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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Early 30s guy here dating a early-mid 20s girl. She’s great. Beautiful, interesting smart etc. but she’s more the “alternative” type. Vapes, weed, etc.

I on the other hand don’t do those things and work out daily/run/yoga. It’s easy to be hot at 24….but without discipline/a regimen, not so much at 35…so I am concerned about her future.

I’ve tried to go on dates with more “fitness/wellness” types - you know, the Pilates/yoga/run club (some combo of that daily) , more basic….but seem to get no interest from that crowd.

My assumption is while I am fit I’m not fit enough for them or I’m not rich enough for that crowd.

Thoughts? [/quote]

Running and yoga don't build muscle mass. You need to include resistance training in your regimen.  I'd skip the yoga entirely actually.

I wouldn't be concerned about your girlfriend's future, I'd be concerned about her present.  Why are you dating someone who vapes and does lots of weed which is clearly incompatible with your own lifestyle choices?

Dating is kind of a crapshoot.   As uncomfortable as it may seem, if you are looking for a serious and potential life partner, you can't keep wasting time with people who you clearly know are incompatible with you.  That can be for any reason, doesn't have to be just physical or lifestyle things.

I'm guessing by now in your early to mid 30's, you probably have a pattern of getting into relationships with people who are incompatible for one reason or another, and maintaining them for too long because that seems preferable to possibly being alone.

You need to decide what you actually want in life and in a relationship and figure out how to get that.  That will require making some compromises.  If you are interested in super fit gym girls, dropping the yoga and starting to do serious resistance training like machines or free weights or at least very persistent body weight exercises is a no brainer.  So dropping the yoga is a fairly easy compromise.  You're probably doing the yoga because you think it makes you more "woke" and more progressive and hence more attractive to heterosexual women.

False it does not.  Women are repelled by men who do yoga, assuming the only reason you're in the yoga class is to creep on the women.  It also doesn't build muscle mass which you probably desparately need based on your comments suggesting that you aren't in the best of shape.  (If so it's not because your 35, it's because you don't work out the right way.  DROP.  THE.  YOGA.)

Figure out who you are as a person, what you want in a serious partner, and make the sacrifices you will need to make to try to make yourself as desirable as possible to a person you find desirable.  Please note--while physical attraction is a must, a long-lasting relationship requires a lot more intangibles.   For example--what kind of person, man or woman, spends a lot of time doing weed and vaping?  A LOSER who is probably lacking in direction and motivation and is going pretty much nowhere in their lives.  (Which may be why she is satisfied to be with you currently.  Sorry it's true though right?)

You can't control who likes you, so no guarantee that some imaginary super fit girl will be interested in you.  Get yourself into better shape and see what happens.

As to your current gf, be honest with her--tell her the truth, you don't feel comfortable being in a relationship with someone who excessively uses weed or vapes.  You want to get serious (but maybe not with her?) but not if she's going to use weed and vape all the time.  Most likely she will tell you to eff off.  But maybe not.  Maybe NO ONE has EVER told her to her face that she does too much weed and vapes too much.   Why don't you try it, see what the response is.  At a minimum you need to practice activities which will grow hair on your testicles.   You have to ask for what you want in a relationship or you will have no prayer of ever getting it.

Also, NO YOGA.[/quote]

:shock:  :shock:  :shock:

Please take this entire screed to a therapist. You are clearly unwell.

Also? Lay off the broculture, Tate-tainted manosphere logic. It's woman-repellent, in case you hadn't already figured that out from your (in)experience.[/quote]

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