How to date a fitness woman?

[Anonymous]

I mean yeah generally if you can’t attract the people you want to attract it is because they want something you don’t have. Whether it’s looks, money, charm, or whatever else, we can’t tell you. Either make yourself better or accept who you are capable of attracting

[Anonymous]

If you’re trying to date women 10 years younger than you in general you also are not going to be able to date the best ones. They are dating good guys closer in age. You might find that you attract better women who are closer to your age.

[Anonymous]

This thread is hilarious. A lot of girls in their 20s aren’t going to have a fitness regimen. I’ve always been thin but didn’t start formally exercising til I got a more sedentary job in my late 20s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread is hilarious. A lot of girls in their 20s aren’t going to have a fitness regimen. I’ve always been thin but didn’t start formally exercising til I got a more sedentary job in my late 20s.

I was the opposite! I played sports in college and was pretty athletic until I started residency, then had babies, and then had no time.

[Anonymous]

If you were a catch, they would be lining up to date you.

[Anonymous]

How much money do you make? And how fit/attractive actually are you? You might not be the package that you think you are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I gently suggest that you stop categorizing people with neat little labels. Each individual is very much their own person. The "fitness" women don't all have the same values, and the "alternative" women don't live alternative lifestyles for the same reasons.

When you start appreciating individuals for who they are, then maybe you'll find someone who will stick around for you. And frankly, you'll never meet someone who has EXACTLY your values and your goals in life. Please don't wait for someone like that to drop into your lap!

My parents are not from the same country, and when they met did not have a common language, religion, culture or cuisine. Yet they were suited for each other. My husband and I have a large age gap, and despite having one language and one culture in common, had very different life experiences before we met. He experienced war and privations as a child. I lived in a safe middle class bubble.

None of this is an impediment to a successful marriage, OP. What you need to find is someone who is willing to adapt and learn - and you should be willing to adapt and learn as well.

Keep trying, with an open mind.

It's a sad day when someone needs to be coached on the internet to see women as people

[Anonymous]

OP, everyone wants to date the Pilates girls in their twenties. If they wanted you, you’d know already. You need to try online dating with broader parameters in terms of age and distance. Lots of mid-thirties women who just realized they’re running out of time. Be sure you mention what you like to do for fitness in your profile. Many fit girls want a guy who is just as fit.

[Anonymous]

Guy here, mid 40s, happily married, not on the market. But I'll say this by way of friendly and sympathetic advice: Your exercise regimen sound like the ideal way for a *woman* to get the body you'd like to date. If you, as a man, have a runner/yoga-guy bod, then yeah, you're gonna have a bad time.

Shift the energy to include weight-lifting. You need to get more muscular. Crossfit is a good plan, plus it is co-ed with lots of fit women.

Ask me how I know? I started working out this way in my early 40s and I get lots of attention from fit women now, and most importantly, my fit wife is more attracted to me physically.

You just need to refocus your energy.

[Anonymous]

OP, start training for a 5k. Now you have something in common with a girl who runs. Enter every race that you can. The girls who run are out…running. Be sure to Google correct form so you don’t mess up your knees.

[Anonymous]

My BIL dated one of these fitness girls. She basically didn’t eat and did yoga and posted online doing yoga in different countries.

I’m 46 and not what I would consider a fitness woman. I still work out 5 days per week. I mean you can easily date someone athletic. Just go running or to a local gym, yoga, solid core, Orangetheory, Pilates, etc etc etc. They are full of women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I gently suggest that you stop categorizing people with neat little labels. Each individual is very much their own person. The "fitness" women don't all have the same values, and the "alternative" women don't live alternative lifestyles for the same reasons.

When you start appreciating individuals for who they are, then maybe you'll find someone who will stick around for you. And frankly, you'll never meet someone who has EXACTLY your values and your goals in life. Please don't wait for someone like that to drop into your lap!

My parents are not from the same country, and when they met did not have a common language, religion, culture or cuisine. Yet they were suited for each other. My husband and I have a large age gap, and despite having one language and one culture in common, had very different life experiences before we met. He experienced war and privations as a child. I lived in a safe middle class bubble.

None of this is an impediment to a successful marriage, OP. What you need to find is someone who is willing to adapt and learn - and you should be willing to adapt and learn as well.

Keep trying, with an open mind.

It's a sad day when someone needs to be coached on the internet to see women as people

But just a regular Thursday, if we’re going to be honest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Early 30s guy here dating a early-mid 20s girl. She’s great. Beautiful, interesting smart etc. but she’s more the “alternative” type. Vapes, weed, etc.

I on the other hand don’t do those things and work out daily/run/yoga. It’s easy to be hot at 24….but without discipline/a regimen, not so much at 35…so I am concerned about her future.

I’ve tried to go on dates with more “fitness/wellness” types - you know, the Pilates/yoga/run club (some combo of that daily) , more basic….but seem to get no interest from that crowd.

My assumption is while I am fit I’m not fit enough for them or I’m not rich enough for that crowd.

Thoughts?

What is it with you health/fitness junkies and your future-tripping? Damn. Buy a date dinner first before you start freaking out about how they'll look in 10 years!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Early 30s guy here dating a early-mid 20s girl. She’s great. Beautiful, interesting smart etc. but she’s more the “alternative” type. Vapes, weed, etc.

I on the other hand don’t do those things and work out daily/run/yoga. It’s easy to be hot at 24….but without discipline/a regimen, not so much at 35…so I am concerned about her future.

I’ve tried to go on dates with more “fitness/wellness” types - you know, the Pilates/yoga/run club (some combo of that daily) , more basic….but seem to get no interest from that crowd.

My assumption is while I am fit I’m not fit enough for them or I’m not rich enough for that crowd.

Thoughts?

What is it with you health/fitness junkies and your future-tripping? Damn. Buy a date dinner first before you start freaking out about how they'll look in 10 years!

"I am concerned about her future" = I'm worried she might get fat.

I'm kinda glad you're not actively trying to connect to her because you don't think you'll like her in 10 years. If you were, I'd be concerned for her future, too.

What a mess! This is the male version of that 'nutritionist' not-dumping her boyfriend earlier in the week because of his diet, innit?

[Anonymous]

LOL at all the
"date someone your own age" responses.

The DCUM children must be on the loose--where are your nannies to supervise you?

Mid-20s/Early 30's = "GASP AGE GAPPPPP!!!"