfied to be with you currently. Sorry it's true though right?)

You can't control who likes you, so no guarantee that some imaginary super fit girl will be interested in you. Get yourself into better shape and see what happens.

As to your current gf, be honest with her--tell her the truth, you don't feel comfortable being in a relationship with someone who excessively uses weed or vapes. You want to get serious (but maybe not with her?) but not if she's going to use weed and vape all the time. Most likely she will tell you to eff off. But maybe not. Maybe NO ONE has EVER told her to her face that she does too much weed and vapes too much. Why don't you try it, see what the response is. At a minimum you need to practice activities which will grow hair on your testicles. You have to ask for what you want in a relationship or you will have no prayer of ever getting it.

Also, NO YOGA.

Please take this entire screed to a therapist. You are clearly unwell.

Also? Lay off the broculture, Tate-tainted manosphere logic. It's woman-repellent, in case you hadn't already figured that out from your (in)experience.

[Anonymous]

Well...except he's right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well...except he's right.

Women here and I agree. Too many words but the right spirit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Early 30s guy here dating a early-mid 20s girl. She’s great. Beautiful, interesting smart etc. but she’s more the “alternative” type. Vapes, weed, etc.

I on the other hand don’t do those things and work out daily/run/yoga. It’s easy to be hot at 24….but without discipline/a regimen, not so much at 35…so I am concerned about her future.

I’ve tried to go on dates with more “fitness/wellness” types - you know, the Pilates/yoga/run club (some combo of that daily) , more basic….but seem to get no interest from that crowd.

My assumption is while I am fit I’m not fit enough for them or I’m not rich enough for that crowd.

Thoughts?

Are you handsome? Being fit is not enough, especially if you do yoga which is such a turnoff. Of course the girls interested in you smoke pot, you are doing hippie activities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Early 30s guy here dating a early-mid 20s girl. She’s great. Beautiful, interesting smart etc. but she’s more the “alternative” type. Vapes, weed, etc.

I on the other hand don’t do those things and work out daily/run/yoga. It’s easy to be hot at 24….but without discipline/a regimen, not so much at 35…so I am concerned about her future.

I’ve tried to go on dates with more “fitness/wellness” types - you know, the Pilates/yoga/run club (some combo of that daily) , more basic….but seem to get no interest from that crowd.

My assumption is while I am fit I’m not fit enough for them or I’m not rich enough for that crowd.

Thoughts?

Don't pay any attention to these comments. You'll find a woman that's much younger with similar qualities you have. It just takes time and you have a lot of time. It will happen. Keep the hope.

[Anonymous]

I'd be very into a lean, muscular guy who practices yoga as long as he's otherwise attractive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why aren’t you dating girls your age.

The fitness types are neurotic. You don’t wanna date them.

Biologically men should date women around 10-15 years younger. It's Nature.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Early 30s guy here dating a early-mid 20s girl. She’s great. Beautiful, interesting smart etc. but she’s more the “alternative” type. Vapes, weed, etc.

I on the other hand don’t do those things and work out daily/run/yoga. It’s easy to be hot at 24….but without discipline/a regimen, not so much at 35…so I am concerned about her future.

I’ve tried to go on dates with more “fitness/wellness” types - you know, the Pilates/yoga/run club (some combo of that daily) , more basic….but seem to get no interest from that crowd.

My assumption is while I am fit I’m not fit enough for them or I’m not rich enough for that crowd.

Thoughts?

She's obviously not that smart if she thinks things like vapes and weed are "healthy". Yoga is more for socializing with other women than fitness overall. It's not bad to do, and keeps you flexible, but not really exercise, more like isometric stretching.

If you want to know how she will look as she ages, simply find pics of her mother or visit her parents if the relationship is to that point yet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Date woman of your age that are into your running/yoga lifestyle

Bingo!

[Anonymous]

I really have to question this mid-20s girl you're dating. I find it absolutely gross that she would exploit a man who is TEN YEARS older than her. It's gross. She should stick to dating men her own age! She's taking advantage of you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why aren’t you dating girls your age.

The fitness types are neurotic. You don’t wanna date them.

Biologically men should date women around 10-15 years younger. It's Nature.

This is why young men date toddlers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Early 30s guy here dating a early-mid 20s girl. She’s great. Beautiful, interesting smart etc. but she’s more the “alternative” type. Vapes, weed, etc.

I on the other hand don’t do those things and work out daily/run/yoga. It’s easy to be hot at 24….but without discipline/a regimen, not so much at 35…so I am concerned about her future.

I’ve tried to go on dates with more “fitness/wellness” types - you know, the Pilates/yoga/run club (some combo of that daily) , more basic….but seem to get no interest from that crowd.

My assumption is while I am fit I’m not fit enough for them or I’m not rich enough for that crowd.

Thoughts?

Are you handsome? Being fit is not enough, especially if you do yoga which is such a turnoff. Of course the girls interested in you smoke pot, you are doing hippie activities.

I literally laughed out loud!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd be very into a lean, muscular guy who practices yoga as long as he's otherwise attractive.

i dont do it, but we should all probably be doing yoga a little. I am a the guy you describe but at 52 i wish i was more flexible

[Anonymous]

I am a fitness man and currently dating a "non fitness" woman. I don't seek women based on fitness. My fiancee is insecure about her weight but she is not insecure about our relationship because I love her unconditionally. And she is healthy and happy. Not every person who has a few extra pounds or doesn't go to the gym several times a week is unhealthy. People walk, they go hiking, they move around etc not everyone is interested in having well defined muscles or obsessing over sets/reps, max, protein intake, etc...

Live life. And one final word. You are a loser. I don't even think fitness women would want you cause there is something about you that just come across as off-putting..